i had five kids and my wife remembered every ones dob, but i never did learn.
the most embarrassing moment was when i had to take my son to the doctors.
and standing in front of the office i had to asked him how old he was and what was his birthday.
I could always remember my kids birthdays.
It irritates the S&%T out of me, though, when I'm around a bunch of JWs and when the subject of birthdays come up, how they always work so hard to feign(sp) ignorance of even their own birthdays to appear so theo-kratic in front of each other.
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hi guys..its been a long time since i visited here..i just really need some suggestions right now...i turned 17 in may..im still living with my parents.. we moved a couple weeks ago from prairiville to new iberia louisiana......i dont want to go to the meetings anymore..i have told them that time and time again..but to no aveil..they wont have it...its either me go to the meetings,have friends that are witnesses or have no social life whatsoever...i have really gotten close to my cousins they have helped me through a great deal of stuff,now all of a sudden i cant hang around them anymore..im not allowed to even visit them..im just really upset and dont know how to handle all this..should i just go back to the meetings so they can get off my back?
please i dont know what to do..
Unless you have a relative thats willing to let you move in and take you away from all that WT nonsense, it appears that your only option is to suck it up go to those meetings, as repulsed as you may be by them.
At the same time, look for ways you can begin to support yourself or educational opportunities that will get you out of the house.
You'll need these things because if they are working that hard to isolate you because you don't want to go to the meetings while you are inside their house, you'll likely not get any interaction from them at all should you move out and stop going all together.
i think many people here can applaud wg for her perseverence, her self determination, her ability in being self supporting and being able to stand up to the nonsense inflict upon her and her kids by her soon to be ex wt-whipped husband.
but what of the women who are not so fortunate as to have the means to currently take care of themselves, yet are locked in marriages to jw husbands who use every wt trick in the book up to and even including the withholding of financial support for enjoying life to coerce their spouse into accepting wt doctrine they know to be false?.
i comfortably sit on the other side of the spectrum.
I think many people here can applaud WG for her perseverence, her self determination, her ability in being self supporting and being able to stand up to the nonsense inflict upon her and her kids by her soon to be ex WT-whipped husband. But what of the women who are not so fortunate as to have the means to currently take care of themselves, yet are locked in marriages to JW husbands who use every WT trick in the book up to and even including the withholding of financial support for enjoying life to coerce their spouse into accepting WT doctrine they know to be false?
I comfortably sit on the other side of the spectrum. I am the only breadwinner in the house, definetely ex-jw with no intention of going back, yet I provide willingly, though reluctantly and getting harder and harder as time progress, the extra money it takes for my wife to participate in the sparse WT activities she now currently engages in. But for how much loonger......only time will tell as I slowly see in minutae how her attitude is changing towards my non-witness status. Where do I draw the line? How much longer do I participate financially in the means that, hopefully not, will in all likelyhood destroy our strong but from what I perceive slowly weakening realtionship?
On the flip side and back to the original intent of the post, just how do some of the women on this board, those who are not in a position to support themselves, put up with the manipulative nature of strong willed JW husbands who would like nothing more than to break their will and draw them back into the "troof"? And, by that same token, could I myself be considered manipulative if one day I choose to stop supporting my wife's WT fixes?
i have been d'f for over a year and two elders came by to see me for a breif visit.
what do you say when they arrive ?
are they making an inspection of your place of residence or you ?
when someone say's they are expecting an elder visit is to remember,you can say no.You do not have to be polite.You owe them nothing.So many people feel elders are some kind of greatness and owe them respect and kindness when they are only out to recruit or get back members
After a few visits to me by the elders in my wife's KH, she and they got the message real quick about how I view them and their unannounced visits. So many times she would get mad that I wouldn't discuss anything with them, stay in the room, socialize, or otherwise drop everything and give them my undivided attentionand be a "yes" man to these supposedly fine shepherds representing Jehovah. As my spouse she's welcomed to have them over anytime.....just don't expect me to be all "meally mouth" around them relinquishing "king of the castle" status. As long as I'm paying the bills ultimately I'll set the agenda.
JW's and elders feed on some perceived notion that anytime they are around or visiting that they deserve some special degree of respect or reverence; that you'd do well to walk on eggshells around them or be on your best behaiviour. Well, my best behaivour on my turf is how I choose to act any particular day regardless to who crosses my doorstep, subject to change as the situation calls for.
The last time a couple of elders showed up at my door, I literally yelled at the door for whoever it was there at the time to go away. I regard them with no more respect than I would have for the Kirby Vacuum Cleaner salesman who go door to door peddling their garbage product.
well, it has finally happened.
my jw husband came home last week and told me he is moving out.
it seems he has been talking to the elders, and they feel his spirituality is being threatened (even though i have not insisted he stop going to meetings, i won't allow any jw material in my home because of my children from a previous marriage - i don't want them exposed to it.
He's out already. His sorry a$$ took off the very next day.
The 1 day you gave him was much more than his sorry punk ass deserved.
