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Do A Number of Jehovah's Witnesses Have A Drinking Problem???

by minimus in

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jw's can't do this.

they can't do that.

restrictions abound.

MNJAR

I was so naive. We were invited, after a WT study, to the so called holier than thou elder's house for dinner. Our young children stayed with their children while the 4 of us went for a short drive to pick up something. The something was lots of booze and then I walked in to the restroom and found Sister Wonderful (so noted by the congregation), pulling her cigarettes from the top of the towel holder. Like I said, I was so naive, it shocked me.

We never did eat our supper and our kids were so glad we came back, they didn't know what was going on. Never in our lives had we experienced something like this. It really set us back because these people are still in excellent standing with the cong.

Did they have a drinking problem? Very definitely. Later we visited them because of an illness in the family and found the sister passed out from liquor.

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Question

by MNJAR in

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i read on one of the posts that elders visit disfellowshipped persons once a year?

is this an accurate statement?

while we were never disfellowshipped, we just faded away over 25 years ago.

MNJAR

I guess if they were supposed to call on everyone, they failed in their responsibilities. There was never any indication to them or to others in the cong. that we were apostate. When I said we just faded away, that is exactly what we did. No one ever heard us say anything negative because they never contacted us again. Our only talking about the org. was within the confines of our own home.

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Question

by MNJAR in

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friends

i read on one of the posts that elders visit disfellowshipped persons once a year?

is this an accurate statement?

while we were never disfellowshipped, we just faded away over 25 years ago.

MNJAR

Thanks for the encouragement and also the info from the 91 WT. I guess we were not that important even though my husband was a ms and we had several Bible studies going at one time.

However, the head honcho said that we were perfectionists when we questioned things that we felt were wrong. That must have been grounds for not checking us out. Oh, well, from what we read about the hard time some are having to fade away, we were the fortunate ones.

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Question

by MNJAR in

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friends

i read on one of the posts that elders visit disfellowshipped persons once a year?

is this an accurate statement?

while we were never disfellowshipped, we just faded away over 25 years ago.

MNJAR

I read on one of the posts that elders visit disfellowshipped persons once a year? Is this an accurate statement?

While we were never disfellowshipped, we just faded away over 25 years ago. No circuit overseer ever stopped by, nor did elders check on us yearly. Guess we should feel good about this, as we do not want to give them the satisfaction of getting us in to one of their df meetings.

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How did you adjust to the world after leaving JW land ? friends/lonliness ?

by run dont walk in

how long did it take you to adjust to the real world ???

and make real friends, who didn't care about religion.

did you suffer from lonliness and depression after leaving ???.

MNJAR

It has been over 25 years since we just faded. No one from the congregation seemed to care. They talked one or two times with my husband, but not one person talked to me. Seemed rather strange to me that as a so called lost sheep, not one person cared.

We kept our lives very simple, along with our kids. As far as taking on what we used to call worldly friends, we didn't. Just stuck together as a family. Now we are more hospitable with our neighbors and found that they are there to help us in any way, as we are for them. Before, we had to avoid them. They proved to be better people than some of the people we had to associate with at the hall.

We don't feel that we have to be involved in any organization or church. The Bible is still a very important part of our lives and we try to follow IT as much as possible by living moral lives. In no way do we feel that we have to experience the things that we supposedly missed, because so many of those things were not good for us anyway. As husband and wife we are each other's best friend and we enjoy doing things with our kids and grandkids, no longer feeling guilty for taking a weekend off and going fishing.

My problem is that after all those years, I still feel that some of the things we were taught are still in our minds. Guess that is why they call it brainwashing. Another thing that hurts is to know that the families we studied with are still under this spell and we can do nothing about it.

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