Posts by GrreatTeacher

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Closer/death/Funerals

by Leela1 in

hello all i am fairly new to this site even though i have been da since i was 16 years old i am now 35 years old.

i have had very little contact with my family since i left maybe a handful of times over the years.

i thought i put the past behind me and moved on i have 4 amazing kids of my own really supportive partner and great friends who have become my family.

You lost your family 20 years ago. Your dad has made no effort to see you and ease his conscience on his death bed because he feels no remorse. You can choose to let it go if you understand forgiveness and closure in this fashion, but you will not get closure from him.

And because of that, when he dies you will suffer complicated grief. You'll mourn the dad that you loved as a small child and you'll mourn the dad that he never was for you as a teenager and an adult.

So, cry and mourn and mourn and cry. Take all the time you need. Probe gently to find out whether your mother was just under his thumb and whether she's willing to start building some type of relationship with you and your kids.

We can't make it better, but we can be here for you, and we will be.

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Had a operation today and was asked about blood transfusions.

by atomant in

operation was successful only minor but some interesting information was revealed to me from the surgeon.l requested that they treat me as if l was a jehovahs witness with regards to blood transfusions.the doctor said well that varies from jw to jw and l asked what do you mean?his response was that in his dealings with jw's was that approx half of witnesses will accept a blood transfusion in life threatening circumstances and sign a form saying so.l was blown away when he told me this.l was curious if others in here have heard similar storys.lt seems to me that many witnesses have weakened their stance on this controversial subject.

GrreatTeacher

Been through this recently with my parents. In my dad's case, they did a separate procedue before the hip surgery, placing a balloon in the leg vein that could be deployed to reduce bloodflow to the hip and thus reduce bleeding.

This kind of sounds good until you realize they did a whole unnecessary procedure and shut off blood flow throughout the whole leg which was entirely unnecessary.

He came through the surgery well and is so sure that he had a greater advantage than other patients, but I don't think so considering a whole extra procedure and its risks.

In my mother's case it was a trauma and she lost a lot of blood. She was extremely weak and it increased her recovery time immensely. The doctors told her this was the result of refusing blood and she was angry with them because she believed the Hospital Liason Committee had a treatment plan that was better. When the doctor told her that those treatments were unsuitable for acute blood loss of trauma, she told them off and thought them to be stupid. She eventually got them to agree to give her iron.

Jws are so uneducated about this and the HLC uses bad science and pushes inapropriate treatment.

But, she left the hospital sure that the JW way was superior.

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How many of you are health nuts?

by Harvard Illiterate 411 in

jw
friends

there was/is a sister in my old hall who was a pharmaceutical sales rep and she was a huge proponent of anything in the drug industry.

when someone had a headache, she was the first to say "take an asprin.

" now my husband and i are what you might call old hippies.

GrreatTeacher

I've found that pharmacists are often better than doctors at catching drug interactions. Polypharmacy is the prescribing of 5 or more drugs. Many seniors take that many. I certainly do. Make sure you always use the same pharmacy so they have a complete record of all of your medications.

Also, I thought antidepressants were not recommended for normal grieving, though talk therapy could be useful.

Believe me, I am not against healthy foods and vitamin supplements. I keep hearing about apple cider vinegar and am interested. I just realize that it's not enough in my case. Even adding talk therapy, which I've done in the past, is not enough. Bipolar disorder is a physical disease of the brain and it requires serious medication.

I'm just glad I was born when I was when we do have treatments. Even 50 years ago, people suffered and they often died.

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Pairing!!!!!

by brandnew in

jw
friends

dangit.......like i gotta cook for this hot chick tonight, ........i rented a suite at the mayaguez beach hotel, and she's totally into me.

i have my jeep....im still sore from my wreck....but dangit...im into this girl and i need y'alls help.

im californian....kinda been in the tropic forrest..bout 2years....and need some southern help.

GrreatTeacher

Oh, don't ask me, I'm not a girly girl, but if you said you had just been in a motorcycle accident and injured your lower back and asked if I'd like to see and then went to drop trow, well, after I stopped laughing with you at such a "slick move," you just might get lucky!

