Posts by Honey

35

Single DF Sister Looking for Single DF Brother

by Honey in

hi everyone - this is my first time posting to this board.. in any event, i am a newly dfd sister (announcement made about a week ago) who is interested in corresponding with and meeting a dfd brother.

adding to my dilemma is the fact that i plan on returning to the organization which i know is the direct opposite of what some on this board want.

i am african american, 34 years of age and attractive.

Honey

Xander:

Gee, arent you a ray of sunshine!!

I understand that I can be reinstated in 6 months, but that does not eliminate my present

desire to have a relationship with someone and by relationship I am not talking about anything sexual. I also had never heard that DFd people could not associate with one another. I have been at the meetings, conventions, etc. and have seen DFd people interacting with one another so that is definitely news to me. As for my question being fake I would not even bother to waste my time or anyone elses.

Trauma_Hound:

I know that this severely limits my options this was a long shot and I figured that posting this message could not hurt.

Wednesday:

I was actually raised in as a Jehovahs Witness, so I know how the "friends" can be and I also know that many brothers will feel that a sister who has been disfellowshipped does not meet their criteria which is also part of my reason for posting this here.

Wasa:

I definitely believe that their are many wonderful, kind and loving people who are not JW - my sister actually married one about 3 months ago. But that is not what I am looking for, and while that may severely limit my options, I don't ever want to feel that I settled for something that I did not want.

Honey

Edited by - Honey on 27 December 2002 17:1:43

35

Single DF Sister Looking for Single DF Brother

by Honey in

hi everyone - this is my first time posting to this board.. in any event, i am a newly dfd sister (announcement made about a week ago) who is interested in corresponding with and meeting a dfd brother.

adding to my dilemma is the fact that i plan on returning to the organization which i know is the direct opposite of what some on this board want.

i am african american, 34 years of age and attractive.

Honey

Wednesday, LB

I did not realize that a DF'd person could not associate with another DF'd person - I thought that as long as they were not engaging in any wrong activity with one another there was no problem. Interesting...

So who are you supposed to associate with? Or are you just supposed to spend all your time alone reading the bible?

Honey

Edited by - Honey on 27 December 2002 15:57:14

35

Single DF Sister Looking for Single DF Brother

by Honey in

hi everyone - this is my first time posting to this board.. in any event, i am a newly dfd sister (announcement made about a week ago) who is interested in corresponding with and meeting a dfd brother.

adding to my dilemma is the fact that i plan on returning to the organization which i know is the direct opposite of what some on this board want.

i am african american, 34 years of age and attractive.

Honey

JT

Interestingly enough I also know of a few sisters that have turned to one another for "comfort," and while I can relate to the desire that we all have as humans to be touched, held, etc. I am strictly d***ly. But I do understand what you are talking about.

The thing that has always amazed me about the organization is the total imbalance of brother-to-sisters and the weird impact it has on the ways we interact with one another. I cant tell you how many times I have been at an assembly, convention, wedding, visiting another congregation and had some brother stare me (or one of my friends down) but act like they were too afraid to speak. Or maybe it is a little ego thing I dont know.

In any event, I will keep reading

Honey

35

Single DF Sister Looking for Single DF Brother

by Honey in

hi everyone - this is my first time posting to this board.. in any event, i am a newly dfd sister (announcement made about a week ago) who is interested in corresponding with and meeting a dfd brother.

adding to my dilemma is the fact that i plan on returning to the organization which i know is the direct opposite of what some on this board want.

i am african american, 34 years of age and attractive.

Honey

I definitely understand your point and have thought about those issues also. I think the bottom line is honesty and mutual respect If I meet someone and they dont want to be reinstated, we dont have to pursue a romantic relationship. I am pretty sure that would be something that we would discuss right off the bat and if our objectives are different, I dont think that either of us would want to invest the time and emotion into developing a relationship. If the brother is uncertain, then that is something that we could also discuss and deal with.

As for being reinstated at different times, I think that is less of an issue. If the feelings are genuine and the interest is real, neither of us should have a problem waiting for the other to be reinstated at least for a few months anyway

Honey

35

Single DF Sister Looking for Single DF Brother

by Honey in

hi everyone - this is my first time posting to this board.. in any event, i am a newly dfd sister (announcement made about a week ago) who is interested in corresponding with and meeting a dfd brother.

adding to my dilemma is the fact that i plan on returning to the organization which i know is the direct opposite of what some on this board want.

i am african american, 34 years of age and attractive.

Honey

I am currently DF'd and want someone who knows the organization and also wants to return. I don't want to date a non-JW and cannot date a JW in "good-standing," which basically leaves another DF'd person.

Honey

35

Single DF Sister Looking for Single DF Brother

by Honey in

hi everyone - this is my first time posting to this board.. in any event, i am a newly dfd sister (announcement made about a week ago) who is interested in corresponding with and meeting a dfd brother.

adding to my dilemma is the fact that i plan on returning to the organization which i know is the direct opposite of what some on this board want.

i am african american, 34 years of age and attractive.

Honey

Hi Everyone - This is my first time posting to this board.

In any event, I am a newly DFd sister (announcement made about a week ago) who is interested in corresponding with and meeting a DFd brother. Adding to my dilemma is the fact that I plan on returning to the organization which I know is the direct opposite of what some on this board want. I am African American, 34 years of age and attractive. If interested, please feel free to email me at [email protected].

BTW I know that there are many who are strongly opposed to the organization and who feel that trying to get back in is a mistake and I can appreciate your position. However, I have various reasons for wanting to be reinstated and would just ask that you appreciate my perspective and not "flame" me for posting this.

As many of you know, being disfellowshipped is a very lonely and isolated situation to be in. But especially for those who are trying to be reinstated you cant interact with other Witnesses and you are trying not to be a part of the world so its kind of like being stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I dont want to ramble on to much, if interested please email me

Honey