Your wife is fucking another dude, and YOU up and leave the house?
Ummm.....NO!!! I'd be kicking HER dumb ass along with her man-whore right out the door!!!
WTF!!!! Stop being a doormat. Grow a pair and kick these fuckers to the curb!!!!
I'm in PA as well. Don't take this shit. Lawyer up, get print-outs of the texts from the cell phone company, get as much evidence as you can, clean her out. If you don't, she'll use your state of grief right now to CLEAN YOU OUT.
If you desire peace, prepare for war.
Good Luck.