Will be,
I tried the same thing, but I'm cyber challenged so I thought it was just me. If a cyber nerd can't do it I may not be so lame!! Nah, I'm lame. If Simon can help, you may have started something!
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62Simon, please update my profile picture!
by will-be-apostate ini've read on another thread you need to delete the cached file of the profile picture so that it can be updated by the gravatar user.
i created a gravatar account, added the email address i use on here and uploaded the an image, but nothing happens.
this was 3 days ago.. could you please solve this problem?.
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I Need Help Getting My Head Straight.......
by TTATTelder inone of the things i have been wresting with mentally is unraveling the "us vs. them" mentality that has been driven into my skull in the organization.. i am starting this thread seeking advice on how others have come to grip with this.. this is what i struggle with:.
i like the feeling/thought of being among people that live, or try to live, or at least know they ought to live by higher standards of conduct (maybe it is just what i'm used to...).
when you walk out of a convention of people dressed up, clean-cut, shaven, non-smoking, less-profanity-speaking, fairly orderly etc and see what greets you in the streets outside, it is a big contrast.. i am also still trying to understand how a religion that has conned people (so is morally wrong) could also be so well organized and have a lot of truly decent folks among their ranks.
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rebel8,
That's commonly called the Myers/Briggs Personality Type Indicator. This mother/daughter team followed up on Jung's work. David Kiersey has also added to it. One of his books, Please Understand Me (I think) is often used by marriage/parent counselors. I had a copy of it for years (loaned it). Companies have used the MBPTI test extensively for decades as a tool for hiring/promotions/team building, and trying to fit the right person in the right job. Entire countries have used Jung's premise to help in channeling youths into the vocations to which they are more likely to succeed given their personality type. MBPTI has its detractors, and it isn't 100 percent accurate, but, as you have experienced, it is darned close and has a lot of value.
An article last year suggested that certain MBPTI types have higher incomes than others.
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I Need Help Getting My Head Straight.......
by TTATTelder inone of the things i have been wresting with mentally is unraveling the "us vs. them" mentality that has been driven into my skull in the organization.. i am starting this thread seeking advice on how others have come to grip with this.. this is what i struggle with:.
i like the feeling/thought of being among people that live, or try to live, or at least know they ought to live by higher standards of conduct (maybe it is just what i'm used to...).
when you walk out of a convention of people dressed up, clean-cut, shaven, non-smoking, less-profanity-speaking, fairly orderly etc and see what greets you in the streets outside, it is a big contrast.. i am also still trying to understand how a religion that has conned people (so is morally wrong) could also be so well organized and have a lot of truly decent folks among their ranks.
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TTATT-E
I thought similarly when I exited the Borg, but I discovered quite soon that there are a lot of great people in the world - unlike what we were led to believe by the Dark Lords in the Tower. And their friendship isn't conditional. I have friends who are: Jewish, Black, Gay, Bi, Hindu, Muslim, Atheist, Christian (very), ex-Dubs. I love them all and I think the feelilngs are returned. The one thing they all have in common: they are all excellent, ethical people. I don't think about labels. I don't think any of them smoke, use drugs or cause any other harm. You will find out when you complete your exit. You are too close right now to clearly see it. Don't worry.
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Dating Advice needed
by KateWild inwell i joined two dating sites yesterday and i have had lots of messages.
a couple of guys want to chat to me by phone to get to know me better.
i've been asked out on two dates.
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DJS
A floozy? Now that's a name I've not heard in a long time. A long time. (ode to Star Wars). If you were a dude everyone would think you cool. No, your'e not a floozy (what the hell is a floozy anyway?). But I have a major crush on Lindsay Lohan, so I may not be the right person to ask! Change your language, especially the adjectives!!!!
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is going to a strip club a disfellowshipping offense?
by monis1 ini'm pretty sure it is, just wanted to confirm.
this would be someone who went once and only looked....
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Tal,
Stippers are exploited at times; I'm well aware of that. But I've noticed that the younger generation is 'fighting' back in their own way. If a girl can take her clothes off, be proud of it, stay away from drugs and the sex trade, and make killer cash to pay for school or baby, I think that is an empowering thing for women. A lot of them can and do. Some succumb to the dark side I'm sure. I know a lot, I mean my best friend tells me about a lot, who stay clean and pay the bills. And they are proud of it. Stripping isn't going away; it is here to stay. If the girls involved in it can empower themselves to use it to make money for a degree or a living, then it is no different than waiting tables or working as an accountant. And that's they way it should be.
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is going to a strip club a disfellowshipping offense?
by monis1 ini'm pretty sure it is, just wanted to confirm.
this would be someone who went once and only looked....
