Welcome, Wayward. Congratulations on your successful fade.
My story is similar, but my brother and sister are also out. Mom and Dad are the only ones in.
Our issue now is preventing them from indoctrinating their grandchildren.
i just came over from jwr.
a little background: my mom converted to the witnesses when i was five.
i was baptized at 14, was mentally out by 18, and successfully faded by the time i was 25. mom and both my younger sisters and their families are still in.
Welcome, Wayward. Congratulations on your successful fade.
My story is similar, but my brother and sister are also out. Mom and Dad are the only ones in.
Our issue now is preventing them from indoctrinating their grandchildren.
you can all call me jess, i guess you can say i'm a "refugee" from jwr.
i'm going to try and keep this short for now, i'm in my early 20s, i was born in but never baptized, i've been mentally out for 7 years and fully out for about 5ish.
despite never having been baptized my fading took quite a bit of time and work.
Yes, Nathan, thinking of adding the prefix "Notso" to my name. Many regrets over that choice. :)
you can all call me jess, i guess you can say i'm a "refugee" from jwr.
i'm going to try and keep this short for now, i'm in my early 20s, i was born in but never baptized, i've been mentally out for 7 years and fully out for about 5ish.
despite never having been baptized my fading took quite a bit of time and work.
He's being a smartass; you said ask me anything!
But, he's totally harmless and has quite a bit of knowledge. ;)
We have some quirky members here. You'll love meeting all of them.
this week has been a really difficult past couple of days.
waking up to the news on sunday that some jihadist jackass had slaughtered so many of my lgbt brothers and sisters left me reeling and in tears.
we're a community with common cause and a common struggle and it's immensely painful to see the loss of so many young and beautiful lives.
Wow. Thank you for taking the time to write out a very thoughtful post and sharing it with us.
Good on you for standing up to hate and intolerance. I wish you the best of luck on your Sunday protest.
God only knows what draws people to pastors like that. I hope that some of the flock has the courage to walk away from that church and join you on Sunday.
you can all call me jess, i guess you can say i'm a "refugee" from jwr.
i'm going to try and keep this short for now, i'm in my early 20s, i was born in but never baptized, i've been mentally out for 7 years and fully out for about 5ish.
despite never having been baptized my fading took quite a bit of time and work.
Welcome. Similar story with depression and anxiety in adolescence, and finally diagnosed with bipolar disorder in adulthood.
The JWs were not the religion for me!
i just tried to go to the site and there is a goodbye message.
i was a member there since 2010. i was really surprised.
i had just started posting there again after being away for a while.
Welcome to the forum to all those folks who have migrated here from JWR.
We'll offer you our support and look forward to learning from you, too.
I was a member of JWS and felt lost when it closed, but I made my way here and have found a wealth of information and support.
I look forward to hearing from you all!
I know there are 18 year old kids that get kicked out of their homes with no money, no education, not much of a job, no friends, no connections, no soft skills like interactions with non JWs, feeling devastated emotionally and having no place to go.
Yes, those people could be helped by having enough money to find housing and transportation. They would also likely benefit from a social worker who might be able to find funding for these things, and maybe even medical insurance because they'll need lots of therapy to get over the profound and disorienting shock of having one's whole life turned upside down and now there's a new reality with rules and requirements that are unknown and unprepared for.
I think the most important thing would be to find them housing for a few months, to have somewhere safe to start making plans for education and jobs and transportation.
Giving someone 3 months rent seems like a good place to start, then sticking around and helping them navigate the social services system and the college financial aid system and then find a supplemental job.
You see, they would need a mentor/mentee relationship and it would need to last for a significant amount of time, a year or more, I would think.
Is that doable? Maybe. But, it would be like starting a charity, and there are rules regarding that as well. Would you have to do fundraising?
And who gets to apply? Only teenagers being kicked out? Older women facing dissolution of marriages?
And how would you choose? Would you put others on a waiting list?
So many questions. Yes, I see that some people have a definite need for help in the form of money, but what are the details? How do you make it happen?
I think the problem would be determining legitimacy.
We've had some Nigerian "Ex-JWs" who have come on here begging for money. It's pretty distasteful to read, even if you can see right through them.
today my wife showed me the new medical directive and power of attorney form she got at the meeting.
surprisingly she asked if i wanted to fill mine!
i have been inactive for 6 years and i don't go close to any jw gatherings because i don't want friends who only care for me unless i share their beliefs.
It's a phobia. An indoctrinated phobia.
Phobias don't respond to logic or reason.
i saw two brothers this morning next to the main train station in liverpool city centre this morning.
they were not actively approaching anyone.
what i found strange was that they were from a cong that has different territory, so i don't know why they were there.. anyway i knew them both, and they know i was df'd, i was in my car and couldn't park up for a chat, but i did beep and wave to them as i drove passed and they waved back.
"Frozen vegetables." Pretty funny. :)