Bob_NC and LisaRose;
I agree that all liberated ex-JW's and wanna be ex-JW's need to start their life NOW. We have all put our lives on hold, so to speak, for decades. Being a JW was all bad but it certainly limited our exposure to "the real life" which is REAL LIFE. So many that I know put their own personal goals and aspirations 'on hold' because of the WTBTS's mind control which had us in the 'new system' by now.
Personally, I excelled in sports all the way up through high school and many of my coaches thought that I as least had a chance at a major baseball league careeer. I'll never know since, like all good dubs, I put the (WTBTS) 'kingdom first'. I know sisters that started pioneering and 'put off' marriage and children, 'for the sake of the good news'. They are now in their 60's and inwardly bitter.
I'm with Bob_NC; "FIND JOY ALONG THE WAY, I NOW SAY" So for me now I live to drink wine with friends, eat fine food, love my family of kids, grandkids, brothers and sisters, and wish well to all people.
If you are now free from the mental, emotional, and psychological grip of the WTBTS, you should tell your loved ones that you love them UNCONDITIONALLY. It's like a dream come true for the many of us who have pretty much spent our lives being good dubs As a great man once said; " I had a dream..........Free at last! Free at last! Thank God Almighty we're free at last!" Just saying
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