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I see, you noticed all the holes I was trying to highlight. It just gets confusing to be "no part of the world" and then if you need something the elders can't do, well then its okay to seek a professonal.

I guess my hope would lie in this, if I can find a JW who has studied therapy and councelling, that would be ideal but not likely. lol

Fortunetly though it has been over a year since my boyfriend and I split, and I am coming to terms with it now. This is just something I wish I could have planned in advance, given the circumstance that I came across the truth and fell in love with it.

Your right on the money with your dry well analogy. I feel that with the two meetings so close together, you have your meetings only a day a part so all of your meeting mindset is packed within those three days, and then the rest of the week your left to "dry out" so to speak.

LEW

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I'm a Neutral Jehovah's Witness

by Martini in

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dear brothers and sisters,.

i martini, will confide in you that i have become a neutral jehovah's witness.

i wonder if i'm not coining a new phrase here!.

love_ever_wanting

Hey ÁrbolesdeArabia:

These are some good points, Thank You.

Yes, I understand now how it has been "reduced" so-to-speak" I have heard about how the meetings and conventions used to be, and I would always say, I wish things were still like that.

I want to be going to meetings three times a week, and I want to go to 7 day long conventions. I LOVE the conventions.

Thursday Nights now, as I understand is Family Worship Night, which I do attend with some of my friends. I must say though, there must have been a family dynamic problem within congregations if they had to sacrafice a meeting and designate it as a time that you must have with your family, it is kind of sad in a way, its like we have to be told to spend time with the family.

On the other hand though, when there was three meetings a week, wouldn't it have been a family effort to keep up on material, plus talks in the TMS? Wouldn't that count as family worship? That workload for an individual would be tough, I mean heck, I find it such a load to keep up on the two meetings and my study, but I get through, but it would help if it was a family effort, you tutor eachother, in a nice loving enviorment.

What I was told though, it was to save travel time for those who had a long way to come for the meetings.

And when they explained the whole 30 seconds or less, for a comment, they said it was so that everyone can have a share.

I am starting a prayer chain here, if anyone wants to pray for this too, by all means, but I am going to start praying for the old ways to come back, for more meetings, more conventions, and more days at the conventions. I beleive it would be strenghening to us.

Really if they need to cut anything, it would be the required pioneer hours, just to take the preasure off our pioneers.

LEW

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I am not sure what to do......

by Iamallcool in

let me tell you a very weird story, .

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recently, i met a nice good looking lady that share the same first and last name as that ugly lady.

love_ever_wanting

Yeah Shirly its pretty creepy.

My half sister is married to a guy the same name as her father.

Lamallcool. Ever seen Shallow Hall? lol

I would keep away, because maybe it is the same girl and your just seeing her inner beauty, the curse only lasts so long.

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I'm a Neutral Jehovah's Witness

by Martini in

jw
friends

dear brothers and sisters,.

i martini, will confide in you that i have become a neutral jehovah's witness.

i wonder if i'm not coining a new phrase here!.

love_ever_wanting

So Splash:

What would happen theoretically if you were to ask these things at the Kingdom Hall?

Don't get me wrong, I LOVE the truth and everything, but it just does not sit right with me, if there are certain questions you can't ask. Or even as Martini says their cure all advice for EVERYTHING seems to be "Keep going to the meetings, keep studying, keep active in the ministry, keep praying, keep fellowshipping with wholesome associates"

I had a problem one time pertaining to my ex, he was worldly and I was getting involved with the truth at the same time, so long story short, we broke up. I had approached a few people on this question the sister I am studying and an elder and his wife who are also close friends of mine. And so I asked them "who would I talk to in order to work out these issues?"

So here is what they told me, that they really don't provide any "councelling sessions" about that kind of stuff, or the one to REALLY talk to about my emotions, is Jehovah.

And thats great! I commend the faith for keeping UP the faith in Jehovah. So I said to them, well that is great and everything, but prayer, and repeated advice from the elders is not a cure all remedy.

In fact, I was actually told by the sister I am studying with, that if I need help in the way of councelling to go seek a professional councellor.

Can you see what is wrong with that? a councellor is a worldly person right? And I know that there is NO VALUE WHAT-SO-EVER, in the advice and oppinions of worldly people. So Is giving me the go ahead to seek out a councellor like putting value on his professional advice as a worldly person?

