Wow, I went on there and searched my state and the first person to pop up was the girl I lost my virginity to 14 years ago and subsequently got disfellowshipped for soon afterwards. If I wasn't happily married to a non-JW I might think it was a sign. :P
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Singles! Looking for a dub to marry?
by Newborn indid you know about this site?
i didn't, however i'll keep looking elsewhere, grrrr.
http://www.jwmatch.com.
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Make Your Prediction:The Next President---- McCain or Obama???
by minimus intuesday night, it will be 100% obama.. who do you think??
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Well, I think it will be Obama. My dad is the perfect life long model republican, he owns his own business, he lives in a red state - Arkansas, sadly to say, he is still pretty racist, and he watches Fox news all day every day for his news. He told me that he was very disappointed in the way the Bush administration had run this country into the ground. So today was the first time he has ever voted democratic because he thinks Obama will actually make some changes in the country, whereas he thinks McCain will keep the country status quot. If my hard-core republican dad votes Obama, I think Obama is going to win.
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Denied re-instatement
by MMae ini am curious: how many of you also experienced this, as i did?
prior to my own experience i had never known of anyone who had "served their time," attended meetings regularly, and in everyway demonstrated a good heart, being turned away.
but then, i guess i wouldn't have, would i?.
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After my first disfellowshipping I wrote my letters to the elders at 2 months, 4 months, and 6 months. I was denied in my 2 month and 4 month meetings. In my last letter I stated how repentant I was and all that stuff and alos related the corinthian disfellowshipping where the guy was sleeping with his step-mom after his father died and how he was reinstated within 6 months according to the chronology in the NWT Bible. I Got reinstated with my 6 month letter.
After my second disfellowshipping I didn't even write a letter until almost a year after I'd been going. The commitee that met with me were asses and told me that they didn't know if I'd ever do enough to return. They really didn't like me. I was going to another congregation but I still had to meet with the original commitee that disfellowshipped me 4 years before and a commitee at my current hall everytime I wrote a letter.
After that first year I decided on an annoyance tactic. I started writing a letter to the commitee every month and a half. They had to hold a meeting with me everytime and if they hadn't called to schedule a meeting after one week of me sending the letter I'd call the head elder of my commitee and bug him about setting a time to meet with me. It took awhile, but they finally gave in and reinstated me around the two year mark.
All in all, it was a big waste of time. I stopped attending meetings about 6 months after being reinstated the second time. I was never disfellowshipped for having doubts, but being disfellowshipped and seeing the way I was treated sure helped any doubts I had to grow until I finally knew that it wasn't the truth. So I send a thank you to the elders that disfellowshipped me. If it weren't for those guys I'd probably be an elder instead of a happy, holiday celebrating, college educated guy married to a beautiful worldly girl who has lots of free time on my Tuesday and Thursday nights and Sunday mornings. :)
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First rock concert
by JK666 ini have recently talked with other members on jwd about the first time they went to a concert.
it was interesting the different choices of artists, and the age we were when we finally went to one.. my first was after i got my driver's license, so i was 16 years old.
i went to see a concert with black oak arkansas, foghat, and montrose (when sammy hagar was just a pup).
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I was actually thinking about this the other day when my younger brother, who's 22 told me that he has never been to a concert. I guess my parents stopped going to concerts after my brother was born.
I remember my first concert. It was The Kendalls and I was 5 years old. It wasn't really rock. I guess it was kind of a John Denver type country music. I remember the blonde singer though. I thought she was the prettiest woman I'd ever seen and told my mom I was going to marry her when I grew up.
My 2nd concert was when I was 7 or 8 years old. It was Crosby, Stills, Nash, and Young. I went with my parents and my aunt, uncle and cousin. I remember getting up out of my seat and dancing with my cousin, who was 9 years old at the time. All the adults were laughing and clapping and that just made us dance that much harder. That was a really fun time now that I think back.
After that I didn't go to another concert until I was 18 years old. But come the mid nineties my group of JW friends started hitting concerts all the time. I seem to remember tickets being pretty cheap, around $20 or less for almost any concert we went to. we saw any concert we could get tickets for. The ones I can remember off the top of my head: Bush, No Doubt, Goo Goo Dolls, STP, Steve Miller, ZZ Top, Foo Fighters, Spin Doctors, Better than Ezra, Verve, Wallflowers, Collective Soul, Sarah McLachlan, Sherryl Crow, Aerosmith, and even Britney Spears. There were a lot of good shows, and I don't know which one was the best. But I remember the worst. And that was Britney Spears.
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Remember when assemblies were fun?
by Aphrodite ini just remembered when i was a kid and we would go to the assembly, it was fun because we got to buy new clothes and put extra effort into looking good.
when we would get there you could save your seats and even save some for your friends, then go off looking for them.. i used to love our circuit assembly because of the food.
it was at the assembly hall and there was a big kitchen, some of my favourite brothers worked in that kitchen, sometimes i was allowed to go in and help.
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The boring talks were never fun, the sitting for hours on end was never fun. But back in the day getting together with your buddies every day was fun. Getting there a little early and eating the breakfast danishes with your friends and checking the girls out was fun. When I was old enough, actually sitting with a big group of my friends and passing notes around during the sessions was fun. After the sessions were over, it was fun to go explore the city we got to go to the assemblies at.
