So I won't blow this opportunity and have decided to just pay the plumbing bill.
And as you said in your OP,
and say if you want to talk I am here for you.
when i left the watchtower i realised it was best to put friendships on hold.
however i mentioned to my best friend that i didn't agree with how they handled child abuse issues and that was one of the reasons i left.. anyway as i am fortunate and own two rental apartments and he is a plumber so we have kept in contact, in that i email him when i require his services and he sends me the invoice.
anyway i am now dissociated, but yesterday i emailed him about a pluming problem, and he replied.. " sorry we missed going to the indian ( this was a comment made about us having a meal together about 9 months ago, which i backed out of because i felt he was too indoctrinated and i had not disassociated myself) anyway his email continued:-.
So I won't blow this opportunity and have decided to just pay the plumbing bill.
And as you said in your OP,
and say if you want to talk I am here for you.
well tomorrow is a big day for me.
i'm finally going to be interviewed by the police about what happened to me as a kid.. im running the whole gamut of emotions at the moment.
sad, anxious, angry, guilt, fear and many more that cannot be quantified.. i feel physically sick, cannot sleep, have lost my appetite and i am desperately trying not to self harm.. i've got my sister to thank for getting this far.
"I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." Nelson Mandela
i know we are all anonymous for our own personal reasons, so i understand if you would rather not say.
but if you don't mind sharing that would be cool.
i currently live in georgia, usa.
@ pontoon
You're right, Upstate New York is too vague (unless someone wants to BE vague). I'm from the Adirondacks.
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i know we are all anonymous for our own personal reasons, so i understand if you would rather not say.
but if you don't mind sharing that would be cool.
i currently live in georgia, usa.
tonight on the abc network (in the usa) they will be doing an in depth interview with leah remini who was a scientologist for 30 years.
i saw a preview and there is a lot of talk about shunning.
“The decision to leave is you are giving up everything you have ever known and everything you have worked for your whole life.” Remini says the best thing she ever did was leave Scientology. "I feel that people need to understand this has been my whole life. I want them to understand how it happens,” she said.
hi.i've been pouring over this site for the past few days looking for some advice and i hope there is someone here that can help a guy out.
i'm desperate.....short bio: i came into the organization after high school and shortly after married a wonderful girl who was born-in.we have been happily married now for nearly 20 years and things were well until 2015 hit.
by the way, i currently serve as an elder and have the ""privilege"" of being the "watchtower overseer".. either here nor there, we were told we would never have children but late last year my wife became prego!!
ABibleStudent suggested reading Steven Hassan's book, "Combating Cult Mind Control." A number of other posters here also recommend Hassan's books. Their posts share much of what helps reach those in cults and what makes things worse. You might check out what they have to say if you can't get the book right away.
I'm so sorry for all you and your wife have gone through and hope you both can find peace.
there were always all types of speakers in the org.
myself, growing up a "witness", must have heard all types of talks, and given by all manner of speakers, especially on sundays, when almost every week we would get a "visiting" brother giving the public talk.. sometimes, you would have a "great" speaker, all fluent and animated.
other times we would get a comical speaker, one who would maybe purposelly get a few laughs outta the audience.
During the Watchtower study, a sister was talking about Jesus' entry into Jerusalem and said that he rode in on the "ass of a colt." She realized what she said and immediately corrected herself: He rode in on a "colt's ass."
i notice that while a search of the wt library reveals many references to homosexuals, there are few references to lesbians.. does the wts include women when it uses the term homosexual?.
when discussing masturbation, does it mention both sexes?.
i am asking out of pure ignorance, seeking clarification.. my only comment is that religion of every shade has difficulty with the subject of sexual activity, as if it were something that is not part of nature.. doug.
Diogenesister
"...as a teenager...I felt more guilted...
as if I was a freak for being a girl with a sex drive."
As well you should, Diogenesister, as well you should. A public speaker giving a talk on marriage discussed the need for communicating one's desires in order to have a happy sex life. Apparently only the husbands needed to do the communicating, however, because wives would gain happiness not by focusing on their own desires but by working to fulfill their husbands'.
This was no old fogey of a Witness; he was probably only in his thirties. I felt sorry for his wife if he believed what he was saying and lived in harmony with it.
If I remember correctly, a similar point of counsel was made in one of the magazines. How edifying.
you see ive started dating this girl and her family is of strong jehova belief.
now i am not i do see certain things in there studie that is true in my opinion but ive never really been a religion type of person.
i think i want to marry her but i am not a jehovas witness and am not looking to be anytime at all she says that is ok and we can still get married but i dont know how its possible or where we would even do it please i need advice
If I understand you correctly, you're concerned about where or how you could get have the wedding. Depending on where you live, that's the easy part. You could have a civil marriage, perhaps being married by a judge. (If you're not a Witness, you can NOT be married at the Kingdom Hall.)
What you really need to worry about, though, is what your life will be like AFTER you're married. That's the really hard part if you marry a Witness.
you see ive started dating this girl and her family is of strong jehova belief.
now i am not i do see certain things in there studie that is true in my opinion but ive never really been a religion type of person.
i think i want to marry her but i am not a jehovas witness and am not looking to be anytime at all she says that is ok and we can still get married but i dont know how its possible or where we would even do it please i need advice