Fine, use whatever terminology you choose. If I *judged* Yizuman, fine whatever. My point is that I find it very odd that someone would come to this forum and within days start requesting money. In many web groups/sites, it is a written rule that no one may ask for money or financial assistance. Now, I don't know if Simon has that written rule here, but that's besides the point. I simply find it strange to ask complete strangers for money, especially when they are so new to the group.
I would completely understand if Yizuman had posted his situation in the sense of inquiring of everyone here if anyone knows of where he can get financial assistance, through government agencies, churches, private organizations, etc. THEN, if anyone here chose to OFFER him assistance perhaps through private email, that would be different and up to each individual. But, to come to a web site and begin directly asking for money, I feel is going too far.
"Defensive" and maybe even Protective of Jesika? You betcha! If I felt that someone/anyone might be a possible threat to someone I care about, you bet I'm gonna speak up! BUYER BEWARE!