Sass,
It's very cheap to fly to my city. I've lived here about a year and she has come to visit about 6 times, mostly long weekends. A lot of her family lives here as well so it's just not me and her thank goodness. When I told her about my pregnancy she actually behaved like a normal mother for a while and was not judgmental at all. She was very supportive. It shocked the hell out of me considering the circumstances. At the same time I feel she is being so hypocritcial. My sister got df'd for my same "sin" and here she is being so supportive to me. The only difference is I was never baptized so she can be there for me unlike my sister. Maybe she feels this is her last chance to be a real grandmother. She has alientated my other siblings and she has virtually no contact with my sister kids and my brother supervises her visits since she told his oldest son Santa was fake. My youngest brother does not want kids and he can barely stand her. I have told her that I did not want her witnessing to this baby and not to force my hand like she did my brother.
I think they are dilluted enough to believe that they can get the babys father to be a witness AND maybe they can use him to have more access to the baby by telling him how wonderful their religion is. Moms husband told him about how he is sure he has heard a lot of negative stuff about the witnesses and that if he truly wanted to be objective that he should have a bible study. It took all my strength not to burst out laughing. Truth be told he thinks the witness religion is and I quote rubbish and thinks they are brainwashed and need counseling to get deprogrammed. They are wasting their time but he will have to be the one to tell them where he stands. Right now he is being polite. He feels kind of sorry for them because they are brainwashed but he can only be pushed so far. It worries me that that he feels sorry for them because of their brainwashing. When you feel sorry for someone especially under these circumstances I think it leaves you open to being manipulated. There is some hope though. I think my stepfather has got some con in him and is always starting these side businesses that fail. I am just waiting until he approaches him to fiance some business venture. I cannot wait for the day. When this happens any sympathy he has for him will vanish. I know he is just waiting for the perfect time to ask him and I cannot wait to see what kind of spin he puts on it. If he tries to use the fact they are now "family" into it. I can hardly wait.
I don't like my stepfather. I never have. He dragged me into more than one elders meeting when I was younger and I will never forget that. I only tolerate him because he makes mom happy. I told dad not to worry he will not be playing grandfather to my child.
I have decided to stay put in the US. I am still thinking about spending my maternity leave in London but I have not made a decision on that yet. I spoke to a lawyer and he said I could do it as long as everything was in writing. He said the UK would enforce the custody agreement or not get involved because they would have no jurisdiction. If something had to be hashed out then it would be decided in NV. He has been spending quite a bit of time in the US. Before he said he could only spend a few days at a time but he has been here for several weeks and has been able to run his business long distance. Maybe he is doing a trial run to see if he can run his business from here. He still wants me to move to the UK but has stopped pressuring me.
