first i am home from school and on the board due to snow here in kc.
last night my daughter called, she had been at her old hs coaches house visiting he and his wife.
my daughter went to the bathroom leaving makayla with them and his wife gave her choclate ice cream.
I'm so glad Makalya (love that name!) is ok. I think this is a great example of why you don't feed infants ANYTHING without their parents permission. I can't believe how some people just assume it's ok to give a baby a little bit of this or that. Have a great day off from school.
Happyout
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ok...so the other day my husband(he is still an active witness) starts questioning me about why i come to x-jw sites.. he said the reason people come to these types of sites,is to convince themselves that they made the right decision to leave the"truth".i told him i come here to get support from others who feel they were tricked into believing something that wasn't true.he knows i feel my life has been taken away from me because i wasted so many years following their doctrines.i told him it helps me to know i am not alone in my feelings.he is still convinced that people are afraid they are wrong,and just come here to keep finding reasons to stay away from the "truth".he doesn't understand that we know what the real truth is.. i was just curious what everyone else thought about this.do you feel we are "convincing" ourselves that we made the right decision to leave?
I did my fade before I knew what the internet was, or how to use a computer. I come here because I need to associate with people who understand. If you have never been in and then left a high control group, you can't possibly understand the immense emotional baggage that you can carry around for life. I also came in an attempt to work out the bitterness I have for the organization that still has my family captive. Did this site convince me the org was wrong? Nope, I learned that all by my lonesome. Does it reassure me that I made the right decision? Maybe, because it keeps me up to date on the "new light" that is being spewed, and I realize how stupid it all is.
happy martin luther king day!.
i always look for good websites for my students to view and since today is mlk day i was in search of a good one for them to look at this week.
this one is from stanford university and has lots of documents, an interactive chronology, audio, quotes, etc... if the story of his life interests you then i highly recommend it.
TT, I am fairly sure you will feel the need to respond to this message, and that's ok. I am done with this. You keep calling the people who took exception to your initial statements racist, but you can't see how the tone of your message came across. Ok, it's sometimes hard to see ourselves as other see us. I am sure I am guilty of the same blindness. However, nothing you have ranted in your other messages did anything to dissuade me from my initial opinion, you come across as a bitter, unhappy person who is unable to recognize the good in others because you are too busy looking at the bad. And, whether or not you want to be realistic and admit it, adultery is generally seen as "bad" and that is the only thing you mentioned about DR. MLK in your first message.
However, just as I would not waste time on a JW who is stuck in their mind set and not ready to be free, I will not waste further time with you. It doesn't matter to you what others think, so it no longer matters to me what you think on this particular subject.
To the many others who are able to appreciate the good qualities of a flawed man, I think we are the better for it.
Peace.
this will be my first post with a specific topic.
i posted here yesterday for the first time.
i wanted to start by saying how nice it was to be so warmly welcomed by those of you that took a minute to say hi.
Hi, and did you report jesusforstealingyourhotrod?
I am sorry to hear of your brother's death, it's so hard to understand other's paths sometimes. I wish you and your family all the best. I hope you will find comfort and good friends on this board, it's been a real blessing to me. I think the question of God's existence is one that NO ONE can answer with certainty until the instant they die. You can think all you want, you can have all the "faith" you want, but you can't KNOW until you either meet him/her or you don't. Since I find comfort in prayer, I choose to believe there is a God, who has a higher purpose than my little pea brain can comprehend. That's what I believe, but I respect and understand those who disagree. Whatever you believe, I hope it helps you get through the day.
Take care, and welcome to the board.
Happyout
hi, everyone.. a week or so ago someone posted on the subject of black reparations and asked what our opinion was - pro or con - and why.
now, i'm not going to claim that i'm an expert on the subject, plus, i'm white, plus, i'm a back country red-neck (of the jeff foxworthy stripe .
well, the truth is that country red-necks are as badly misrepresented in public opinion as most other groups in the country.
