When my Ex and I seperated, no one was there to help me. No concerned Elders on the phone, no sister so-and-so stopped in to check on me, nothing. I was a regular meeting attender who dropped off the face of the earth, and no one cared. I had always thought that I was a part of a loving brotherhood who took care of it's members. Even my family didn't seem to care... I had no long-distance on my phone and they knew it, yet they didn't call at all the first month I was on my own..for the first time ever...
And it wasn't that they didn't have my number or didn't know what was going on... I had gone to the Elders for help with my "marital crisis" and they said that they couldn't do anything to help unless my husband (a brother at the time) came to them and asked for it (this was only 2 years ago...not in the dark ages!!) A week later I informed them that I was moving out and we were seperating, gave them my new number and address. The only time I ever heard from an Elder was about four months later, he called me to ask if a rumor he had heard about my Ex could be true or not.
I'm not saying that this is why I stayed away.. but it was the event that got me on the road to recovery. After that I started questioning things. I went to a district convention less than two months after the seperation, and through the whole thing I kept thinking how ridiculous things were.. and everytime they would talk about brotherly love I would have to concentrate on not making a snorting sound.
Since then I have done some research and become convinced that they do not have the truth!
This is probably a longer reply than you wanted....
Misty