Posts by losingit

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how long before you felt refreshed and new?

by losingit in

waking up from jw-land is an extremely exhausting process.

about 3 years ago, i attended a month-long institute for grad school students.

during this time, i was surrounded by people from all over the united states and had active, deep conversations with so many about personal topics, such as religion and divorce.

losingit

SophieG-- wow! I love what you shared! Yes, I'm slowly coming out of it and I know that I'll see the light at the end of the tunnel. It's a process, definitely, I'm just so tired. The more I hear of other people's experiences and how they came out of depression, the better I feel about what's up ahead. This is tge first time in my life where I have no idea what's going to happen next. I have no plan for the future at all. So besides feeling tired, I'm also scared.

BOTR--I've got my appointment set for Tuesday.I'm definitely going. No worries there. I have to get myself together.

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A serving elder's take on the new "tithing" arrangement

by TTATTelder in

the gb can kiss my ass.. i'm writing "0" on the little slip of paper they pass out.. hey here's a thought:.

you know that "widow's might" stuff they're always talking about?

well i'm pretty dang sure that the lady was giving from the heart not because she filled out some dumba$$ piece of paper pledging two small coins several months previous!.

losingit

Or they could claim that theyre falling short month after month when in fact theyve met their cong's pledge.

Either way-- sohappy lm out!

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The reason the Society keeps everyone busy with "campaigns"

by stuckinarut2 in

im sure that many have had an experience where we try and keep little kids "occupied" while on a boring trip, such as a car ride or plane flight.. we come up with "games" like..."lets see how many green cars we can count", or "lets try and see who can sit still for the longest time".

"the winner gets a prize!".

obviously, until they are wise enough to cotton on, all we are doing is keeping them occupied to prevent them asking things like "are we there yet?!".

losingit

Campaigns sound important . It provides them with a false idea that their work actually means something to the outside world. Tell anyone that you worked in a campaign and the impression is you participated in something that matters.

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Involved with a JW woman

by jonza in

okay so i'm dating a born-in jw woman, she's younger than me and has no kids.

i'm a christian man whos divorced with 2 kids.

we're in love and seriously want to be together.

losingit

Jonza-- she's still in it DEEP

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how long before you felt refreshed and new?

by losingit in

waking up from jw-land is an extremely exhausting process.

about 3 years ago, i attended a month-long institute for grad school students.

during this time, i was surrounded by people from all over the united states and had active, deep conversations with so many about personal topics, such as religion and divorce.

losingit

OTWO-- you made a commitment to therapy and that helped you. I appreciate hearing your story. I need to make a similar commitment for my own health. Ive got one scheduled already for next week. I am aware it'll be some time before I feel on top of my game. Reading your timeline helps me to see the long haul.

You mentioned alcohol... I was drinking heavily for a while to handle stress and to feel relaxed. Thank God my tolerance absolutely sucks. I kept getting sick from it and had to stop. It's been 4-5 months now since my last bottle of wine. I'm a big cheapskate too, and I hated seeing the little $$$ I had go to garbage. Plus. I didn't like feeling useless the next day. Getting drunk and the hangover afterwards is too impractical.

The last two nights I've been watching stand up comedy on Netflix and YouTube. Bill Maher, Louis CK, Mr. Fluffy Gabriel Iglesias. I loveGeorge Carlin but he's more about truth telling than silliness, which is what I want right now. The LOLcats was funny. Maybe Frozen again? Haha

Any other stand up comedians out there that ppl enjoy?

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Raising kids - JW mother, agnostic father

by Zana in

my wife and i have two wonderful children aged 1 and 3. i was raised as a lutheran but stopped believing in my late teen years.

my wife is what i would call a liberal jw (yes, i believe such people exist .

sooner or later our children will have questions about religion and the differences mom and dad show towards it.

losingit

Whoa vanyell! Have you let your wife in on your plans to bounce once you have enough $$$ saved? Are you going to give her a fighting chance to start fresh after separation?

