I've come to accept that friendships evolve, they wax, they wane and sometimes end. Some people give a lot, others take a lot and unless you want to be perpetually hung up on it you have to let things slide.
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When "friends" let you down...
by Crumpet inhave you ever been in a position where you really needed your friends - ie a relationship break down, or some other event and expected your friends to rally and support you.
only to find that those friends are nowhere to be seen or heard and when you tentatively enquire how they are in the hope for some kind response you get - "oh well you'll get over it.
" or words to that effect and by email.. i have as you can guess a reason and recent experience of my own that i'll share later, but i wondered how do you handle that?
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I applied to a university yesterday.
by kwintestal inafter a few years of humming and hawing, i decided i would.
it was more of what i would take that held me back then if i should go.. i'm only 28, so i'm not too far behind.
we'll see how working full time and going to school will go.
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Hi Crumpet
I only applied for the one course at one uni, but that was 7 years ago so maybe things have changed. I imagine it's as you suggest, a standby course.
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I applied to a university yesterday.
by kwintestal inafter a few years of humming and hawing, i decided i would.
it was more of what i would take that held me back then if i should go.. i'm only 28, so i'm not too far behind.
we'll see how working full time and going to school will go.
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Crumps, are you try to jinx German? Barrel has only one l. Unless you had a drink halfway through the word and then saw double.
German XJW where are you applying to study?
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I applied to a university yesterday.
by kwintestal inafter a few years of humming and hawing, i decided i would.
it was more of what i would take that held me back then if i should go.. i'm only 28, so i'm not too far behind.
we'll see how working full time and going to school will go.
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Good for you.
I started uni at 29 (while still a dub and an elder) and found that extra decade a distinct advantage. Because I had a life, and no fear of failure, I had less pressure than a lot of the 18 year olds despite continuing to run my business. Got my MA and now finishing an MSc and have enjoyed most of it.
Can't recall if you're single or not, but I've seen some relationships go through a crucible when one partner's at uni. But it's all character building!
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THE IMPORTANCE OF HOLDING HANDS!
by Dansk ini started a thread a long hug http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/128891/1.ashx which touches on the below, but feel this subject deserves a thread of its own.. a study, highlighted on bbc breakfast news yesterday, acknowledged the importance of holding hands in a relationship, courting or married.
it was stated that couples who hold hands in the street are more likely to have a solid relationship - and especially those who interlink their fingers when holding hands as this indicates a desire to be as close to each other as possible.
arm linking is ok, too, but couples who just walk about not holding hands - and this includes married couples - indicates the relationship could be in trouble.. do you hold hands with your spouse/partner?
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I'm happy to, but my partner is afraid of us having to deal with hostile reactions.
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How much younger or older were your JW friends at the hall
by JH ini used to hang out with only older people.
the ones my age were married and had kids so i didnt fit in.. i was always with people 20 and even 30 years older than me.
it was as if i was their age.. i don't think it's healthy to hang around with people much older or younger like that.
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I think it's pretty healthy to have friends that are much older and younger than you, in fact it's one of the things I missed when I initially left. It may not be ideal to have only older friends, but I'm not sure why you couldn't fit in with your peers that were married with kids.
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CO/DO's in the UK?
by pobthespazz incan anyone compile a list of as many as possible past and present co/do's from the uk?
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Find it amusing Fleaman. Although it is sad for them as they're trapped and many of them must be frustrated.
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CO/DO's in the UK?
by pobthespazz incan anyone compile a list of as many as possible past and present co/do's from the uk?
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It was Lez Perkins that visited me when I resigned as an elder and quit meetings. He took it really well that i'd been faking faith my entire life, the fact that he believed me was good because so many others wouldn't. Having said that, it must have been him that encouraged the elders to pursue me 2 years later when they found out I was banging my man. They were just jealous.
Anyone know what Ian Shanks is up to these days? Gather he's off the circuit.
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CO/DO's in the UK?
by pobthespazz incan anyone compile a list of as many as possible past and present co/do's from the uk?
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I seem to recall Rupert Bradbury owning Afghan Hounds that attacked Jean Strickland.
But it could be the drugs...
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CO/DO's in the UK?
by pobthespazz incan anyone compile a list of as many as possible past and present co/do's from the uk?
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Know who you mean... owns the congregation in Thirsk. Millionaire.
Is that the same guy who was in Fort William, or am I thinking of another one?
Wasn't in Fort William
Just remembered - Doug Turnbull!