Posts by FlowerPower

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Home Alone

by codeblue in

here i am home alone........ my hubby works out of town from time to time...it never fails, how even though i am dead tired..i get in bed and think i "hear" something or "see" something....geez...you would think i was 10...scared to death...lol.

i guess i just don't like being in an empty house...does anyone here really like being alone at night???.

codeblue

FlowerPower

For me it doesnt matter if I'm alone or not I still hear things and see things! One night when I could'nt sleep I was up at the computer when I thought I heard someone come in the back door. There is a plaque on the door that jangles a little when the door opens and closes. Well I'm very hypervigilant now and every fews seconds I think that I see something out of the corner of my eye. After a long while of being too scared to get up and check I decide that it's just too scary to stay up so I'll go back to bed where I won't be alone! When I lay down in bed my partner grabs my arm and whispers "Jan lay low....lay low Jan!" I say back to hear in a low frantic whisper "What is it? I thought I heard soemthing too is someone in here, Oh Sh** What should we do?" My heart now is beating out of my chest, my mind spinning out of control about what to do next when I hear my partner softly snoring!! She was talking in her sleep!!! See it doesn't help even if your'e not alone!!!! FlowerPower

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Transgender Support Group for Jehovah's Witnesses

by enigma0007 in

if you are transgender or intersex and a jehovah's witness or affiliated with them please join:

http://groups.msn.com/transjehovahswitnesses

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transgenderjws/

FlowerPower

Hey Gretchen, Good pick with the ACB referral. They really ARE a great bunch. When my partner and I were first coming out of the BORG and the closet they "sponsored" us to attend a conference that was going on in DC. That was in 1999! What an eye opener that was. It was a great way to put away our doubts about our decision to get out and made our resolve firm to try to help as many more as we could to get out too! So far 3 of our 6 sons are out (of the Borg..not the closet!)We think one may be gay but that is for them to figure out! There is one son who is teetering on the edges and time will tell. We just let them all know that we are no longer bound by the stupids rules and gag orders of the Borg and they are welcome to come to us at any time, we will always be there for them no matter what! Our oldest son is married to an ex JW too and we have a wondeful granddaughter that we just love to pieces!! Glad to hear from the "resident lezzie" (Glad your'e not joking!)Love to pm you a little later, gotta run off to work this AM FlowerPower

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Transgender Support Group for Jehovah's Witnesses

by enigma0007 in

if you are transgender or intersex and a jehovah's witness or affiliated with them please join:

http://groups.msn.com/transjehovahswitnesses

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transgenderjws/

FlowerPower

Hey anew, Welcome! I can tell you this much, if your Boss is Gay he cannot change that. The "male roommate" for many years makes me think he may be gay but still in the closet especially if he is still a believing Mormon as you say. He would be too scared of the reprecussions of coming out if he is affiliated with the Mormons still or just afraid to say it out loud due to his religious beliefs. That's sad. If he is Bi then you may have every bit a chance with him as the next person so go for it!I would say to continue to get to know him on a more personal level (although it can be a complicated thing to get into to with your Boss)and eventually you will get to know if he is staight, gay or Bi. I have a friend who is Bi and she is really cool. When I first met her she was with a woman, then they broke up and she dated a guy, now their realtionship is on the rocks and I asked her who she would date next she said "I dunno whoever I fall for!" The important thing for her is that she is monogomous when she is in a relationship. That's simple isn't it? Good luck in whatever you decide to do! FP

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Contact with long lost relative.

by Lehaa in

i'm so exited, i just got an email from a cousin i have not had contact with for 15 years.. he was disfellowshipped 15 years ago, and being a good jdub i ceaced all contact with him.

anyway i wrote him letter last week letting him know i'm now disfellowshipped and just seeing how he is going, and he just sent me an email.. he's going to sent me a longer one soon and send a heap of photos.

he also gave me am open invitation to come visit him anytime.

FlowerPower

That is sooo encouraging Lehaa!! I too have a cousin that I lost contact w/ when I was DFed. You know it's funy because when we found out about each other(that we were both witnesses) we danced for joy at a baby shower of one of my other cousins, much to our "worldly" relatives chagrin. As we got to know each other better because of our new found commonality I realized that I really did'nt like her that much. We didnt have anything else in common but the Borg, I would call her and we would just breathe into the phone, I suspected that she felt the same about me. She never really had anything to talk about, her life was extremely boring. She lived w/ an abusive husband that I didnt like, her young teenaged son was out of control often in trouble w/ the police. If he didnt make a huge turn around by now he may very well be in jail. Anyway when I wrote to her to "apologize" that I was being DFed she never responded, which added to the hurt. Ya know she was family and although we were different in our personalities, I DO miss her and wish that she someday calls me and says that she is out too. I will make every effort to be a good cousin (whatever that entails)Being non judegemental would be a good start on my part!! Man I was the Queen of Judgement as a witness! There are actually alot of folks that I would have to apologize to if they came out of the Borg!! Oh FlowerPower becareful what you wish for!!
Sorry to ramble on just more hopeful now that my son will someday soon also see the light of day and come out of the Borg. I miss him so much!!!!!!!
FP

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Transgender Support Group for Jehovah's Witnesses

by enigma0007 in

if you are transgender or intersex and a jehovah's witness or affiliated with them please join:

http://groups.msn.com/transjehovahswitnesses

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transgenderjws/

FlowerPower

HaHaHA That's really NOT a funny Joke.

