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  My mother passed away this morning...

  by Tatiana in

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  for any old-school ex-jws here that remember my many posts about my abusive jw mother and my sister committing suicide because of it...she passed away this morning because she began to bleed out and refused a transfusion.

  she had been in the hospital for a month.

  it appears she suffered a stroke and wasn't found by the brothers & sisters for three days (they missed her at the meetings).

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  I certainly remember you...

  I have yet to experience the confusing feelings of having a JW parent passing away. I can only imagine what it's like. Hope you're holding up okay.
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  When was the last time you cried?

  by UsuaIusern@me in

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  when was the last time you cried?.

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  The last time was Christmas day.

  I was going through the bulk of my divorce, I didn't have any money to buy presents for my kid, my girlfriend of over 1 year (whom I was very much in love with) ended our relationship one week prior, my furnace had broken down the day before, I had been in a vehicle accident two weeks prior, and to top it all off, a Christmas dinner which I was very much looking forward to was canceled.

  I put a war movie on and bawled my eyes out for two hours. It was well deserved.
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  I have found a girlfriend, but there is something I've been hiding from her

  by ronweasley in

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  all is well and good in my life right now :) with one small catch... i have a secret that i have hidden from my girlfriend.. for the first time since coming out of the borg, i have found romance.

  i was lucky to meet a girl called romilda (name has been changed), and we get on like a house in fire.

  we have been in a relationship for a few days now, but some of my friends have pointed out that i should be honest with her and be straight about my sexuallity.

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  Someone told me a general rule about fetishes that I think would apply in this situation. If you're comfortable enough to fart around her, then you're comfortable enough to tell her your deepest sexual thoughs.

  Congrats on finding a woman! Feels great after absinance :)
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  Letter from and to my JW Niece

  by Nosferatu in

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  my niece is on fb.

  she's a very creative and lovely person, but she's the only other family member i have who's a jw.

  her mother got booted out for smoking, and her brother just seems to know it's a bunch of crap.. on fb, i posted a funny status update that went something like this: "my mother brought me up and hoped that i would grow into a career that would fulfill her dreams.

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  My niece is on FB. She's a very creative and lovely person, but she's the only other family member I have who's a JW. Her mother got booted out for smoking, and her brother just seems to know it's a bunch of crap.

  On FB, I posted a funny status update that went something like this: "My mother brought me up and hoped that I would grow into a career that would fulfill her dreams. Unfortunately, I didn't become a Watchtower magazine salesman. "

  Hey, I thought it was funny! Unfortunately, she didn't and sent me the following message:

  hey uncle ben, hows things going? i love ya and miss ya lots but ive been noticing some of your status', dont get me wrong everyone is entitled to there own opinion. but i would like to let you know that witnesses do not sell there literature, and we were made to have free will and choose the way in which we want to lead our lives. you can choose to do or say whatever you want its up to you. i choose to follow principals that help benefit me along with the other over 7 million witnesses in the world and ive been doing pretty good. i am trying to be polite in stating my opinion in saying that when i see your posts of little jokes about the witnesses, your also making jokes about me. now i know i can just pass by those posts and keep scrolling and ignore it but i just wanted to let you know it kinda hurts my feelings in some of the things you say. but anyways i dont mean to bother you, say hi to little Theo for me and i hope to see you both soon

  Here was my response:

  I know that they currently don't sell their literature, but when I was growing up in it, they did. Along with that, I was raised to believe that Armageddon was going to come before those who saw the events of 1914 pass away. I grew up believing this "truth" throughout most of my life. They ended up changing that "truth" when you were 3 years old, so you're not going to remember it.
  
  As for making jokes about my experience as a JW, it's a great way to take being raised as one with a grain of salt. When I was regularly attending meetings, I was marked as "bad association" (why is beyond me) and all the parents in the congregation essentially told their kids to stay away from me. So I couldn't have any friends in The World because they were bad association, and I couldn't have any friends in the congregation because I was bad association. Pretty much nobody would talk to me at the Kingdom Hall. Then when I missed a meeting, everyone would tell me that they "missed me" at the last meeting. How could anybody miss me when they didn't bother associating with me?
  
  Not everyone was bad in the congregation. The ones who actually seemed to be genuine loving and caring people were marked as "weak in the truth" because they didn't make every meeting. Whenever I run into those people in public these days, they still enjoy talking to me. Whenever I run into those who never bothered to associate with me, they either ignore me to tell me to go back to the meetings. The last time I attended a Kingdom Hall was for a funeral in the year 2000 for someone who was "weak in the truth". The others who were "weak in the truth" enjoyed talking to me while those who were "strong in the truth" either completely ignored me or told me that I needed to come back to the meetings.
  
  In short, I did not see any real genuine love in the organization and the ones who actually did show it or had the potential to show it were called out by the Watchtower articles as questionable people. I got tired of letting "The Truth" make me feel like an unworthy person after I quit going to the meetings, so I prefer to look upon the whole experience the same way the average non-witness sees it - a bizarre, strange and perhaps a funny way of living life. The only difference between me and someone who has never been a JW is I know how it works on the inside because I've been there.
  