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Tal,
I certainly can't speak of your experience and won't try. I'm sure you are accurate. But my description is spot on for all of the strip clubs I've been to, in a number of cities. Some of the girls in this area stay at the same place for years. One was an ex Dub who did it for the money, raising her kid because baby daddy was gone. Some of the hotter strippers marry rich guys and live in big homes. At leat that's what i'm told. ;=). And the somewhere for the girls working their way through college is here where I live; I have personal knowledge of it. And there are more than a few, as your special characters indicate. It is not a rare phenomemon. From last month: And this is a lot more typical than you can imagine. Twenty four women at one strip club working their way through college. Could they all be lying? Of course, but the source is very credible. There are many other news articles about this. It is not rare, nor is it just 'somewhere.'
The G-String Scholarship: College Students Strip to Pay Tuition Costs
May 19, 2014 By JUJU CHANG and MICHAEL CAPPETTA JUJU CHANG More From Juju » Correspondent MICHAEL CAPPETTA More From Michael » via NIGHTLINE
Maggie is one of 24 women at Scores who are putting themselves through school and stripping to make as much money as possible before they get their diplomas. A fellow dancer, who asked to be called "Jade," is also a college student in New York, studying for five finals, who strips to pay for school.
“When I grow up, I’m hoping to become a forensic psychologist for the judicial system,” she said.
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is going to a strip club a disfellowshipping offense?
by monis1 ini'm pretty sure it is, just wanted to confirm.
this would be someone who went once and only looked....
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DJS
Fink, have you been to strip clubs? Magnets for sleazy unwholesome people? A cross section of people go to strip clubs, from businessmen to men whose wives are out of town to men who are out of town on business to blue collar guys. And the girls? The pareto principle applies. Twenty percent are typically ok and the other 80 typically never need to be naked in public. Ever. A few are smoking hot. Some clubs are upscale and the girls are prettier. Some of the girls really are working their way through school, some are supporting their baby daddy who is pushing pills or making meth, some are supporting their own habit, some have other jobs but supplement income and some are simply down and out and need quick cash. Again, a larger cross section than you might imagine.
Most strip clubs are a lot more boring than people might imagine. But given all of this, as long as a girl is working hard for her money I do not judge her. Nor do I judge men who want to see attractive young women naked. Anyway, that's what my best friend tells me about strip clubs. LOL! As for the Dubs, who cares what they beliieve, but it should be obvious that they would consider it 'loose conduct,' which means they could do whatever they please to you. When I was an elder, a long time ago in a galaxy far far away, 'unrepentent loose conduct' (I just hate that type of crap now) could be a DFing offense.
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If a Nuclear War Was to Start would you start praying again
by cassuk11 ini would be interested to know if the announcement came of an immenent nuclear war would you start praying or get drunk etc etc..
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LisaRose,
Cassuk suffers from the same malady as the other hard core theists and preachers; he can't see anything but straight lines and he can't think in any manner other than black and white. That was a feature of our time in the Borg. Most of us have moved beyond it. Perry and the other members of the new GB clearly haven't, iin addition to the intinerant preachers like Cassuk, ncluding thier use of highly charged, pejorative, archaic words to describe normal behavior. What he calls 'fornication' I call fun. What he and Holmes call sodomy I call negotiation. Their use of such words annoys me. They were written by narrow minded holier than thou old men thousands of years ago. Let's move on, please. LR, your posts are always spot on. Thanks.
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Dating Advice needed
by KateWild inwell i joined two dating sites yesterday and i have had lots of messages.
a couple of guys want to chat to me by phone to get to know me better.
i've been asked out on two dates.
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DJS
VG, not bad advice. And hopefully 'he' will be doing the same thing.
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Dating Advice needed
by KateWild inwell i joined two dating sites yesterday and i have had lots of messages.
a couple of guys want to chat to me by phone to get to know me better.
i've been asked out on two dates.
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DJS
Is dating multiple guys ethical? At the same time? Just kidding. In the last year I was on a few of the dating sites, for the first time. I think it is kind of expected on these sites that you will be checking out more than one person. I did, but I was honest as to my intentions. Most dates were one and done. I think it is also expected on these sites that, if you go out with someone a few times - and especially if sex is involved - that you will disable your account. Be careful with this, because if you are intimate with someone who you do not want a relationship with, they will almost certainly check out your account to see if you are still on looking. If this happens, expect some nasty emails/texts/phone calls. That's not an ethical issue unless you are misleading someone, but it is an annoying feature of these sites.
I learned the hard way to avoid giving my phone number until after I had met them. Email will work just fine, and those sites typically have their own internal email system. If you use yours, make sure it doesn't ID you. I have more crazy ass women stories than I care to relate. Harm no one. Be honest. Have fun. Wear protection (well, make him).
Back to dating multiple people: A few years ago, when I wasn't in the relationship mood (incapable actually) I dated a lot of different women at the same time. Juggling them gave me a charge. It was fun. And expensive. But I never lied to any of them or promised any of them anything, so I didn't have to look over my shoulder or avoid phone calls, etc. It was what it was. I never played on their affections or told them I loved them, they were my soul mate (Tiger Woods comes to mind), etc. If you go that route, just be honest. Promise nothing. Avoid relying on them or planning your day/week/month/year around them. And don't tell them you love them just to get them naked. Oh, that's us guys. Sorry.