OK, since I seem to be getting responses from guys and there's no way anyone I know will see this,I will tell you the story. The quick version of our life is both JW's, married 27 years, two kids, fed up with everything about the truth, stopped attending 20 years ago but not shunned by my family till 3 yrs ago. His family, not witnesses. Great marriage, hardly ever fight, great sex, good kids who are not at home any more. I know it's cliched but he's my best friend, my lover, my rock. Last fall I sat down at the computer without realizing that it was his desktop that was open. I clicked on what I thought were my bookmarks and his popped up. There were several that were XXX so I looked. Can you blame me? Most wre pretty standard and it's not that I care, we're not exactly prudes, but one was a SMBD site that was pretty out there, way beyond anything we've tried or even talked about. So I looked around. Well you can post on this site and there was a man posting on it "looking for a woman or women to learn with" , that he wanted someone willing to explore and that he didn't have anyone to share his desire with. Well it was my husband right down to his education, volunteer work and music preferences. You can imagine my reaction, but I wanted to know if it was real or just a fantasy, you know bullshitting on the web. So I set up a an account on the site with a made up name and profile and I started messaging him that I was interested. I took it as far as getting him to say that he would be interested in meeting me before I cracked and confronted him. Probably I should have finished it and aranged a meeting but that would have taken another week at least and I couldn't fake it anymore. Well I'll spare you all the details but he said he didn't think he would have actually met me (her), and he was just curious and being stupid. and that seeing how devastated I was made him realize how much I meant to him. So after a lot of talking and crying and make up sex, we worked it out. We decided to try some new things, which we did, but nothing extreme. and eventually the whole thing kind of disappeared and things have been back to normal with what I thought was a new closness between us. And for a while he wasn't looking at porn sites because I asked him not to but eventually I told him I didn't really care as long as I got the benefit from it. So yesterday I used his laptop cause it's way better than our old computer and I looked at the history for something and discovered that he is looking at bondage sites again. Now I have no reason to believe that he is looking for someone else, everything has seemed fine, but if it is, why doesn't he approach this subject with me. I have indicated to him that I am willing to experiment but we really haven't. OK, Guys and Ladies too if you're reading this, what do you think? Should I worry about this? He has 2 days a week when I am working from about 9 to 4 that he is at home. He is heavily involved in the fire department and is taking college classes 2 evenings a week, so I don't think he has the time to do much but you never know. I really haven't gotten any weird feelings or anything but i need to know what is going on. els
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by els ini haven't been on this site in a while but you guys came to mind to help me.
i hate to admit this but i have suspicions about my husband.
i want to get on his hotmail account but i don't know his password.
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need computer help
by els ini haven't been on this site in a while but you guys came to mind to help me.
i hate to admit this but i have suspicions about my husband.
i want to get on his hotmail account but i don't know his password.
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balistic, Help me out here. Where do I get a key logger and how do I use it? If I put it on his laptop will he know? He's a learning computer tech. I on the other hand am happy if I put an attatchment on an email and it goes through. Well, maybe I'm not that bad but you get the point. This is really important to me. We've been married almost 27 years and we left "the truth" together. Literally, we stood up and walked out of a Sunday meeting with our two little children and never went back. He is very important to me. els
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Family Funeral
by jws inmy uncle died this morning.
it wasn't so much of a surprise.
he's past 80, has been in a nursing home the past few months, and has lost most of his memory, even forgetting who his wife was at times.
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jws, So sorry about your uncle. My cousins daughter died this past fall of brain cancer. My husband and I got to the funeral and we were the only ones from my family who were there. I have been totally shunned for over three years now. I was really nervous about going but I am so glad I did because my parents weren't there or any one of my 5 brothers or sisters. It wasn't even a particularly religious funeral, really more of a remembrance, celebrating a wonderful talented young girl who died too young. She was 21 and was a beautiful singer and a truly caring person. My family didn't send flowers or anything. Afterwards everyone went to my aunt and uncles house to eat and visit and guess who showed up then. My mother, father, sister, brother and his wife. My brother didn't speak to me, my sister told me she missed me, and my mother said she didn't recognize me. I have lost a bit of weight but, come on! We said our goodbyes and left. I hope your experience is better. els
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need computer help
by els ini haven't been on this site in a while but you guys came to mind to help me.
i hate to admit this but i have suspicions about my husband.
i want to get on his hotmail account but i don't know his password.