Good Riddance !!!!!!
well, it has finally happened.
my jw husband came home last week and told me he is moving out.
it seems he has been talking to the elders, and they feel his spirituality is being threatened (even though i have not insisted he stop going to meetings, i won't allow any jw material in my home because of my children from a previous marriage - i don't want them exposed to it.
I love this idea, but could you do it ???
No.
I didn't think so. WG probably has a hard enough time keeping food down dealing with this WT inspired psychobable nonsense at all.
Since he's made his intentions known, I only wish she were in a position to throw his ass out immediately. Since she's done nothing except support his wimpy ass and exercise her rights as equal spousal partner, why should he have the luxury of a departure at his convenience.
well, it has finally happened.
my jw husband came home last week and told me he is moving out.
it seems he has been talking to the elders, and they feel his spirituality is being threatened (even though i have not insisted he stop going to meetings, i won't allow any jw material in my home because of my children from a previous marriage - i don't want them exposed to it.
Great advice Swan. The best revenge is using your adversaries own stupidity against them.
well, it has finally happened.
my jw husband came home last week and told me he is moving out.
it seems he has been talking to the elders, and they feel his spirituality is being threatened (even though i have not insisted he stop going to meetings, i won't allow any jw material in my home because of my children from a previous marriage - i don't want them exposed to it.
I do not know if you have children with this weak male, but if you do the most important thing is custody of these kids.
I don't think that will be a problem....since he's just getting to the point where he can barely take care of his own weak a$$. I suspect that the very last thing this piss poor excuse for a man is looking for is custody of some kids.
well, it has finally happened.
my jw husband came home last week and told me he is moving out.
it seems he has been talking to the elders, and they feel his spirituality is being threatened (even though i have not insisted he stop going to meetings, i won't allow any jw material in my home because of my children from a previous marriage - i don't want them exposed to it.
My JW husband came home last week and told me he is moving out. It seems he has been talking to the elders, and they feel his spirituality is being threatened (even though I have not insisted he stop going to meetings,
Talking to elders.... Now that's a riot. Tells you exactly who he's primarily married to and whose opinion is of more value. It's obvious that he didn't consult the BIBLE about what he should do and how he should act, rather he ran to the elders who only heard one side of the story and summarily labeled you spiritually dangerous and a threat helping to provide justification for what his weak punk ass wanted and has been planning to do anyway yet didn't have the balls to tell you without mother WT's blessing.
Then he blathers on about "doing this so you can be happy..."
Take it from me this is typical weak man talk (I'm sure you've heard it all before) when he's doing something totally fu**** up and he's grasping for straws or anything else to try to turn it around to something that will primarily benefit or help you. He didn't have the balls to make this decision when he couldn't take care of himself yet now he's "doing it so you can be happy"? I only hope this bastard will fall on his face when he's out there alone. We'll see then how much value he has for these very same elders when they refuse to commit their or WT resouces to take care of his sorry punk ass when the chips are down.
I have supported this man financially for the past three years, and he is just getting to the point he can pay his own way - thus the decision,
Exactly....that is the JW motis operandi. When they can't take care of themselves of course they're willing to suck you dry in pursuit of the WT pipe dream with all kinds of bullshit justifications......"wait on jehovah...he'll provide". But as soon as they think they can take care of themselves or otherwise drain you financially on the way out....all of a sudden your're a spiritual threat. What a crock.
I see myself in your position if my wife's renewed interest in WT activities intensify as the years go on.
And now, he is leaving me with all the bills, etc., and says he won't be contributing anything financially. Since I make more $$ than he does, I could never make a case for alimony.Good for you....making enough to support yourself and not giving him ammunition to get alimony but correct me if I'm wrong......don't you have three kids? I've got two words for you......CHILD SUPPORT !!!!!!! If I'm not mistaken, it makes no difference whether you're divorced or not, child support is still in order and justified even in your type of situation. He can say he won't contribute all he wants. Go to the courts and force him to on behalf of his kids even if you don't need it. Get revenge by further eroding his ability to take care of himself as comfortably as he plans to. They labeling you as a "spiritual threat" and giving him bullshit justification to move out doesn't resolve him secularly or spiritually of providing for his kids.
So, I WANT REVENGE!
And sweetie, I hope and pray that you get it.
But...serve it up cold!!!!!
VERY, VERY COLD!!!!!
what songs or groups were you forbidden to listen to as a jw?
were any specifically mentioned from the platform or were you counseled not to listen to a certain song?
for me it was the entire def leopard hysteria album - bad heavy metal told it was demonic, i listened to it in secret, silk's "freak me" - a virgin listening to a song about hot sex?
All the JW's I know are now swearing that Michael was most likely never a JW, that he's disfellowshipped and now marveling that Prince is now one of their brothers.
I wonder how many of them are listening to any of his earlier music, getting an earful of such musical masterpieces as Do Me Baby, Jack U Off, Gett Off, Darling Nikki, or Sexy Muthafucka.