But, that's just me, and I probably don't represent well, so...

I'll just let the normal girls advise...

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How many of you are health nuts?

by Harvard Illiterate 411 in

jw
friends

there was/is a sister in my old hall who was a pharmaceutical sales rep and she was a huge proponent of anything in the drug industry.

when someone had a headache, she was the first to say "take an asprin.

" now my husband and i are what you might call old hippies.

GrreatTeacher

Thank you for the acknowledgement, tal.

One of the biggest difficulties with treating bipolarism or other serious mental health diseases is noncompliance with medication.

And, I understand why; they have undesireable side effects. There have been so many times where the thought of, "I'll just quit my meds for a few weeks and lose a few pounds, even if I go just a little crazy..." has crossed my mind.

But, you never just "go a little crazy," you start tanking really quickly and then you start making bad decisions which, unfortunately, can sometimes include, "I just want to get off of this ride."

Look, I just have to bring it up because mental health diseases are so stigmatized, and there might be (probably are) people on this site that also have a serious mental illness. The worst message they could possibly internalize is that medication is bad. Because, like you said, people die from these illnesses and medication noncompliance is a big reason why.

Carry on!

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How many of you are health nuts?

by Harvard Illiterate 411 in

jw
friends

there was/is a sister in my old hall who was a pharmaceutical sales rep and she was a huge proponent of anything in the drug industry.

when someone had a headache, she was the first to say "take an asprin.

" now my husband and i are what you might call old hippies.

GrreatTeacher

Not sure why there seems to be an underlying assumption that being a health nut and taking medications are incompatible.

Hubby and I have been on a quest to eat more veggies, less meat and take calcium, magnesium and vitamin D.

However, by far, the best thing I do for myself everyday is to take the multiple medications I need to keep my bipolar disorder in remission.

Unfortunately, one of the side effects is weight gain, but when I am noncompliant with my medication, I invariably decompensate. The benefits outweigh the risks.

Stay healthy, everyone!

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Fade Fail: Not as Easy as I'd Like

by Hadriel in

this has been tough.

very tough actually.

because i'm so integrated into things including certain tasks which i can't say as it would be a dead giveaway i find myself constantly bombarded by things.. i'm literally a lying every day.

GrreatTeacher

"the weaponization of family and friends"

That phrase is so appropriate. And so true. It's what they do.

I'm sorry, I know it's tough.

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am i overreacting?

by freeandcontent in

hi, new here but have been lurking for a while.

some background first, i am from the uk, 3rd gen born in, dad, grandad elders etc.

17 years ago i left, no df or da just left, 18 years old and alone but i did it and have had no regrets.

GrreatTeacher

No, you're not overreacting. My parents tried to indoctrinate my son and when he was about 8 years old he came home from an overnight visit, visibly distressed and crying.

He was already seeing a doctor for anxiety (generalized anxiety disorder) and when she heard about this, she forcefully told us not to allow it anymore at all. It was obviously very bad for him.

I had to have a talk with her and didn't allow him to stay overnight again for a long, long time.

I found out she was sneaking behind my back, bought him a suit and took him to the meetings with her! That got stomped on, too, with a request she look into the pedophilia scandal.

The point is, the JWs, even our parents, have no respect for parental authority. They will sneak and lie and think they are doing good.

Please put your foot down now.

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what buzz word from the jw's do you hate & why?

by Sabin in

jw
friends

so my hubby has been on a bit of a roll about the jdubs, we were talking a lot about them & he said the buzz word he hate's the most is "worldly" why?

because he say's "with that one word they have condemned (according to their believes) a person as being worthy of nothing but death.

".

GrreatTeacher

Persons, as in good-hearted persons.

Why can they not just say People?

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Heil Trump. Sieg Heil.

by oppostate in

crowd looking like they're doing the heil hitler salute to trump when he asks for a pledge and swear their support while calling for broadening torture laws.

trump asks backers to swear their support, vows to broaden torture laws.

http://www.cnn.com/2016/03/05/politics/donald-trump-florida-pledge-torture/.

GrreatTeacher

I agree, Juan. Never underestimate the hatred for Hillary. Democrats do it at their own peril.