Posts by rebel

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Please help me understand this one. I never "bought" it

by berylblue in

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i would love your thoughts on this one:.

life is sacred to jehovah.

(no problem there.).

rebel

Good question bb,

I have often wondered about this. If the foetus is not a life, why does it say somewhere in the OT that if two men are fighting and one knocks into a pregnant woman and causes her to lose her baby, that man must be put to death - a life for a life? Either the foetus is a life or it isn't. According to this passage, it is a life. Also, why would abortion be wrong if you were not actually taking a life.

A sister I knew had a stillbirth and the elders said she would not see him in the resurrection. I always thought that was a load of rubbish - how did they know this? There is nothing about that in the Bible. I think some elders just make things up as they go along.

xxR

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How Long Does Grief Last?

by Englishman in

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last week i was very taken aback to see a recently bereaved (4 months) friend of ours walking along the high street with his arms around a ladyfriend.

i knew how devastated he had been at his wife's death, so it gave me quite a start to see him with someone else.

i then told myself it was none of my business, quit judging sunshine, get on with your own life.. i couldn't shake the image out my mind however, so i discussed it at length with her ladyship to get her thoughts on the matter.

rebel

I know what I want to say but words fail me.

Mouthy - you really seem to have such an adult attitude to everything - I wish I could be like you, but I am very vindictive.

I am so angry at everything - I am angry that I was in the wrong place at the wrong time when Claire was killed. If I had been in the right place, she would be here with me today.

I hate grief. I hate feeling like this. I want to be a normal mum with her kids all around her. Why must I be deprived like this?

xxR

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Pic of my grandaughter and mommy

by LB in

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i was just e-mailed this photo.

i don't think it's that good as both of them are lots better looking that this, but it's a picture.

rebel

LB,

The WTBS really does cause some divisions, but whether you get to see them or not, you still have a lot of family out there.

You have sure made your mark. Your grandaughter is beautiful. Congratulations!

xxR

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Spritual Emptyness

by JH in

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now that you don't practise any kind of religion anymore, do you feel a certain emptyness as far as your spirituality is concerned?.

have we become like animals, without any spirituality?.

rebel

Does anyone here have any doubts about the Bible? It all seems to be dependent on the Bible. What if the Bible is not what it seems to be? Have you all studied it? I am not having a go at anyone - I haven't studied it properly. I just took what the society said as gospel. But are there any out there who have studied it thoroughly and who can say it is God's word? What if it isn't? What do we do then? Where do we go?

xxR

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How Long Does Grief Last?

by Englishman in

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friends

last week i was very taken aback to see a recently bereaved (4 months) friend of ours walking along the high street with his arms around a ladyfriend.

i knew how devastated he had been at his wife's death, so it gave me quite a start to see him with someone else.

i then told myself it was none of my business, quit judging sunshine, get on with your own life.. i couldn't shake the image out my mind however, so i discussed it at length with her ladyship to get her thoughts on the matter.

rebel

Mulan,

Your post hit home with me.

There was a brother in my old congregation who's wife had been ill for many years. She had 3 strokes and no longer recognised him. Another sister in the congregation would visit her in the care home, bring her things, read to her etc. The husband really appreciated this and the two of them grew really close. They looked after his wife together and viewed it as a labour of love. Eventually, his wife died and the two of them got married after 11 months. I can't see anything wrong with this. The death of a loved one affects different people in many ways.

xxR

edited to change 'bother' to 'brother' - sorry!

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1st Post

by Angela in

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this is my very first post.

i am 24 year old and i have been disfellowshipped for the last 2 years.

i live in california.

rebel

Hello and welcome Angela.

You do all the research you need to. I am sure you wil learn a lot here - I have.

God bless

xxRoz

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How Long Does Grief Last?

by Englishman in

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friends

last week i was very taken aback to see a recently bereaved (4 months) friend of ours walking along the high street with his arms around a ladyfriend.

i knew how devastated he had been at his wife's death, so it gave me quite a start to see him with someone else.

i then told myself it was none of my business, quit judging sunshine, get on with your own life.. i couldn't shake the image out my mind however, so i discussed it at length with her ladyship to get her thoughts on the matter.

rebel

I have to agree with Francois. Everyone deals with things differently. What may seem weird to one person is perfectly normal to another.

This guy is doing what he knows best to deal with the situation.

And Outlaw, I agree - grief sucks. It has certainly sucked the life out of me!

xxR

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Pic of my grandaughter and mommy

by LB in

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i was just e-mailed this photo.

i don't think it's that good as both of them are lots better looking that this, but it's a picture.

rebel

LB,

That is some lady! She is drop-dead gorgeous and the baby is a real dote.

You must be such a proud father and grandfather - and so you should be. Treasure them always.

xxR

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JW Urban Legends

by Azalo in

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did any of you hear any of the urban legends that jw's used to scare people into being deathly afraid of demons?

for example i remeber hearing that a child brough a smurf doll to a meeting and upon hearing the name jehovah uttered it got up and walked out.

got any j-dub urban legends?

rebel

It's funny about the smurf stories. I never heard them, but I heard many tales about 'My Little Pony'. I was told that they had been invented by a wizard and that one young sister saw her collection of ponies floating around her bedroom and they floated out of the window!

xxR

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How Long Does Grief Last?

by Englishman in

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friends

last week i was very taken aback to see a recently bereaved (4 months) friend of ours walking along the high street with his arms around a ladyfriend.

i knew how devastated he had been at his wife's death, so it gave me quite a start to see him with someone else.

i then told myself it was none of my business, quit judging sunshine, get on with your own life.. i couldn't shake the image out my mind however, so i discussed it at length with her ladyship to get her thoughts on the matter.

rebel

Englishman,

Everyone grieves differently. Like you say, your friend probably started to grieve 2 years ago when his wife stopped being the woman he married. He obviously has been through a bad time and this other lady is helping him.

I think it also depends on who it is you lose. A loss of a parent or grandparent or sibling is terrible, but I don't think anything can compare to losing a child. I know a man who breaks his heart crying over the loss of his two young daughters over 20 years ago. He still weeps for them to this day. I cry daily for my young daughter who was killed over 12 years ago. Some people seem to get over these things more quickly, but I sometimes think they are just better at hiding their feelings. I know I'll never stop greiving for Claire - she is always with me and not a day goes by when I don't think of her and long to hold her.

I hope your friend is coping with his loss. It must be a hard time for the whole family.

Just my thoughts.

xxR