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  Now I'm REALLY mad!!!

  by Lin in

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  as most of you know, i am getting married next may.

  don't worry, .

  that's not my problem.

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  SJ, this is really becoming tedious. Although my youngest daughter now lives with her father, it is not and should not be a reflection on me personally, as if I've perhaps done something where she now lives with him in Illinois. That is not the casen at all. I had all of my children after my divorce here with me. As they became teenagers they, one by one, came to me and said they felt they didn't really know their dad since some of the kids were very young at the time of the divorce. There was no court action involved, each at different times and different years since '93 have wanted to spend some time living with their father and "see how it goes". That was it, nothing more and nothing less. They were born up north and like it up there, whereas I do not like it up north. One of my kids wanted to attend the well-known college in Chicago, and likes the winters. skiing etc. I do not like those things up there, hence I'm in Texas. The great majority of my kids lived with me until they turned 15 or 16. My youngest decided just this past January that she wanted to go up there, because she was missing her brothers and sisters and wanted to "spend a year there and see how it goes". So, in January she went up there. It's really no big deal. We talk very often, with each of the kids very often. Just last night as a matter of fact. We are separated by miles only, but nothing else.

  I am not estranged from Melanie at all, and we talk as often as we can between her work schedule, school, friends, etc. The same goes with the other kids. My comment about my considering not having her be in my wedding was simply my venting about the secrecy she was attempting between herself and Jesika, and her method of trying to get what she wanted. I never said anything about it to Melanie at all and have no intention to, I was simply venting.

  There is nothing wrong or strange or whatever word you want to use for Melanie to pay for her own dress she will wear in my wedding. Bridesmaids typically pay for their own dress, and Melanie being my GROWN daughter should have nothing to do with who pays for her dress.

  The rest of this I neither have the time or inclination to reply to, as it makes no difference. The matter has been settled, and I won't comment further.
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  Pet Peeves

  by jgnat in

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  i am bored today.

  want to help me make a list of pet peeves?

  any subject.

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  Toilet paper rolling from underneath rather than the Proper (LOL) way Over the Top!
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  Now I'm REALLY mad!!!

  by Lin in

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  as most of you know, i am getting married next may.

  don't worry, .

  that's not my problem.

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  SJ, It appears you misunderstood something or didn't read my comment about Melanie NOT being the victim, but is a different daughter who sticks up for Andre no matter what. Below is the comment I made about this that I guess you missed somehow.

  Please everyone, I hope I made myself clear, Melanie is not the victim Andre hurt. The victim was my youngest daughter Heather. Melanie just sticks up for Andre about everything, and it means nothing to her that he's a master liar and manipulator. Of course, with the wording of her email to Jesika, sounds like she's picking up on some of the manipulating herself.

  The only child that I am estranged from is my son. Some of my older kids have had their troubles, but Andre is the only one I'm "estranged" from. Melanie is actually one of my Bridesmaids in my upcoming wedding.

  The reason I think Melanie told Jesika not to tell me that she was coming down to visit her brother, is because Melanie has yet to pay anything towards her dress for the wedding, even though she's told me she would. My thinking is that Melanie doesn't want me to know that she's spending the money on a trip to see her brother and run around town doing God knows what, rather than paying for her dress.

  I couldn't care less if she talks or visits with her brother. My anger comes from the way she attempted to manipulate Jesika with wording in her email. That is all. Case closed.
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  Paths along the way, after the borg, experiences?

  by LyinEyes in

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  all of us who were once jw's have had a hard time trying to find our place in the world.

  many have just begun their journey since leaving the borg, only recently.

  others have put it far behind them many years ago, even decades they have been away from it.

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  LyinEyes, I would say it's definitely easier for those who weren't born and raised a dub. They at least have a "before dubhood" image of themselves, who they were, what they were doing, holidays and birthdays enjoyed etc. Those of us raised our entire lives in it have a much harder time because it literally was all we knew. But don'tcha all worry about me, I'll be jus fine. :-)
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  A pic of Lin

  by WildHorses in

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  i hope it isn't to big.

  ok, all you with your minds in the gutter.

  it's not what your thinkingedited by - lilacs on 24 september 2002 11:42:35.

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  LOL, thanks for the compliments.