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Look, I don't want to go into details but we had a problem back in the fall and I thought it was behind us but now I'm not so sure. Maybe I'm grasping at straws but getting into his email is one way I can think of to find out if there is a problem or if I'm overreacting to something. I may not even do it but I need to figure things out. Don't judge me. els
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need computer help
by els ini haven't been on this site in a while but you guys came to mind to help me.
i hate to admit this but i have suspicions about my husband.
i want to get on his hotmail account but i don't know his password.
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I haven't been on this site in a while but you guys came to mind to help me. I hate to admit this but I have suspicions about my husband. I want to get on his hotmail account but I don't know his password. I looked at some downloadable password sniffers but I really am not that skilled on computers and the one I looked at the closest (Ace) can't be used on a dialup modem. Any ideas? els
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What weird habits do you have?
by JH ini always go to bed naked, even in the winter.
i eat at odd hours, whenever i'm hungry, and that happens fast.
breakfast at 6:30am, dinner at 10:15 am (i'm hungry) supper at 3:30 pm (still hungry).
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Oh my God, my computer won't put in the words n a k e d or s e x.
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What weird habits do you have?
by JH ini always go to bed naked, even in the winter.
i eat at odd hours, whenever i'm hungry, and that happens fast.
breakfast at 6:30am, dinner at 10:15 am (i'm hungry) supper at 3:30 pm (still hungry).
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I mean I sleep no matter what. And why can't I get my posts to come out with paragraphs in them?
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What weird habits do you have?
by JH ini always go to bed naked, even in the winter.
i eat at odd hours, whenever i'm hungry, and that happens fast.
breakfast at 6:30am, dinner at 10:15 am (i'm hungry) supper at 3:30 pm (still hungry).
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I do the thing with license plates too. I was the head waitress at the restaurant and the letters on mine were BHW. To me it was Bitchy Head Waitress but my best friend always said it was Big Hairy Waitress. I sleep no matter what, but I have to at least have a strip of sheet across my middle. If it is hot I stick one leg out and then I'm ok. If I go out for breakfast I have to have my eggs and meat on a seperate plate from my french toast or waffles. I can't stand syrup on my eggs. I love when I'm exhausted. I talk to my cat and she talks back, but that's not wierd at all. I always have a token for the Newport Bridge in my car so if I have a full tank of gas but no money I can just take off and visit my brother and sister in law if the urge hits me. I've never gone without planning it but I could if I wanted. i always leave the last bite of my hot dog bun. els
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How much do you tip and why?
by els ini am a waitress at a pizzeria/italian restaurant.
overall i get really good tips but sometimes it seems like the customers are going to tip a certain amount no matter what i do.
i can totally screw up a table and still get a great tip and other tables i give perfect service to and get a lousy tip.
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You can all come into Frank's for a pizza or dinner anytime you want. It's a great place but the owner can be a dick. I was headwaitress until last August when we had a huge blowup and I quit. I still waitress there though, I make up the difference in pay by not having as many distractions and being able to give my customers my full attention.
We have a lot of regulars from the area but we also get tons of tourists in the summer. We're between Lake George and the Great Escape amusement park. In the winter we get the skiers headed for Vermont. And then we get the bikers for Americade in June, the car show crowd and the leaf peepers in September and outlet store shoppers year round.
Most of the time I am a great waitress. I chat, find out where you're from, recommend places to go, GET YOUR ORDER RIGHT!, bring all the extras, refill your drinks, clear away empty dishes, bring you your check promptly and get you your change. And if there is a mistake or delay in the kitchen I will tell you the truth and get you something to munch while you wait, on the house.
But if you're going to be a jerk to me just because you can, I'm not going to be polite and if you're really bad you're food is going to take a really long time to come out.
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How much do you tip and why?
by els ini am a waitress at a pizzeria/italian restaurant.
overall i get really good tips but sometimes it seems like the customers are going to tip a certain amount no matter what i do.
i can totally screw up a table and still get a great tip and other tables i give perfect service to and get a lousy tip.
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I am a waitress at a pizzeria/Italian restaurant. Overall I get really good tips but sometimes it seems like the customers are going to tip a certain amount no matter what I do. I can totally screw up a table and still get a great tip and other tables I give perfect service to and get a lousy tip. So my question is; How much do you tip for poor, good or outstanding service? What things does the server do that make you tip more or less? Do you tip to make yourself feel good or the server? els; of the gotta make lots of money class.