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You should have nothing to hide

by Nosferatu in

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"you should have nothing to hide".

for those of you who grew up in the troof, did you get this line from either of your parents?

did you deem this as a valid excuse for your parents to snoop through your things, or did you actually have nothing to hide.. if you were hiding things, tell about them!

unbeliever

Yes I got that line. I was always hiding things. It started out in grade school when I would do holiday art projects. The teachers were really cool and would let me do them even though my mom would always go to the school at the beginning of the year and tell them her beliefs. I could not leave them at school and I would put them in my backpack. I could only see my dad every other weekend so sometimes they would stay in their for a while. Hiding them in my room was too risky. I got caught with a holloween picture once and got my ass chewed out for it. I was about 9 and she went to the elders about it and I got counseled.

When I hit Jr. High and HS I would have to wear these damn ulgy clothes. I would always hide my "immodest" clothes anywhere I could think of and I would change at school. I got caught so many times that it became a joke after a while. I would get dragged in front of the elders again for lying.

When I turned 17 the fun really started. By then I had long since stopped attending meetings but I would sneak out of the house every chance I got. I did not even care care if I got caught then. I could tell my things had been rifled thru while I had been gone. I would confront her and she would say "you're breaking Jehovah's heart".

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Did you want it to be "the truth" or..

by Brummie in

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did you just get the eck out of there and couldnt give two hoots?

or maybe you left and then researched it to confirm your reasons for leaving?

i must have been a real dumb ass cus i held on by the skin of my teeth wanting it to be "the truth", what a twit, did all my research internally and must have spent the last 3 years of being a jw battling against the evidence and getting a bigger headache for it.

unbeliever

I knew it was bunk before I left. One of the benefits of having an unbelieving parent.

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Does Everyone Leave For The Most Noble Of Reasons?

by Englishman in

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some of us left simply because we didn't believe it any more.. some us couldn't stand the hypocrisy.. some of us left so's to have more sex.

some of us saw another light shining brighter.. some of us wanted more material possessions.. some of us needed more control over others than the borg would allow.. what do you think?.

unbeliever

Because of my dad I always knew the jw doctrine were BS so I was never afraid of dying at Armageddon. Leading a double life can get exhausting. I left the first chance I got and have not looked back.

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What was your reputation in the congregation?

by JH in

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so, were you considered spiritual?

were they proud of you?

what was your reputation like in your congregation?.

unbeliever

I've never responded well to people trying to tell me how to live my life so I was looked upon as being very rebellious. Compared to the elders children I was a good kid. I went to school, made the honor roll, and did not have sex or do drugs. The elders kids went to home school and with all that time on their hands did drugs and had sex. They sure were great ass kissers. I guess that was my down fall. Not being an ass kisser.

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Smoker or Non Smoker?

by JH in

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do you smoke?.

would you live with a smoker, if you are non smoker?

i wouldn't be able to smell cigarette smoke at home nor in my car.

unbeliever

I have a no-smoking sign on my front door. My brothers best friend decided to light up anyway. I kicked his ass out of my apartment and told him not to come back until he could learn to read.

Smoking is a major turn off so I would not kiss a guy who smoked.

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JW Family...UPDATE! Please advise!

by Ghost of Esmeralda in

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my ex husband just told me that he will continue to facilitate visitation between my child and my jw family who is shunning me (see my other thread "i didn't think they could find another way to hurt me but...") he says i'm the one with the problem and that i should be "ashamed of myself".

it's not like i thought he'd cooperate, but for him to stand there and tell me that he will allow my sister full access to my child and there's not a damn thing i can do (and probably, legally, that's right) makes my blood boil.

makes me just want to swallow every fricking pill in the house.

unbeliever

How much visitation does he have? Will your daughter have to be exposed to your family all the time? If so, even if you lose in court (very likely) you will have documentation. The more documentation you have to prove that your sister is interfering the better chance you have at a later date to get something done. Usually the first round is lost but I would at least scare the $hit out of them by taking this matter to court.

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How much money would it take for you to go out in service?

by unbeliever in

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say you had to go out in field service for 2 hours in your neighborhood and talk to your neighbors about jehovah.

what would somebody have to pay you to do this or would you not do it for any amount of money?

if i am going to humilate myself it better be worth my while.

unbeliever

purely hypothetical.

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How much money would it take for you to go out in service?

by unbeliever in

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say you had to go out in field service for 2 hours in your neighborhood and talk to your neighbors about jehovah.

what would somebody have to pay you to do this or would you not do it for any amount of money?

if i am going to humilate myself it better be worth my while.

unbeliever

Say you had to go out in field service for 2 hours in your neighborhood and talk to your neighbors about Jehovah. What would somebody have to pay you to do this or would you not do it for any amount of money? Seriously I would not do it for less than $500. If I am going to humilate myself it better be worth my while.

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Anybody here ever go on chaperoned dates?

by unbeliever in

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i use to get the biggest chuckle when the elders insisted that when going out on a date that someone older and mature had to go with you to make sure you don't fornicate.

how imposing!!

i have a friend (did the fade) that was stuck with her brother being the chaperone a couple of times when she was dating her then boyfriend.

unbeliever

I use to get the biggest chuckle when the elders insisted that when going out on a date that someone older and mature had to go with you to make sure you don't fornicate. How imposing!! I have a friend (did the fade) that was stuck with her brother being the chaperone a couple of times when she was dating her then boyfriend. Talk about crazy!!

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OT- Anybody here share joint physical custody?

by unbeliever in

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i am asking this for a friend of mine (not a jw) who does not have computer access at home.

i figured i would ask since there is so many people who post here.. she is going thru a divorce and the judge said they have to share joint legal and physical custody.

they will each get the child 50% of the time.

unbeliever

SixofNine that's true about the weekend thing. I think one week on/off would be the ideal arrangement. Who knows what they will come up with.

wow talley I have never heard of that one. I don't think they can afford that arrangement. It sure would be nice though.

Edited by - unbeliever on 27 January 2003 20:32:30