I could never shun anyone, especially if all they did was having a smoking addiction, in fact, I felt like they needed moral support more than anything and would try to be encouraging.
I talked to the elders about my friend's problems with drinking. I really believed it was related to her being sexually molested by her brother-in-law who just happened to still be in good standing although he admitted to raping his own daughter in the past and supposedly got some counsel for it. He said he "didn't remember" any events with my friend. Can you imagine answering accusations like that with, "I don't remember"? She is looked down on because she can't handle her drinking at times and gets depressed and misses meetings, but Mr. Child Molester who likes to rape his own daughter can go out in service, sit at meetings and get treated with respect. Makes me sick. She still attends meetings to appease her family. I did what I could and feel sorry for her, but they've got her deeply brainwashed. If I found out anyone did anything to my children they would wish they were dead.
And yeah, I'm treated worse than a child molester by JW's too since I walked away and disassociated myself. Big deal, they aren't worth the energy.