Posts by GrreatTeacher

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Semi Home Study Based Charter School vs. Regular School

by SonoftheTrinity in

i blame my stepkids bad grades in school squarely on the watchtower.

they don't get enough sleep because of the demands of family bible study and thursday meetings but comprimise isn't in my wife's vocabulary.

my stepson has friends at school but there are also bullies, and the classes are overcrowded with sicknesses spreading through them in a way that is detrimental to the family's health.

GrreatTeacher

SOT, I see what you are saying. Your son is not feeling success in any sphere of his life right now. And that is not good.

I commend you for stepping up. I think it would be great if you could get your wife more interested in her son's education. Some Witness parents are more inclined in this direction because it makes their religion look good when the kids are successful in school. It "gives a good witness." Maybe you could appeal to that sentiment? If you can in any way construe something as being a "good witness," JWs will often come aboard.

If you could find something to do with the boy that will help him feel successful, that would be great. He needs the self-esteem boost right now. Can he work on the cars with you? Or around the house? Or on some computer programming? Something to make him feel competent.

Never underestimate even just shooting hoops with him. It will help him bond with you and let him know that you are in his corner no matter what. That is the factor that really makes the difference in how kids turn out. His life is stressful. Be his rock.

Best of luck,

GreatTeacher

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How to wake up and reverse the trance???

by J-DUBBED in

how do you wake up someone taken from us by these screwed up people?.

our son was hooked by a jw at the age of 25. within 3 months they were married and we never even new about it.

he is now 29 and has nothing to do with his family(except his sister the odd time, when he needs something) of any freinds.. we are lost and have been for four years.. .

GrreatTeacher

JDUBBED, I'm glad you've been able to reestablish some communication with your son.

My advice is to let your grandaughter's birthday pass and then a few weeks later tell your son you found something you knew the little girl would love. Don't even mention anything about a birthday.

Wrap it in some brightly colored paper that doesn't say Happy Birthday or have birthday cake on it.

Just tell the little girl you are giving her a gift because you love her. That shouldn't be objectional to the JW parents.

Best of luck in reestablishing a better relationship with your son and his family.

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Pope thinks hitting children is "Beautiful"

by cofty in

one time, i heard a father in a meeting with married couples say `i sometimes have to smack my children a bit, but never in the face so as to not humiliate them.how beautiful!

he knows the sense of dignity!

he has to punish them but does it justly and moves on.

GrreatTeacher

Just to be clear, when you hit your child in order to get respect, you really aren't getting respect. They don't respect you. You've probably lost respect in their eyes.

They're obeying because youve demonstrated that you are bigger and stronger. That is all. No lesson learned about the appropriateness of certain behavior.

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Semi Home Study Based Charter School vs. Regular School

by SonoftheTrinity in

i blame my stepkids bad grades in school squarely on the watchtower.

they don't get enough sleep because of the demands of family bible study and thursday meetings but comprimise isn't in my wife's vocabulary.

my stepson has friends at school but there are also bullies, and the classes are overcrowded with sicknesses spreading through them in a way that is detrimental to the family's health.

GrreatTeacher

Oubliette, your Algebra I problem is like one we work on as a bonus problem in the 4th grade! Of course, we just solve it without the algebraic equations, but it just goes to show the level of work that is now expected from younger and younger students.

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Semi Home Study Based Charter School vs. Regular School

by SonoftheTrinity in

i blame my stepkids bad grades in school squarely on the watchtower.

they don't get enough sleep because of the demands of family bible study and thursday meetings but comprimise isn't in my wife's vocabulary.

my stepson has friends at school but there are also bullies, and the classes are overcrowded with sicknesses spreading through them in a way that is detrimental to the family's health.

GrreatTeacher

I think supporting your child in the charter school program is going to be harder than you think. My son goes to an excellent public school and it takes a lot of effort to help with math homework, English papers and other long term projects. I can't imagine how much more effort it would take to also have to teach time management and project management and supervise schoolwork those extra days of the week, a lot of that being self-taught by necessity. And I'm a teacher! My son needs the structure of a daily school routine.

That being said, if the child is extraordinarily organized and self-motivated and is not currently having academic difficulties, it could work.

I just remember growing up JW that I was sooo thankful to be able to go to school every day, even with the occasional bully here and there.

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No... I wasn't mind controlled

by Zoos in

thou shalt not stay at a hotel that is not on the rooming list.

work prevented me from attending our assigned district (regional) convention so i arranged my schedule to attend in a different city/weekend.

i know that's not a problem, brothers and sisters do it all the time.

GrreatTeacher

How ridiculous. Maybe they weren't making enough money off of food service anymore. And if they weren't making money, then no one else was making money off of them either.

It's always about money. "Simplification" just means make do with less.

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God does exist here is my nonbiblical reason:

by Curious Kitten in

(before you read i hope no one gets offended by the word retarted...that s how i thought when i was 13)my mom and dad are divorced and my father never helped my mother on raising us, so basically she was a single-mother.

he just abandoned my three brothers and me and my mother had to work two jobs all of the time so we never got to see her.

when we did see her it was after school, but all she did was yell at us, make food, and leave to her next job.

GrreatTeacher

Curious Kitten, I am so glad to hear that you are in college. Excelling academically makes you feel good about yourself and it seems like you need a good dose of that.

I hope you do take up the idea of therapy. It's been helpful to me personally. Sometimes you just need a fresh, logical perspective on your experiences and your behavior to break through to a healthier pattern of living. I know it's hard to change who you have relationships with, but just add one good, genuine, caring person to your life at a time. Eventually they will outnumber the unhealthy ones!

Best of luck to you! I can tell you are going places!

GreatTeacher

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"Whilst the bible is important, the Watchtower is God's main way of communicating with people today"

by stuckinarut2 in

yes, i'm not kidding!.

this gem was stated today in the talk!

(shortly before i walked out).

GrreatTeacher

They slowly heat the water up and figure most frogs won't jump out...until they have blind obedience to a cult...

...but you jumped out early today after that outrageous little dial-up of self-serving nonsense. Good for you!

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No... I wasn't mind controlled

by Zoos in

thou shalt not stay at a hotel that is not on the rooming list.

work prevented me from attending our assigned district (regional) convention so i arranged my schedule to attend in a different city/weekend.

i know that's not a problem, brothers and sisters do it all the time.

GrreatTeacher

The pack your own lunch deal happened after I left. What's the reasoning behind that? And, also then, what do they tell the rank and file?

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No... I wasn't mind controlled

by Zoos in

thou shalt not stay at a hotel that is not on the rooming list.

work prevented me from attending our assigned district (regional) convention so i arranged my schedule to attend in a different city/weekend.

i know that's not a problem, brothers and sisters do it all the time.

GrreatTeacher

I think they get free rooms to use for bethel heavies.

They agree to a room rate for a block of rooms and get a few free.

So, the "discount" rate is not discounted for the room renters. The Org arranges to get so many free rooms instead of passing on the discount to the pubs actually renting the rooms.