  LyinEyes, yes I have kids in their twenties. Actually I have six, yes 6 children. Three boys and three girls. LOL I know, I know.....SIX KIDS?!!!! LOL Yeah, jus call me Fertile Myrtle. LOL Yes Jesika is my niece.

  I'm a ripe 42. :-)
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  I think I landed my dream job, y'all!!!

  by LDH in

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  ok those of you that know me personally know that i sit on a ton of event committees, usually for non-profits benefitting kids.

  yes, it is very rewarding but there is no paycheck.

  this has not been an issue for us.

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  Congratulations!!! Fingers crossed for ya!!!!!
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  I need some input...

  by Lin in

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  hi everyone, something has been on my mind lately and i would really appreciate some comments.

  i've posted a few topic discussions on my story as a dub, recent dicoveries of wt tampering with the bible translations they use and the subsequent emotions that came from learning that so many things i was taught growing up are lies, and about visiting various churches (chuck swindoll etc).

  here's what has been on mind the last few days.

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  GoldMorning and Capbuster, thank you.

  Goldmorning, I do remember you. I understand completely what you wrote, I feel it. It's a new thing to me needless to say, so these experiences that keep happening cause me to say Woah, what was that? You know? It's odd to have these things happening, because I'd never experienced them before. I do know and believe wholeheartedly that my heart and mind is open to whatever it is God chooses for me to do. I have have times where I've thought that I wanted to just completely distance myself from the entire subject of my Dubhood, my childhood, this board and the others I'm a part of. But........then I suddenly get an email from someone who has seen my posts on Silentlambs, my history posted, and they email me with questions about dubhood, their history much like mine, etc. And I feel COMPELLED to reach out to them, helping them in whatever way I can according to the need they each express to me. Sometimes it's been where they want/need a contact local to them to talk to (an example, one 61 yr. old lady who'se bestfriend/fleshly sister recently passed away and she felt all alone, since she's DA) I was able to put her in contact with people local to her, along with [email protected] for woman just like us. I feel no sense of pride over these things, as if I've done so much. I only feel as though this is what God is wanting me to do right now, help others in whatever way I can. If there's an issue or problem someone has that I don't have knowledge or experience enough to be of help, I know where the help can be found, and I find it for them and pass it on.

  Even my fiance doesn't/can't understand why I feel so strongly about my need to help current, questioning dubs, and those who've left already. I simply have told him that I feel as though I'm in a unique position having had the life I've had so far. I can either push it all back in my mind, trying to forget all I can, never speak of any of it again etc, or...........I can USE my past as a way of helping others who need and ask for it. I told him I feel this is what God is wanting me to do right now, as it brings me further healing and I'm doing good for others. He doesn't have a problem per se about my participation in all these areas, he simply has never had the experiences I've had so he cannot relate. But he did tell me that if I feel this is something God has drawn me to do, then he can't and won't even hint that he has a problem with the time it takes. He's truly a wonderful man, and I adore him.

  My prayer many, many years ago for God to bless me with a good and loving man has been answered in Larry. My wedding day can't come fast enough. :-)
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  A pic of Lin

  by WildHorses in

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  i hope it isn't to big.

  ok, all you with your minds in the gutter.

  it's not what your thinkingedited by - lilacs on 24 september 2002 11:42:35.

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  Does it show up or the darn X again?
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  A pic of Lin

  by WildHorses in

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  i hope it isn't to big.

  ok, all you with your minds in the gutter.

  it's not what your thinkingedited by - lilacs on 24 september 2002 11:42:35.

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  Thank you, thank you!!! Lookie everybody, this is me!
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  Now I'm REALLY mad!!!

  by Lin in

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  as most of you know, i am getting married next may.

  don't worry, .

  that's not my problem.

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  Windchaser....Jes is right. The S.O.B died many years ago of heart failure. Go figure. We had moved away by then and my son didn't know he had died so he kept the secret from us until he was arrested for hurting my youngest daughter.

  TraumaHound, how do I get the info online? I know there's a thing called Public Data, but I don't know anything about it.

  Please everyone, I hope I made myself clear, Melanie is not the victim Andre hurt. The victim was my youngest daughter Heather. Melanie just sticks up for Andre about everything, and it means nothing to her that he's a master liar and manipulator. Of course, with the wording of her email to Jesika, sounds like she's picking up on some of the manipulating herself.