  You can either view my humorous take on it as an attack on you, or you can take it as me making light of a bad experience from my past. That part is entirely up to you.
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  New Light on 1914

  by TowerWatch in

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  2. bible

  recently someone posted a link to the watchtower article explaining why jehovahs witnesses no longer believe that jesus returned in 1914. could someone help me by posting that link again please?

  thank you!.

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  OMG, really? 11,000 anointed can't be wrong!
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  Atheist Blogger Visits Kingdom Hall

  by Bangalore in

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  atheist blogger visits kingdom hall.. .

  http://doubtingmark.wordpress.com/2013/06/04/jehovahs-witness-kingdom-hall-ballard/.

  bangalore.

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  Are people actually supposed to stay after the "Public Talk"?
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  Oblivious to Father's Day

  by Nosferatu in

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  hey all, it's been a long time since i posted here.

  life's been having its ups and downs, but that's a subject for another day.. anyway, this year i thought it would actually be nice to spend father's day with my kid.

  his mom usually has him for sundays and for past father's days, i didn't mind because he was still kinda too young to realize what the day was about.

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  i dont read a witness connection in your post?

  I was raised one from ages 5-18. My parents never celebrated fathers day. I really haven't had much of a clue when it is.

  I messaged my ex and she's going to let me have him for tomorrow, so I'm happy about that. :)

  It's funny how oblivious I am to holidays and even Christmas carols even though it's been 17 years since I've been to a meeting. It's like I can't unlearn how to ignore what holidays come when, and how to avoid lyrics to popular Christmas songs.
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  Oblivious to Father's Day

  by Nosferatu in

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  hey all, it's been a long time since i posted here.

  life's been having its ups and downs, but that's a subject for another day.. anyway, this year i thought it would actually be nice to spend father's day with my kid.

  his mom usually has him for sundays and for past father's days, i didn't mind because he was still kinda too young to realize what the day was about.

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  Nosferatu

  Hey all, it's been a long time since I posted here. Life's been having its ups and downs, but that's a subject for another day.

  Anyway, this year I thought it would actually be nice to spend Father's Day with my kid. His mom usually has him for Sundays and for past Father's Days, I didn't mind because he was still kinda too young to realize what the day was about. This year is a bit different. This weekend, she had asked if she could take him earlier because they were going to go fishing. I rarely have a Friday night to myself, so I agreed that she could take him. I had no idea that Father's day was this Sunday. So now I'm kicking myself for being so damn stupid in not realizing that it was this Sunday. I don't get to spend it with him :(
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  It's been a while, just popping in

  by Nosferatu in

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  there's probably a lot of people here who don't remember me.

  the short of it is i was dragged into the cult at the age of five, left at age 18 and have never looked back.. .

  there really isn't much for jw issues affecting my life, although i had to give my mother shit for trying to indoctrate my child.

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  Thanks for all the well wishes? My ex-wife is not a JW. Maybe she should be :D

  Hard to believe I wrote that Nigerian Scam thread ten years ago. I should go back and read it sometime for a good laugh.
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  It's been a while, just popping in

  by Nosferatu in

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  there's probably a lot of people here who don't remember me.

  the short of it is i was dragged into the cult at the age of five, left at age 18 and have never looked back.. .

  there really isn't much for jw issues affecting my life, although i had to give my mother shit for trying to indoctrate my child.

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  There's probably a lot of people here who don't remember me. The short of it is I was dragged into the cult at the age of five, left at age 18 and have never looked back.
  
  There really isn't much for JW issues affecting my life, although I had to give my mother shit for trying to indoctrate my child. I told her that religion was MY job to teach him and not her stupid, twisted version of it full of lies. She's been good since then.
  
  So here's what's been happening lately. I kicked out my wife over two years ago for cheating on me (with her best friend's husband). She got pregnant six months later, and my son now has a half-brother.
  
  The divorce is finally going through. I can't lie, it's been stressful trying to come up with money to pay for my lawyer. My ex's dad was nice enough to give me $400 to help pay for my lawyer fees. That's certainly one way to say "my daughter's a friggin' idiot". I've been working on raising funds for the divorce by selling some stuff I have kicking around here and setting up a donation button on my website (along with requesting people to click on ads). It's going not too badly, and I think I've got enough money to help me for the time being.
  
  I've got my son for half the time. I would like him for more, but from what I hear it's pretty difficult to get that accomplished. I honestly don't want to pay her child support since she'll blow it on crap for herself. That's one area of the law that needs to be revamped.
  
  Now, onto the positives... I met a girl (it always starts that way, doesn't it?) She's been absolutely fantastic. I think my ex is a bit jealous since my gf is 11 years younger than her, and about 1/3 of her size.
  
  She's been going through her own religious transition, and I've been nothing but encouraging for her. She still lives at home. Her parents are ex-hutterites, but they still have religion firmly placed in their lives. My gf has been working on a life without religion and God, and it's been both exciting and difficult for her. Since she's living at home rent free, she still has to pay by attending church every Sunday. She finds it all extremely boring and finds it bothersome that she has to listen to things that she no longer believes.
  
  She's been an absolutely fantastic companion for me, and would have been a better match for me than the bitch I married. Oh well, we're all young and stupid at some point.
  
  Hope all of you are doing well in your various stages of recovery and transition. Life can certainly be a rollercoaster, but the ride can eventually slow down and even end. I never thought that my post-WT years would be so calm.