Dave - you have GOT to write faster than this!
Just kidding, great reading. I can't wait for the rest.
Happyout
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My two week consulting trip to Bethel (the beginning of the end) part 2
by seven006 inas we entered a door of the administration building we did not head to the elevator to take us up the eight floors to the main administration floor.
i looked around the room and asked, "what's up with her?
i was going to work with the elder from hell who ran the photography department.
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Can Men & Women Just be Friends?
by Xena inthe wt says "no"... "when harry met sally" says "no"....what say you?????
is it possible to just be friends with the opposite sex?
and how do you feel when your significant other has a "best" friend of the opposite sex?
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I have had platonic friends my whole life, slept platonically with several of them, and lived with a guy for 6 weeks with no physical contact.
Can I say it never crossed their minds to take things in a different direction? No. But, I can honestly say, none of them ever tried it, joked about it, or insinuated it would be nice.
I love my friends!!
Happyout
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Just Get Over It?
by sens inin the last couple of days ive been reading info on the un & wts ...so have been pretty absorbed with the amount of info out there on the wts...
anyway...it hasnt been that long since i left the wts...and a close friend of mine (never a witness) said to me ,twice now, and rather strongly again today...
"its over, you have left, get over it...your obsessed with this, who cares, just get over it before it drives you mad...its really pathetic"
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Lady Lee hit it on the head as usual. Coming out of a cult and recovering is a process that can take years. Anyone who hasn't been in one may find it hard to understand. However, a true friend should have been just a bit more understanding, and not spoken in such a harsh manner. You might want to tell your friend Lady Lee's comparison, and see if that will help them better understand where you are coming from.
You don't have to worry about talking about it too much here, we're all eager to discuss all the time.
Happyout (who has been out for over 10 years, and still isn't over it)
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I would like advice from the women on this forum
by Eric ini don't believe i've ever started a topic here before.. ladies, ever wanted to play "matchmaker" or "advice for the lovelorn"?
well, i've got a situation that has me going in circles.
it's something i'm also talking about with the realtime women friends in my life, and they've been just great, but there is also huge resource of fabulous women here on jwd that will know about that other intangible aspect of our x-jw involvement and how it affects people, relationships and families, that the women i know will never quite grasp.. it is not, however, something i choose to discuss here.
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Eric,
That was a great apology, and I for one don't think you have ulterior motives. You were quick to understand why some women expressed concern, and that was really gentlemanly of you. Plus, I loved your response on the romance thread
FYI, I have an alias e-mail account that contains no personal information, and I only use it from my work computer, so it can't be traced to my home system. I understand why you might want to back out, but if you would like you can e-mail me there. Let me know if you are interested, and I will PM you.
Good luck with your issue.
Happyout
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How many ways can a man romance a woman??
by dancnfool_60 inhi everyone.i just wanted to see if i could get some help here for a male friend of mine.
he is having a hard time with the romance deptartment.
i gave him a few ideas of my own but i thought if i threw the question out there maybe i could get him some views on how to romance a woman..... thanks for any sugggestions.
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He got a kiss, and he was lucky to get that. Nice enough guy, but there was NO spark.
Happyout
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What is The Zaniest Thing You've Ever Done?
by Frannie Banannie inmy most zany thing was back in 1970 when i lived in maryland....i was working for the pr.
geo.
and also had a part time job in the evening working for giant food in their payroll/personnel dept.....one evening, my boss at giant food in hyattsville, phoned me and told me that a coworker of his was going to come down to the office and that if i would provide him with transportation to where they were meeting, i could have the rest of the evening off and he would write in my time as though i'd worked the whole evening as usual....great!
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I was a passenger in my girlfriend's car. She liked to drive really fast. While on the freeway (expressway, highway, whatever you call it where you are), we started flirting with a guy driving a hostess truck. He stuck a business card and cupcake out of his window, and I leaned out the passenger window and grabbed it. Now remember, he's in a truck, so I was sitting on the window, leaning out. We were doing approximately 50 miles an hour at the time.
It was fun, but looking back, I was a total idiot!!! And no, neither one of us ever called him.
Happyout
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Your Favorite Colloquialisms?
by Frannie Banannie inthought we could all share a few of our favorites...here's one i'm fond of....
"chaps my grits" is a southern colloquialism, referring.
to.....well, i guess you better know what grits is.
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Put you on blast
That means to tell everyone something about you, usually something you didn't want known.
Trifecta? You betcha!
Made when a basketball player makes a three point shot
He burned her
He gave her an STD
I love slang, colloquialisms, etc. Just don't know very much anymore (another sign that I'm aging)
Share everyone!!
Happyout
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Confusing Good Sex as Love
by Robdar ini will go for weeks, months, sometimes a year without sex.
then, if conditions are right and i am particulary attracted to a man, i will bed him.
if the lovin' is good, i might bed him again.
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This ties in with the whole Indecent Proposal thing (at least in a way). I can separate sex and love, and when I was single, I had a couple of bed buddies where the understanding was made at the beginning that it was just for fun, nothing serious. This was something so different from the JW mindset, that it took me a while to get over the guilt, BUT I DID!!
As long as it's open and honest, there is nothing wrong with good (safe) sex.
Happyout
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How many ways can a man romance a woman??
by dancnfool_60 inhi everyone.i just wanted to see if i could get some help here for a male friend of mine.
he is having a hard time with the romance deptartment.
i gave him a few ideas of my own but i thought if i threw the question out there maybe i could get him some views on how to romance a woman..... thanks for any sugggestions.
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Ok, first I have to call Nilfun out on her plagiarism of the song "One Hundred Ways" sung by James Ingram.
Second (pushes Joannadandy gently out of the way) I have to snuggle up to Eric
Third, BeautifulGarbage is right on the money from the married lady perspective.
Romance is really mostly in the mind. If he listens, remembers, and asks questions, especially when they are cuddling, he will be well on the way to winning her heart. Gifts are nice, but not the expensive stuff, the small and thoughtful stuff. Like, one guy I dated bought me a tin of teacakes, because I had mentioned to him how much I missed my grandmothers teacakes. They are not easy to find in California, and it really touched me that he went out of his way to get them. I had intended to break up with him that night, but that little gesture bought him another two weeks (not any nookie, though).
Good luck to "your friend"
Happyout
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Ethics at work
by joannadandy intoday i was listening to speaking of faith, a program on npr.. http://www.speakingoffaith.org/programs/2003/08/29_whistle/.
they were interviewing colleen rowley, the whistle blower who worked for the fbi and wanted to investigate mussoui, before september 11th.
she was, and so was the host, making the arguement that having a strong religious faith allows one to do the right thing in the face of adversity, and going against the grain, not following the herd blah blah blah.
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Sorry, Joannadandy, no argument here
It always ticks me off when something bad happens, and my mother says something stupid like "that's what happens with people in the world" or "people in the world don't have any morals" or the like.
People who get to know me are usually shocked that I am non - religious, because I am moral, ethical, and nice. I go out of my way to compliment people, smile at people, and generally behave in what has come to be known as a Christian manner.
I am more agnostic than anything, not sure I don't believe in God, but totally sure I don't understand such a being. I behave the way that I do because it makes me feel good inside, and because it's the right thing to do ( IMHO).
Happyout (waiting for a good sparring match on some other topic)