I'll never forget one of the things that struck me back around 2003, when I first viewed "Witnesses of Jehovah" on Youtube. That was a 1985 documentary about JW's that was produced by Jeremiah Films. Anyway, about half-way thru, the narrators said, "There is no honourable way to leave this religion with your dignity in tact," or something to that affect. It really stuck with me, as did a lot of other info from that documentary. This is a hallmark of CULTS, that of, you are not allowed to leave with honour or dignity. There is NO legitimate reason to leave, so YOU must be at fault somehow, and are deserving of such harsh treatment. It also acts as a deterrent to those still in. I live in south-central Pennsylvania, surrounded by communities of Amish and Old Order Mennonite. I can tell you, they are also huge control freaks who practice such shunning. You are effectively DEAD if you leave the Order. It is really f*cked up, but it helped me to see that JW's aren't the only cruel cult on this planet.