Interesting post.
Along these lines, I remember something that I had forgotten regarding JWs and marriage.
Sometime in the 80s i was re-united with one of my best friends from Bethel. He lived in Texas and I was in California at the time. He drove out to see me and another buddy once, out of the blue. He said to both of us, "You've got to come back to Texas with me and help me sort something out with my wife." Well, we were really good friends for a long time. He and his wife had originally invited me to come to Texas from Bethel to perform their wedding ceremony. Bethel wouldn't give me the time off.
He and his wife were both very happy to have my friend and I there. We actually were able to only act as referees while they decided on the best way to divorce. He had a girlfriend. She was 10 years younger and a "sister" in the cong where he was an elder.
So, he says to me (in front of his other buddy who was also an elder in the same cong), "I have never had sex with that woman." No, my memory is not bad. He actually said it. He then asks me, "Do you believe me?" He was my friend! I said, "Of course. If you say you didn't do it, I believe you." He immediately turns to his other elder friend and says, "Do you believe that? He actually BELIEVES me!" He did this right in front of my friend (the other guy from California) and me.
I just took it. He goes on talking and says, "You know what? I think the Society should let us have a swap meet every 10 years or so and on a given day have someone just say, 'SWAP!' And let the brothers and sisters just grab a new husband or wife. That way they wouldn't have to go to the trouble of df-ing everyone."
This is an elder talking, to another elder. Well, he does leave his wife, marries the other girl, gets df'd and gets reinstated. He went on to do so many mean and small-minded things to my buddy that eventually both of us leave and have never tried to contact him again. Just don't even want to know about him. The whole time, he, his friend and friend's wife are preaching to my buddy and I about how we should get back "in the troof" and save ourselves from God's Wrath!
His buddy, the other elder, eventually gets busted for dealing drugs and does a few years in Huntsville (prison). I also was told by this same guy (the new bridegroom) that he had been using drugs since I knew him in Bethel. But, I'm slated for destruction.
The WT's claim to being Spirit-directed is a load. "By their fruits you shall know them."
Marcos