You need her just as much she needs you. In other words, you *chose* to be with her even though you gave her that fearful look. Why did you stay even after that initial contact? If you go back, you have to be honest with yourself about the dynamics of the relationship on YOUR part.
losingit
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breakup guilt
by fresh prince of ohio ini recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years.. she is 40 years old, with health problems, financial problems, little family/friend support, and facing an uncertain future.
i gave her some money.. the guilt i am experiencing right now is absolutely anguishing.
she had very, very high hopes about our relationship and loved me very deeply.
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The Organic ROBOTS of JEHOVAHVILLE
by Terry inthe watchtower society started out as a loose nit and totally independant agglomeration of customers who.
bought books and magazines.
what they did with them was their own business.
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losingit
Thats right-- he wants to be "free" then he shoukd pay the price.
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FB message from a "true" friend
by losingit ini thought i would share this fb message from someone who considers himself to be a "true" friend of mine.
after learning from my former husband tha i am disfellowshipped, he writes the following: .
fb true friend: "xxxxx with tears in my eyes i will be deleting you but i want you as my sister again.
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losingit
I'mso sorry LisaVegas. Im just tthankful i don't have family in the WT. it was just my husband and his friends.
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after sending him a Fb message to be a *true*brother to his brother, my BIL BLOCKED ME!
by losingit ini'm absolutely furious about it!
no message, just deletes me from his friends list-- which is fine.... but i can't even *message* him.
funny, the bum of a bil just had his district convention in his home country, which he attended with his mother and father.
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losingit
Mgmelkat--What was your question? God forbid you made her think!
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after sending him a Fb message to be a *true*brother to his brother, my BIL BLOCKED ME!
by losingit ini'm absolutely furious about it!
no message, just deletes me from his friends list-- which is fine.... but i can't even *message* him.
funny, the bum of a bil just had his district convention in his home country, which he attended with his mother and father.
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losingit
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/259429/1/Ya-no-me-importa-I-dont-care-anymore
Thats the link to fnd the message I wrote himprivately on fb.
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FB message from a "true" friend
by losingit ini thought i would share this fb message from someone who considers himself to be a "true" friend of mine.
after learning from my former husband tha i am disfellowshipped, he writes the following: .
fb true friend: "xxxxx with tears in my eyes i will be deleting you but i want you as my sister again.
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losingit
To everyone- - I will fnd true friends. I will.
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FB message from a "true" friend
by losingit ini thought i would share this fb message from someone who considers himself to be a "true" friend of mine.
after learning from my former husband tha i am disfellowshipped, he writes the following: .
fb true friend: "xxxxx with tears in my eyes i will be deleting you but i want you as my sister again.
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losingit
Whathappened-- I hear you about not including Jehovah or Satan's name. I mean, for Christ's sake-- isn't this what you profess to believe? !??? Then spell it out and shout it out from the rooftops! Oh, excuse me, he must be *embarrassed* of his actions and is hiding from them. Sad.
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FB message from a "true" friend
by losingit ini thought i would share this fb message from someone who considers himself to be a "true" friend of mine.
after learning from my former husband tha i am disfellowshipped, he writes the following: .
fb true friend: "xxxxx with tears in my eyes i will be deleting you but i want you as my sister again.
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losingit
Whathappened-- I never had any dear friends df'd while in. Just saw ppl from a distance in the congregation, those I just used to say 'hi' and 'bye' to from the beginning. When they were df'd smetimes I smiled at them at the meeting. I never ran into anyone out n public. But you're right, when you're in that cult mindset you just follow blindly. It makes me sad.
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FB message from a "true" friend
by losingit ini thought i would share this fb message from someone who considers himself to be a "true" friend of mine.
after learning from my former husband tha i am disfellowshipped, he writes the following: .
fb true friend: "xxxxx with tears in my eyes i will be deleting you but i want you as my sister again.
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losingit
Bildad-- excellent post! I just told my brother, who is not a JW that I was df'd. Of course, he had no clue what that meant. As I went into detail, he was basically shocked. Amongst JWs there is *onl* cobditional love, just as that Question from the Reader expressed. :-(
Wallsofjericho- - exactly! I just thoight it was so odd that he didn't use Jehovah or Satan's name. I couldn't figure out what was going on. But just as you said, it's to steer away from confronting what's forcng him to drop his "dear" friends-- the WTBTS CULT!
BL Washington- - To behonest, my only friends were all my soon to be ex's friends first. In otger words, I've lost all of them. Haha! I only truly cared about 5 of them. Those were the ones I visited to tell them personally that I was getting DF'd. Truly tragic conversations with everyone sobbing. What makes ut worse is hat all the texts I received from them up until the night it was announced were all deleted from my phone bc it went haywire.:-( I miss *those* friends. Everyone else... well, it's sad, but not at the same level. This brother, for example, I felt sad mostly bc it remnded me of the "dear" friendships I lost.
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after sending him a Fb message to be a *true*brother to his brother, my BIL BLOCKED ME!
by losingit ini'm absolutely furious about it!
no message, just deletes me from his friends list-- which is fine.... but i can't even *message* him.
funny, the bum of a bil just had his district convention in his home country, which he attended with his mother and father.
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losingit
Anyways, the fb message was about showing trueChristian love to his brother, a la Jesus. Lol! This was his version of showing me Christian love. I'm laughing bc of how ridiculous it is! Life is good, life is truly good. :-)