I suppose though, even if you can get an elder to work with you through your problems, it would have to be biblical counsil first, before any kind of Dr Phil Method right?

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Online Dating

by love_ever_wanting in

what does everyone think, is dating avenues really that big of a deal?

i have been told by everyone on my congregation to not trust online dating.

especially if this is supposed to be the "truth".

love_ever_wanting

That is true, you don't know if they are really a JW or not, and then there is that whole scripture about "concealing yourself". But like you should tell by the lingo they use, and also they would be up to date on the WT.

I have nothing against online dating, I am still open to it. Its not my preferable way to meeting people, but I have my own reasons for that.

I have found that you can get a false sense of connection, does that make any sense? So like your chatting it up online and you feel like you are really connected, but then when you meet and or go as far as dating them for a while, the connection is not there in person.

If you meet someone in person and you feel a connection, then its real. Does that make any sense?

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Online Dating

by love_ever_wanting in

what does everyone think, is dating avenues really that big of a deal?

i have been told by everyone on my congregation to not trust online dating.

especially if this is supposed to be the "truth".

love_ever_wanting

What does everyone think, is dating avenues really THAT big of a deal? I have been told by everyone on my congregation to not trust online dating. Okay, well WHY? Especially if this is supposed to be the "truth"

Okay so it makes sense to apply the same common sense rules everyone would apply when socializing or dating online. And I guess, not everyone on this board who says they are a witness may not be a witness.

But that does not mean there can't be sincere witnesses, breaking the "rules" of dating just to expand their options in finding a suitable marraige mate.

Okay so I am just being honest here, I am not an official baptized Jehovah's Witness, I am just a Bible Student, I have been going to the meetings for a year and a half, and looking forward to the summer conventions is the highlight of my life since going to my first ones last year. I haven't got any theocratic privilleges yet.

But I am sincere about the religion, and I am genuinly also looking for that right guy, and I don't know, despite what ever one says is my "better judgement" I kinda feel I might find him online.

I realize though that Because I am not baptized, no one who is baptized is going to touch me with a ten foot poll until I am, but I am just being honest and putting myself out there.

Please give me your feedback on this, and hey, if anyone wants to get to know me better to, I won't complain at that eaither.

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I am not sure what to do......

by Iamallcool in

let me tell you a very weird story, .

.

recently, i met a nice good looking lady that share the same first and last name as that ugly lady.

love_ever_wanting

I guess everyone is different, I wont date guys with the same name as my brothers or sisters, its just too weird, and by brothers and sisters I mean my actual family.

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I'm a Neutral Jehovah's Witness

by Martini in

jw
friends

dear brothers and sisters,.

i martini, will confide in you that i have become a neutral jehovah's witness.

i wonder if i'm not coining a new phrase here!.

love_ever_wanting

Hey All:

I am new here. I was just reading some of these advice posts to Martini's Problem. And Someone said that, "Field Service, Pioneering and the Meetings is what the faith has been reduced to" If thats really the case, explain how. How was it better before.

I am a Bible Student, and I do attend the meetings regularly and I enjoy them and have always felt inspired. Someone said something about someone giving a talk about "cultivating a love and personal relationship with Jehovah" I agree, not much of the type of content in the talks, but I find with the lady I am studying with and all the other friends I have made in my congregation, this is where I am getting my encouragement to cultivate a love for Jehovah, and develope a relationship with him. I get all that outside of the meetings. But I agree, it is long due for a talk about that.

So with that said I have a question for everyone. What do you all think about, doing this here? Communicating online, I mean I understand that you have to be careful of apostasy when you go online, but I don't think its wrong to make friends online, or to even date online as long as your careful, or maybe thats just the worldly part of me reasoning this, all I am saying is, although I am reading stuff on here pertaining to personal issues, I don't beleive its "apostasy" or "going against the organization" I think it is wonderful to have something like this to come together and upbuild on another.

I know that is I mentioned this site to anyone, they would likely say, it is not an official site promoted by Jehovah's Witness's. Has anyone been on jwmatch.com? I am told it is also not an officail dating site for JW, because the organization does not promote dating that way.

Anyways, I digress, I am completly changing topic here, I am just excited and can't wait to make some new friends.

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