I love the points made by Peggy McIntosh. It's so easy to overlook the daily issues that so many blacks face. I work in a mostly white environment, and I can't tell you how many times people have asked me "why do black people .....". It used to really irritate me, now I just joke about it. I say something like "I lost the last election, so I'm no longer able to speak on behalf of my race". I have never once thought to ask a white person, "why do white people ...." because I pretty much assume each individual does things for their own unique reasons. And the people the media presents as "black leaders". PLEASE! I don't agree with most of what Louis Farrakhan, Jessie Jackson, or Al Sharpton say, yet year after year, the media presents them as "black leaders". The media also talks about problems within the "black community". I have been in "black communities", and, at least in Los Angeles, these areas are no longer mainly black. There are a lot of latinos, asians, and some whites. However, it's still the "black community", I guess because it's poor.
All that aside, back to the issue of reparations, again, NO, I don't agree with the idea as has been presented. However, I do feel that too many people make light of the very real plight of black americans, and try to use the same tired labels (lazy, victims, looking for a handout) to describe an entire group of people, when in reality it applies to very few of them. Yes, there are blacks who sit back and collect welfare, feeling that the government owes them something. Yes there are blacks that victimize other blacks through violence, selling drugs, etc. But you know what? Those people, in my experience, are a minority. Most black people that I know (and I sure as hell don't know every one of them) are trying to work hard and make a better life for themselves and their families. But if you take even a cursory look at what's going on in America, you will see that the cards are still stacked against them. All the lawsuits that have been won because of discriminatory practices are no anomaly. And those are just the cases that were won and publicized. It's hard to explain the everyday issue of people treating you as different. If you are not a minority, you will probably never understand that feeling of being an outsider. And you don't have to understand, but you should at least recognize that it exists, and that the overt and covert racism is continuing to damage the psyche of an important group in America. You wouldn't tell an abused woman to "get over it", would you? I hope not. And yet, that's the blase attitude of so many people. The issue here is, how to correct a problem that is still ongoing. I agree, there needs to be pride taught, and self-esteem building done so that people will feel they can make it without being held back.
we're going to the superbowl!!!!!!!!!!!!.
go tampa bay!!!!!!!!!!.
yeeeeeeaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
RAIDERS WILL WIN THE SUPERBOWL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
actually, they may not, but I love talking trash
btw, this is what i was told.
.not necessarily what i believe!
(as my disclaimer).
Ok, I guess I shouldn't be on this site at work, because I just burst out laughing for no reason that my co-workers could ascertain. This was great!!
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if you could, what reparations would the wts have to make to you?
My youth. Not that I'm that old (39), but if I had not been a dub in my teens, I would have gone to college, and probably had a lot more money because of it. Since they can't give me back my youth, I would accept a universal apology for the lives they have destroyed, and a wholesale overhaul of their practices.
Think they'll go for it??
i'm a deskside support guy working for a service company, at one of their contracts.
i enjoy fixing things, although some of the customers could use a good knock on the skull sometimes.. i make pretty decent money for what i am doing.. for me, it's what i've wanted to do my whole life.
i had a computer from the time i was born, and love it since then.. what do you guys do to bring home the bacon?.
I work for a computer reseller, and I specialize in Microsoft licensing. Although I don't have a degree, I make a pretty good living, because I am the only person in my entire company who understands all the licensing programs. The down side is, there is absolutely no upward mobility for me, and I haven't had a raise in two years. I think I have peaked at this company, so if anyone in the South Bay of Southern California is looking for someone with my skills, drop me a line!
happy martin luther king day!.
i always look for good websites for my students to view and since today is mlk day i was in search of a good one for them to look at this week.
this one is from stanford university and has lots of documents, an interactive chronology, audio, quotes, etc... if the story of his life interests you then i highly recommend it.
Tom Talley,
I am not long on this board, and so I won't pretend to know the personalities of those on this board, but this is the second time you have felt the need to seriously demean a so called "black American hero". Not sure why, but so far it has given me a negative opinion of your views on blacks. I really hope this is an incorrect opinion, because there are other issues I have agreed with you on.
As for "celebrating", I simply said we should strive to be like him. Hopefully, the unbiased people reading my message would realize I meant his teachings of equality attained through peaceful means. His willingness to sacrifice his life for the good of others. His selfless giving of time and energy to a cause he believed in. If you don't think those qualities are worth admiring, than you are poorer for your cynicism.
I NEVER tout people as being without faults, that would be stupid. But I am able to recognize, admire, and respect their good qualities. My god, if you judge everyone only by their mistakes, then you are a lonely person. You would also need to be a person without much self respect, as I would venture a guess that you are not perfect either.
Please stop throwing unnecessary stones.
