I'm still waiting for my wife to Awake! so thanks. However, I do think that I have made some significant headway. She is no longer the 'go to meeting and service' Nazi she once was. It doesn't take too much persuasion to get her to go see a "R" rated movie if it gets good reviews.
I agree that it takes a lot of patience to help a mate who has only know the jw way to wake up and see things as they really are. But by sharing small things, little at a time, you may see the wall of defense start eroding.
I think that the most significant thing is that she has seen me transfer from being an uptight, always worried, seldom happy, constantly busy with 'theocratic' activities, no fun elder, circuit assembly speaker, life time jw to now being a much happier, not too serious, content, fun loving, having time for my hobbies, non critical of others, non judgmental regular human being.
just saying!