I am certainly no Advocate of JW's, as I lost my entire family to them twenty years ago. I can only speak from my personal experience. My parents believed all the things you have spoken about... honor, obey, spair the rod... etc.
But they raised me to respect them, and I do. It may be a part of the whole "mind control" thing, but I have to say they filled me with a sense of conceince that I dont often find in others. While my father taught me the doctrine of Jw's, both my parents were careful to include a true spiritual surrounding. I have since then, found my own path to the dweller in the great beyond; but I believe without the foundation they provided me with.... I would not be so confident in my own beliefs today.
I think in today's society, perhaps they are a "necesary evil" of sorts. I mean we cant just let the whole world run loose without morality, and conceince. Not that these people are any more moral than any other religion.You find screw ups in everything produced by man. There are those people though, that are not capable of finding that for themselves, and must be taught by a firm hand.
It was perhaps SURVIVING my parents religion, that made me the strong and independent person that I am now. So, do I plan on running my kid out to the nearest Kingdom Hall, to teach him or her a thing or two about life? NO. . . But I have always hoped that if my wife and I, have children of our own, that we could provide the same... intensity, of spirituality.... that I had growing up. A respect for the beauty of the earth, and willingness to treat others with kindness, regaurdless of what color they are.
So, respect? I dont know if I ever thought of it in those terms or not... but they did do something right. Even if their methods made my teen age life a living hell. Do the ends, justify the means , is maybe a better question. I dont know.. that's my two cents.