Posts by calamityjane

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Does Everybody turn our okay after leaving?

by Scooby in

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i am curious... do you know some that have left the truth that become "worse" people?

for years i would hear about some who left the truth and rumours how they are on drugs, in jail, etc.

and many bros and sis would say, "you might as well go out in the world and do all the bad stuff..cuz you're dead at armaggedon!".

calamityjane

I'm sure some people feel like that, I guess it all depends on how that person has left the organization and the state of mind they left in.

I'm sorry your husband feels that way, but unlike your husband I left because I knew I was better than the backstabbing, lying, cheating, no good for nothing, gossiping losers that they are, who are placed on pedestals to believe that they are "IT" because they go out in service and get their 10 hours worth of glory to put on a piece of paper. I saw too much hypocrisy there.

But I believe I've become a better person and a better neighbour, I'll do things for people because there is no alterior motive behind it. (like maybe I'll convert this person). I do nice things because I want to and it feels good

P.S. Its boards like this that help us and confirm our feelings, as we realize we're not alone. It would really be nice to get your hubby onto the board. If he dosen't , print out some interesting posts on the board to bring to his attention that might relate to him. You never know

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Ya know what? You people RAWK

by xenawarrior in

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i've never been a jdub.

i came here looking for answers to why someone, who meant the world to me believed what he did.

i found the answers to that and i found an awesome group of folks.

calamityjane

Well Thanks xw.

I too thought you were an x dub.

You RAWK too for staying around here and getting to know us.

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ex-JW's from the West Michigan area?

by Outaservice in

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hi, looking for any ex-jw's that have ever lived in the south western michigan area.. outaservice

calamityjane

I use to live in Marquette?

43

Would you take your shoes off?

by Golden Girl in

if you went to someones house as a guest and they asked you to take your shoes off..would you?..would you be offended?....

does anyone know if this is proper etiquette?.

didn't know where else to post this........ my daughter was invited to a neighbors house and they requested people remove their shoes!...she never had anyone ask her that before.

calamityjane

I cannot believe this post has gone to 3 pages. This was covered a while ago....but it is still funny.

Xander hit the nail on the head. It depends on where you live. As was mentioned earlier, it is totally unacceptable where we live, to come in our door and walk into the house with your shoes on. SNOW, SALT, then spring creeps along, and then its MUD, GRAVEL, and of course..... everbody's favourite........DOG SHIT !

You are welcome at my house.....anytime...BUT THE SHOES STAY AT THE DOOR ! ( porch )

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Bookbag competition

by unclebruce in

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gday bag people

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calamityjane

Funny you should bring this subject up. I was just down in my basement over the weekend and came across xjw's book bag. I looked at it and shuddered.

I believe it was a gift I gave to him as an anniversary present. don't people usually give romantic things to their spouses. Yuck what was I thinking so many years ago.

Anyway that wasn't the only present he got that time, there were others, we always showered each other with gifts on our anniversarys as that was the only thing we could celebrate and give gifts.

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What a journey this has been?

by amen in

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what a journey this has been?

i am reflecting over the years that i spent as a jehovah's witness today mark a decade and a half.

i find it incredible that i would come to this situation.

calamityjane

Welcome to the board, Amen.

We would like to hear your story, when you decide to share it.

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Should we let 13 yr. old daughter go with JW sisters and husbands?

by Robotnomore in

my wife and i resigned from the wtbs last year.

we have a 13 yr. old daughter left at home.

we have 2 married daughters that have nothing to do with us but want to associate with their little sister.

calamityjane

." Children this age, and she is a child, are entering the rebellious age, and think that the old fogey parents don't know anything. Your older daughters are closer to her age than you are, and she probably thinks they are cool.

Aunthill, you hit the nail on the head.

Although I wouldn't consider myself old fogey, the teen years are tough, and it seems we're always butting heads with our 13 year old quite a bit. Like xjw said earlier in this post, we've had problems with our girls visiting my parents over the years. When we were still in the borg our older daughter would give us problems due to the restrictions of the borg, so when things got tough at home, she would run away and eventually end up at my parents. Why, because they gave her the option to do that. Do I want that with my younger one, NO. Like I posted in Nappy Roots thread, I had to put an end to my mom's manipulation of my daughter. One day my decision was confirmed, as my daughter and I were discussing life in general and she threw it up in my face that if she didn't like our rules she could just go live with "gramma and grandpa". And the look on her face when she said it. OH, If I could have wrapped my hands around my mother's neck at that point I would have.

It's tough enough bringing up children, why would grandparents have to make an even bigger wedge unless they had an agenda. That is completely WRONG.

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Please Just Take Me Home...

by Valis in

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friends

if htere were anything i ever wanted it was to be like all the other kids i saw in my life...free to accept gifts, love and unconditional reasoning from adults...even as an adult this is all i rarely ask for...where is your family when it would be nice to have them?

would something please just take me home?.

sincerely,.

calamityjane

((((((valis)))))))

Valis I hear you, you can see my post in Nappy Roots, you will see that I have had problems with my jw parents. I'm here for you to listen, to share stories. You can personally send me a message. I'm here to talk to you.

I don't know you, but I can share in this brotherhood, momhood. I'm right there with you.

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Should I let my kids visit my JW parents?

by NAPPY ROOTS in

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i have a dilema.

my parents are still active jw.

last year they told me they had to limit their association with me.

calamityjane

Thanks Teejay for enlightening me of your situation. I too, would welcome both my mom and dad into my arms wholeheartedly, if they came to me and said they truly wanted to see my children and would not try to influence them in any way, and just wanted to be family again, and set aside the religion shit, to be frank.

I am a person that forgives, I do consider that I have a big heart. My home is always welcome to them, but I cannot at this stage, allow them to degrade my family.

So when my parents come to me to try and fix our so called "dsyfunctional family" I'll be there to listen. My home is open to them, even if they chose to stay with the borg.

((((((((( Valis ))))))))))))))))))

I hear you buddy. I'm sure you and I can vent quite a lot.

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Memorial for a friend: Huge Success

by RAYZORBLADE in

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friends

first off i'd like to say a huge thank you to so many of you for posting to my topic regarding my friend's memorial a couple of weeks ago.

all of the information was read and all suggestions considered, and many were utilized.

i figured that at least a couple of you on this forum would be able to contribute to what was then, my upcoming involvement in my friend's memorial.

calamityjane

Thanks for sharing Ray.

Its great to celebrate ones life in the way you handled your friend's passing, rather than using it as an opportunity to witness to someone.