A long time ago, I thought I had friends, in the borg. But I know now that I never had friends.The few girl friends I believed I had, had their own agenda which did not include me. Once I wanted to pioneer and asked a "friend" from my book study if she'd be my partner. She declined because there was an elder's sister (regular pioneer) who had just re-located from another city and also needed a partner, so my friend chose to be the elder's sister' partner instead. Needless to say, I did not pioneer at all.
Another "friend" had parents who were always on the defensive side, guarding her daughter. Whenever there was a get together and there were single brothers around, her mother always made sure to keep a look on me; watching that I didn't speak too much with these brothers. She'd walk up and join in MY conversations with these brothers, and she'd draw the brother's attention to her daughter instead. One day, my friend got married and that was the end. I never set a foot on my friend's home. We only saw each other in the KH. No gatherings what-so-ever.
Then, there was another friend, from Puerto Rico. I met her at work, when I was single. She was very friendly, but since her husband was an elder and they had no children, he and she were always very busy. After I got married, I invited them for lunch. I told them to come after the meeting and after fs. I had slaved in the kitchen all morning to make sure everything was perfect for them. Well, they were taking so long that I finally called to see what was keeeping them. She answered the phone and told me, oh, no, we cannot come. No explanation at all. Just like that.
Time went by, my husband and I had a child. We went on vacation to Puerto Rico. At that time, my friend was living there (same one who did not come to my invitation). I had called her to tell her I was in San Juan, and that I wanted to come by her town to say hello. She said yes, please come. Well, we drove to her town. It was very far from San Juan. We got there at night, around 9 or 10 pm. We were hungry, especially my son who was four years old. Can you believe that she had not one plate of food ready for us? What's worse, is that in the solitary town she lived, there were no stores to buy any food either. My husband got so pissed at me because he thought I had not let my friend know that we were going there. I told him I did. Since then, he said never again we should count on so called "friends". (And just in case you're wandering, we did have a hotel room in San Juan paid for. We were only trying to stop by to say hello and leave the next morning).
We've experienced many similar situations with the dubs. With worldly people, we do a little bit better. But still, it is rare to find people who are unconditionally friendly.
My blood sister is the only friend I've got.