I lean more towards the "tough" side. I don't like to show my emotions, so if or when I get teary eyed I usually leave the room. I pretty much just let stuff roll right on past me and not get worked up about stuff. But if I get really mad, look out!
Posts by Lin
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42Are You Tough, Or Are You A Baby?
by minimus inif you were to describe your temperment, would you say that you are a pretty tough person or a crybaby?
do you wear your heart on your sleeve and tend to be emotional, or do you let things just bounce off of you?
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Support groups for xjws?
by wednesday ini know i remember seeing a site online about a actual support group (one that meets in person) in the dallas metorplex area.
seems like they meet once a month or something.
anyone in this area know anything about this?
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Lin
Here ya go:
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Can you get DF'd for associating with DF'd ones?
by madison149 inmaybe that's a stupid question.
i always thought you could get disfellowshipped for associating with ones who are disfellowshipped.
however, i seem to remember something in the "secret" elders manual (which my husband found in it's entirety online a couple of years ago, but which we haven't been able to find again) which said that a person would not get disfellowshipped for associating with a disfellowshipped family member.
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Lin
Yes, you can be df'd for associating with df'd ones.
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Could you trust someone who has been sexually abus
by Jesika inabused to babysit for your children???
i was thinking about this today, in light of my son's well being, being questioned.
stats show that people who have been sexually abused go on to later abuse someone else.
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Lin
Jes, it would depend on the person. Like, I wouldn't trust my son with anyone's child, and you know which son I'm talking about. It all depends on the person, and I know you would never hurt a soul. I wouldn't be concerned about you abusing any child. No way.
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Breaks my heart
by MrMoe inthe other day a foster mom asked if she could talk to me for a moment.
it seems a little boy i become more than close to here at the school will be up for adoption very soon, as his parents will not be allowed to have contact with him after years worth of thier case being reviewed due to child abuse and neglect.
she asked me if i would like to raise him and adopt him as my own.
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Lin
That's a beautiful story MrMoe...this child sounds like he needs lots of love and attention.
His foster mother is good, she takes care of all her Foster kid's needs (there are 5 in all,) materially anyhow. But she provides little in relation to emotional support or bonding.
I guess I feel the love and attention, bonding etc, is much more important than the material provisions. Having an abundance materially won't make up for the loss of someone who really love them and shows it openly and regularly.
Hugs MrMoe...
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Breaks my heart
by MrMoe inthe other day a foster mom asked if she could talk to me for a moment.
it seems a little boy i become more than close to here at the school will be up for adoption very soon, as his parents will not be allowed to have contact with him after years worth of thier case being reviewed due to child abuse and neglect.
she asked me if i would like to raise him and adopt him as my own.
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Lin
((((((((((((((((MrMoe))))))))))))))))))) I feel for you man! We can only do what we can do, hugs to you. I'm sorry this is painful for you.
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LIN'S ONLINE BRIDAL SHOWER :)
by Adonai438 inwe can't be with lin in person for her big day but we can use her as an exuse to have a little fun *grin*.
every day until her big day i'm going to post a bridal shower game/activity .
-if i can find enough-lol- .
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Lin
LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You guys/gals CRACK me up!!!! LB, you are one of a kind! LOL!!!! Theenie, don't ever change!!! LOL!!!
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Chicago, Waukegan, North Chicago and Los Angeles
by sableindian inlooking for folks in the waukegan, north chicago and south side of chicago area.
also los angeles morningside congregation.
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Lin
Well, I attended the Palatine Congregation (north suburb), Burbank Congregation (southwest suburb) for many years.
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Til death do us part - divorce
by Lady Lee inwedding vows .
til death do us part
(note: although i speak about women here this can easily be reversed) .
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Lin
Lady Lee and Utopian, this was my experience too. I stayed married to an abusive jw man for fifteen long years. After he would hurt me, he'd cry big crocodile tears and beg me to forgive him etc and for a long time I didn't feel I a choice BUT to forgive him and believe all that baloney he was spewing. I honestly don't know how I came to the firm decision that I would divorce my husband despite what the religion/elders/family and the fact that I have/had six children to provide for, but I somehow did it.
After everything I had been put through, I vowed I would never again be with a man who would hurt me. I became extremely "picky" about the man I would date, and at the first hint or red flag that indicated the man had/has a violent temper he was history. Sometimes it would become clear within a very short time, days even after going out the first time, when they'd make derogatory comments about their ex or previous girlfriend etc. I figure, if they'll talk about them that way, he'll talk about me that way.
I met and went out/dated for nine long years before I found the "right one". I'm so glad I was picky. I wish I could understand better how and why so many woman go from one abusive relationship to the next, somehow believing that's all they deserve. I just don't understand. I will never suffer that way again.
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Let The Lambs Tell Us What They Need.
by Englishman inthis isn't about the running of silentlambs.org.
this is about the people themselves who have been abused.
this is from someone who has never suffered from abuse, who is trying to understand the needs of those who have.. how can those who have not been abused help those of us here who have, and what can we do that would be really useful to those persons?.
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Lin
I guess I feel much like RevMalk in that helping others has helped me too. Helping someone else by really being able to understand and empathize with their experiences, giving them a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, etc helps them and helps me too. Each of us heal in different ways and stages, and no one can be rushed or pushed. I think everyone here has been wonderful in allowing many of us "lambs" to say what we feel, what we've experienced, letting us vent or rage without fear of how others will react to our comments. Many of our stories are similar in some ways and in other ways they're so different, but they still happened to us. For me, being a "lamb" and having children who are "lambs" is a very difficult and heart-wrenching thing to deal with. Dealing with my own memories and pain, and then to also deal with those of two of my children sometimes causes me to want to scream out obscenities into the air. Yet at the same time, I find great personal comfort in helping others who've experienced much the same or similar things as I.