Sounds to me like your husband should grow a backbone. No way should someone who treats you like that have access to your children, much less be allowed to continue to think they are entitled to it.
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JW relatives....ughh
by milligal ini'm wondering if anyone has any thoughts on this (sorry it's kind of long): both my husband and i are df'd.
both our families are active witnesses.
his family has decided to shun us 150% (you know what i mean, no phone calls even when you're dying).
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District Overseer comments at CA reveal GB out of answers...
by still_in74 inso 2 weeks ago i went to my 2 day ca.. this had lots of interesting tid-bits, like the wt summary of the generation change.
the conductor said that if we were listeing to jesus speak we would have known he was speaking about us!
then he followed with "and thats probably what they understood too" - i couldnt believe he actually said probably.. anyway, at the end of sunday the do came about and went into a bit about all the things the org has done for us.
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Wow.....People still go to those snorefests!!!!
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Latest Witness comments about no more Bookstudy- Rejoicing and happy????
by Witness 007 ini've asked afew witnesses at work and around town about no more bookstudy.........they are all so relieved!
one elder with four kids said..."it will make things alot easier, with rushing home from work, the society understands our needs.
"......another brother said: "it's great, now we can go to the cinema on half price tuesday's!
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Well....my wife came home with a bewildered look on her face that said...
How did you know?
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An ancient poster stopping by to say HI!
by ShaunaC inhello al!
i am an old poster from this websites early days.
i was here a lot during 2001-2003. during the days of posters like:.
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I wasn't around then, but, thanks for stopping by.
You were a beautiful bride.....BTW. Your parents are really missing out!
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So What Happens for 8 months at the Book Study ?
by Siddhashunyata inany ideas about how the dubs will deal with the reality that for the next 8 months what they are doing at the book study is basically defunct ?
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I'm looking around at all my JW relatives and I just can't believe why they don't see how futile it is continueing to run on the WT treadmill. If it's such a loving provision from the "slave" then why wait. With a few adjustments, they could start the new schedule of meetings right now.
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How to make love & marriage work w/a JW
by StillinLove inplease dont comment saying to "run" or "get out while i can" thank you im not new to this, so i can handel it.
i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we started dating in high school and now i am going to college and he is working.
i am 20 and he is 21, i was raised catholic but my mom and i are too open minded for the church so we left.
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Please dont comment saying to "run" or "get out while I can" thank you Im not new to this, so I can handel it. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we started dating in high school and now I am going to college and he is working. I am 20 and he is 21,
20, 21....Oh the naivete' of those years. How I wish I could live them all over again with the knowledge I have now.
He is a JW, him and his friends had always dated (almost always worldly girls) and hid it from thier parents and their congregation. Thats how he said it always is, the kids just sort of sneek around and have a very good system too.
What a way to live......to subject yourself to being the little piece on the side hidden away from all the important people in his life he would call his "friends".....good enough to get his rocks off into occasionally, but, not quite good enough to be presented with any degree of respect to the more important people in his life.
I'm sorry to be so brusk, but, twenty years from now when you're thinking about what you've written and how this guy is treating you, you're going to kick yourself in the head.
This is the typical "sowing wild oats" game JW males play. They run around using all those "worldly girls" for sexual playthings under the cover of darkness, then when their finally serious, drop them like hot potatoes for that virtuous 17 or 18 year old JW girl whose eye they caught when they're making positional progress in the organization.
What a smooth operator this guy must be.....what did he tell you to convince you to lower your self-respect to such a degree that he can get to have his cake, eat it too, and claim the religious moral high ground that things would be so much better if you'd come around to his way of thinking JW style.
But thats not a big deal b/c he loves me regardless of my beleifs and we're very feisty so we actually have a pretty good time debating our differences.
Marry this guy, wait around till he decides he wants to go full-throttle into the JW lifestyle and watch these "pretty good times" disappear, as more pressure than ever will be applied to you to conform. That's a promise.
So my concerns are; his religousness has made him incredibly small minded in certain ways and I am concerned about how that will affect our ability to raise kids. I am totally fine with them being raised as witnesses because he is an incredible person with strong values from his faith and I am not religous so I know that it is more important to him than me. BUT i do however want my kids to learn about other cultures, make friends with whoever they want, be allowed to date, and not ever be put in a position where they have to lie like he always has. What can i expect from him, and how can I ease the tension?
Just this recognition on your part gives promise that there's hope for you yet.