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how long before you felt refreshed and new?

by losingit in

waking up from jw-land is an extremely exhausting process.

about 3 years ago, i attended a month-long institute for grad school students.

during this time, i was surrounded by people from all over the united states and had active, deep conversations with so many about personal topics, such as religion and divorce.

losingit

How do I even get out of bed? What are some things that I can do besides meds to make me feel better? How do I start? I've never been like this in my entire life! :-( :-(

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how long before you felt refreshed and new?

by losingit in

waking up from jw-land is an extremely exhausting process.

about 3 years ago, i attended a month-long institute for grad school students.

during this time, i was surrounded by people from all over the united states and had active, deep conversations with so many about personal topics, such as religion and divorce.

losingit

Yeahhhh it looks like a major depression... the grad school situation, where I was threatened with not graduating and not getting my license, put me over the edge. Yeah, before, I was down but I kept going to my internship, I was still on top of stuff around the house. Yeah, I was down about my girls' father disappearing and the lack of funds really made me sick. But I kept trekking along. Of course not having my crew of friends made me sad but I.still met up with the Japanese neighbor downstairs for tea. But that grad school situation... it felt like I got jumped and got beat by a gang of thugs. The power lorded over me was just too much.....

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how long before you felt refreshed and new?

by losingit in

waking up from jw-land is an extremely exhausting process.

about 3 years ago, i attended a month-long institute for grad school students.

during this time, i was surrounded by people from all over the united states and had active, deep conversations with so many about personal topics, such as religion and divorce.

losingit

Eyeuse2badub...

Time...I'm becoming impatient with time. I talk to my cousin sometimes (she's Christian, never a jw) and her way of seeing things gives me hope. I lost faith in love, marriage, and friendship so sometimes it's refreshing to hear her speak so confidently in God's plan for me and how things will get better.Sometimes I wish I lived nearby her bc her energy is so positive.

Something that brings me down a lot are things that my ex says about me-- that I'm so negative and how I bring other ppl down. WOW. I know I'm intense and passionate. But I hate to think he's right. Myboyfriend tells me to focus on the positive too. I guess I could list them as a reminder?

I have my beautiful girls who are healthy and happy and smart. Despite this crazy year, they have grown so much,it's amazing. To know that I provided the safe stimulating environment they needed for that growth to take place makes me hhappy. They deserve the best, and I'll do anything and everything to provide that for them.

I have my caring and loving boyfriend, who has gone out of his way to help me and the girls during this ttremendous time of transition. Even when it looked like we might break up, he made it clear that he'd never abandon us. He's invested in our future, and that makes me happy.

I have my parents, andespecially my mom, who has comforted me over the phone when I was in enormous pain over the separation and abuse I was receiving from my ex. Her supportive words have calmed me down.

Ihave my volunteering at the girls old preschool and current school. I love being there in their school. The little ones bring me so much joy just from their cuteness and the older ones make me so happy with their inquisitiveness and hard working attitudes.

Ofcourse, there are so many thngs I wish I had-- like $$$, a job, friends. When I allow myself the luxury of letting that positivity penetrate my senses, I'm happy. I wish I did that more often.

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how long before you felt refreshed and new?

by losingit in

waking up from jw-land is an extremely exhausting process.

about 3 years ago, i attended a month-long institute for grad school students.

during this time, i was surrounded by people from all over the united states and had active, deep conversations with so many about personal topics, such as religion and divorce.

losingit

I do need to call up my therapist again. I was going regularly then stopped bc i just didnt have the time. I feel the need to go again.

I do think leaving the jwlifestyle takes a tremendous amount of energy. I can only imagine how much more life-sucking it would be if I had family in the cult. It would be nice to go to a friend's house for dinner and laugh up a storm like I used to. I MISS relaxing with my friends, feeling safe and loved. I MISS having friends over and cooking a delicious meal for 8. Ultimately, the social network was not enough to keep me in. But ohhhhh how I miss those times! :'(

I wish I were more open to meeting new people. I try to.make new friends, but then they turn out to be looney tunes like Hannah. Ugh. :-( :-(