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I had a visitor!!!!!!

by Sunspot in

whoooeeeee!

about 10 minutes ago i had a visitor!

she was a sister that we used to pal around with, we had several dinners together and she and her husband and my husband played cards together.

FlowerPower

Because my younger son is still somewhat privvy to what the young jws are up to he keeps me informed as to their comings and goings. There are SO many that are just hanging on so as to not loose their families, but I know as time goes on and they are able to stand more on their own there will be more and more falling away from the cult. (I just hope everyday that my oldest son will too!!!!!!!)It is just good to know that the YOUNG ones are leaving, that makes the whole foundation of the future generation soooo shaky!! I have had quite a few young "gay" exjws come my way looking for support. I am flattered that my "coming out" proved to be a source of strength for others to look at the possibilites! It was no easy task, but one that Ive never regretted!! Thanks for sharing your "good news" Annie! Speak truth, spread the peace Flowerpower

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Transgender Support Group for Jehovah's Witnesses

by enigma0007 in

if you are transgender or intersex and a jehovah's witness or affiliated with them please join:

http://groups.msn.com/transjehovahswitnesses

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transgenderjws/

FlowerPower

Good luck to you Corvin. My heart goes out to you and other trannies. I am gay and was once so conflicted, I feel your pain of being misunderstood and judged by so many of the narrow minded class. My best to you in your search for acceptance. Ive met a lot of really good people on the ACB site.(A Common Bond) gayexjw site. FlowerPower

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Crazy JW Superstitions...

by Confucious in

hey!

ok, we all know of this uncanny word play about not saying, "you were lucky," and not saying "bless you" after someone sneezes.

but this is a bizarre one i heard.

FlowerPower

Masturbation makes you a homosexual...that's a gas. I heard it makes you crazy. If that were the case every male member of the human race is a flaming lunatic!!
Flowerpower

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Who actually did the disfellowshipping?

by barbar in

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when i was disfellowshipped, i was really looking for a way out, although i did not want to be disfellowshipped, it was easier than making the break on my own.. i appreciate that many are distraught when they get df'd, but was the actual meeting controlled by the elders or you?.

how many were really in control of the meeting and knew that being disfellowshipped was actually a way of ensuring that you would get no more hassle from the elders?

FlowerPower

There were 7 at my interrogation. Probably because I, being a regular pioneer for 10 years running finally came out as a lesbian along w/ my pioneer "partner"!! Threw them for a loop. The idea of that had them all adjusting themselves under the table!!! I was very scared and cried alot. I was very afraid to lose my family(mainly my two sons) It's been five years now and one son is fine, he lives with my partner(same one) and I, and out of the BORG too! One is still in and very BORGed out He's 24. I miss him very much and only talk to him occassionally. That is my one regret but I could not go on or ever go back(I'd sooner slice my throat!!) My hope is that one day he'll get out too and I will devote myself to making up the time that we have lost!! Anyone is welcome to email me if you like at [email protected] Speak Truth, Spread the Peace FlowerPower

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Beware!! They will get your kids!

by freedom96 in

jw
friends

this is really directed to those who have a believing mate still in the organization, or maybe an ex who still is involved, and have custody of your kids.

be careful!

the elders and those in the hall will pay extra attention to your kids.

FlowerPower

Hey new world slacker, I know what you mean about the congregation not taking an interest if you don't have alot to offer them. I was married already when they "got" me but my husband never fell for it.So I was essentially a single sister. I was sort of ignored by the "brothers". The only people that paid any attention to me or my kids were the other sisters. Whenever there was any kind of social event I was left out except for the dreaded baby showers!!
Then I became a pioneer... now they took some interest in me. I was taking out the groups in the morning even asked to say the prayer for them if there was no "brother" present.(with a head covering on of course!!) That way the service overseer (a very proud arrogant man, who hated the door to door work, only went on return visits that we all gave to him) could sleep in or find other ways to slip out of the initial door to door stuff. He would meet up with the group at break and then we would do Rvs! It was amazing how he managed to skate on that. I was a pioneer for 9 years and never went door to door with him once!!
They still have my oldest son who they made a ministerial servant at 21! He rarely speaks to me. I managed to salvage my younger son(18). He lives with us and is still baffled by all the witness stuff that I still cry over. I fight for my son, I try to make with contact him through email and he talks to me occassionally but it's usually not very pleasant. He rags me out regularly for leaving saying that he will never forgive me. It's been five years and I am starting to believe him.
It really makes me sad how they put on the air to worldly people that they believe in building strong families. they fail to mention that you can't ever disagree or even think about leaving or your "strong" family will disown you!! Parents do it to their children, children to it to their parents. There is no such thing as unconditional love which should be the bedrock of what families are all about!!
It just makes me crazy!!!
Flower