Let's see......he says he's in love with you while at the same time ashamed to present you as an equal amongst his JW brethren....he's sneaking around with you, going against the counsel he knows of being unevenly yoked. If you've been intimate, he's having sex without the benefit of marriage legally or scripturally, and has been doing this for awhile now, even to the point of you yourself expounding on this great "system" he and his friends have in place of justifying his two-face-ness. This guys whole approach towards you reeks of a selfish person who's "systemized" lying and hypocritical activity to a fine art, justifying it any way he can, and hoodwinking others to follow along as long as it's of benefit to him.
[SARCASM ON]
I AM IN AWE OF THE STRONG VALUES HE'S SHOWING FROM HIS FAITH!!!!!!
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If you want your kids to do all those things you say you do, then I'd suggest you worry not so much about what is important to him or yourself, especially in trying to overlook what you're seeing with your own eyes, and concentrate on what's important to them. Marry this guy and as he positions himself for upward mobility within the congregation and WT heirarchy, this tension you're already facing will only increase.
The other issue is that from what I know (which is alot at this point) from him and the watchtower website they are pretty sexist. “My husband exercises his headship in a loving and kind way,” says Susan. “We usually discuss decisions, and when he decides what will or will not be done, I know it is for our benefit. Jehovah’s arrangement for Christian wives really makes me happy" is from the website and pretty much says it all. I am incredibly headstrong and dont give a damn what the bible says because I dont follow it, so I wont be following that model. Problem being: how do I get him to understand that Im not that kind of woman and dont want to be? I want to get him to realize that we need to be able to work together as equals and he needs to back down on that one? He understands my side but says "thats what the bible says so..." so my question is how do i get him to get over that and compermise?
You can see for yourself, even now, that he's trying to impose upon you without compromise his "my biblical authority" game. If you think it's going to get any easier after marriage, children, and his subsequent working for position within the WT, and you're as headstrong as you say you are, you're playing with fire and you're gonna get burnt.
But, you've already stated that you don't want to hear "run" or "get out while you can". So, I guess it's only a matter of time before you're back here with a tale of woe, willing to lend to a future generation the benefit of this particular experience. -
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Announcement: They Clapped!
by metatron inweird.
after the letter was read, many clapped.
i don't know how to interpret that.. .
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I can imagine how stunned people were of not knowing how to react.
Do I clap and be seen as not being appreciative of Jahs provision.
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Do I not clap and just reflect on the seriousness of this "arrangement" made by the governing body and how hard it must've been to come to this decision.
....since they are so cognizant of the "burdens" we carry.....
Bull-split!!!!!!!
If I told my wife that I understood the burden it must be that she had to sit in a sweltering house with no A\C, how would she then feel if I told her although I could get it fixed now, that I wouldn't until January?
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If a JW girl falls pregnant to a 'worldly person'...before marriage??
by Lantana ini've had many encounters with jw's throughout the years and i've found them to be decent, caring people.
i've attending meetings, read a number of awake!
and watchtower publications and so on and so forth.. the book 'crisis of conscious' by ray franz was really eye-opening for me and served as a strong warning for those about to enter the organisation...its easy to fill in the blanks from there -- i never became a jw.
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95stormfront
There's one other scenario not touched upon. If the girl is not baptised, and her father holds any responsibilities in the congregation, there's nothing that the organization can do to her, but her father will likely quietly kick her to the curb to save himself the embarassment of having to explain to the elder body why he's not lording over his house in a fine manner. I've seen that done many a time. One girl was I know was bought a plane ticket to distant family North without even a coat to keep her warm.
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Reasons for change in meetings and book study
by JWRESEARCH inthere were already a few topics and posts about the motifs behind the changes, but i think we can unite them all in just one topic.. for a start i will say thar the letter that is going to be read next weekend, says that gb wants to reduce the burden (quotes acts 15:28), and adds that in many countries the gas (petroleum) is at a very high cost for some families.
then it makes a suggestion to use the same day for study at home with family.. of course that the text of hebrew 10:25 is not quoted!
- if we are more close to the end it should be taken the opposite measure!.
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Gas Prices.....
why would the WT organization care about gas prices.....it's not like it's being charged back to them as an expense. They couldn't give a fat rat's a$$ how much it's costing the r\f to roll around all day doing busywork, just as long as they continue to do it.
they'd just better shut up and like it!
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95stormfront
They don't have any bible studies. so, in short, I'd tell them to make sure they are studying the Bible, and not one of the WT's supposedly based study aids.