We would all head to a nice restaurant, walk around the town afterwards and see if we could find something interesting like a street party, in Oklahoma City we saw the Spin Doctors playing one night. In Kansas City we went to a Stone Temple Pilots concert after an assembly one night. Another night after an assembly we went to see Speed at the movie theater and afterwards did 360's in the parking lot and had fun being chased around my mall cops.
One of the guys in the group I hung out with was good looking and had no trouble drawing the girls in. We'd always, usually through him, meet a lot of girls at the assemblies. We met girls that lived in the areas and several times we ended up going over to one of their houses for a party after the assembly. One time skinny dipping and hot tubs were involved. One night (the first assembly day) I actually met a very attractive girl at the assembly that happened to be staying with her sister's family in the same hotel we were staying and we ended up hanging out every night after the assembly back in my room making out.
So I'm going to have to say, yeah, I rememer a lot of really good times going to the assemblies.
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American tax rebate: How will you spend yours? Will it help the economy?
by Gopher init appears that both political parties and economists are agreeing on the need for a tax rebate.
the white house has a proposal in mind, and the democrats seem to be in line.. so will this help head off a recession?
and will you "do your part" .
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I don't really see how throwing more money into the economy is going to help anything. With so much extra money being thrown back in, won't that drop the value of the dollar and in turn help raise prices once again? Which would in turn cause people to cut back on their spending after they've used up all their newly acquired free cash.
But as far as what I'm going to spend it on. A new water heater.
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I Am Legend JW email
by Descender inso my sister-in-law, who is a pretty hardcore jw, showed me an email that looked like it had been passed around quite a bit, so i figured someone on here had probably seen it.
supposedley it's a picture from the movie "i am legend" where will smith is walking through new york and all the buildings in the background are in ruins except for the bethel building, which stands out, undamaged and clean.
i watched the movie and don't remember seeing anything like that so i just figured that some jw photoshopped it and sent it out to the jw community to show that the bethel building is protected by god even in a post apocaliptical world run over with zombie vampires.
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So my sister-in-law, who is a pretty hardcore JW, showed me an email that looked like it had been passed around quite a bit, so I figured someone on here had probably seen it. Supposedley it's a picture from the movie "I Am Legend" where Will Smith is walking through New York and all the buildings in the background are in ruins except for the Bethel building, which stands out, undamaged and clean. I watched the movie and don't remember seeing anything like that so I just figured that some JW photoshopped it and sent it out to the JW community to show that the Bethel building is protected by god even in a post apocaliptical world run over with zombie vampires. I don't know.
Anyone seen the email I'm talking about?
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social skills and JW's
by Descender init occured to me the other day that many jehovah's witnesses have very bad social skills outside of the kindom hall.
my brother, who still goes to meetings but isn't a strong believer, and his wife, who is a 4th generation jw with very stong beliefs and a very self righteous attitude asked my wife and i if we'd like to go for a hike at a local national park the other day.
i faded years ago and my wife is not and has never been a jw and isn't religious.
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After I told my wife that JW's sometimes think that demons inhabit things like antiques, old records, and toys she said it might be funny to go to the store and buy a creepy little toy of some sort and send it to my sister-in-law without a return address with a message on it that says, "Hi, I'm a demon."
She asked me what would happen and I told her I bet my SIL would probably run outside and burn it right away. My wife said that'd be great because then she could just keep buying the same creepy toy and conspicously leave it beside my sister-in-law's bed or somewhere in their house everytime she burns one. :)
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social skills and JW's
by Descender init occured to me the other day that many jehovah's witnesses have very bad social skills outside of the kindom hall.
my brother, who still goes to meetings but isn't a strong believer, and his wife, who is a 4th generation jw with very stong beliefs and a very self righteous attitude asked my wife and i if we'd like to go for a hike at a local national park the other day.
i faded years ago and my wife is not and has never been a jw and isn't religious.
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It occured to me the other day that many Jehovah's Witnesses have very bad social skills outside of the kindom hall.
My brother, who still goes to meetings but isn't a strong believer, and his wife, who is a 4th generation JW with very stong beliefs and a very self righteous attitude asked my wife and I if we'd like to go for a hike at a local national park the other day. I faded years ago and my wife is not and has never been a JW and isn't religious.
They came by and picked us up and while we were driving up to the park my sister-in-law kept on randomly mentioning Jehovah, the new system, and at one point when my brother was talking about how he couldn't understand how this guy he knew was acting a certain way, she said, it's not so hard to understand, he's part of the world, he's probably being controlled by demons. At this point my wife leaned over to me and said, "she can not be serious, demons ... seriously?"
I thought about it and remembered back to when I was an active witness with only witness friends and I remember that JW speak was a very common occurence. Just in general every day conversation we would mention Jehovah, the new system, demons, satan, etc. If a non-JW got caught up in the mix of one of our conversations back then I would imagine they'd think we sounded crazy just like my wife now thinks my sister-in-law is crazy. My wife can't believe that my sister-in-law could actually believe that one of my brother's friends is controlled by a demon. And I can't believe how crazy I used to sound.
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Honestly, When You Were A Witness, Were You A Jerk?
by minimus indid you think you were better than everyone else?
did you talk down to people?
were you a know-it-all?
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1) Did you think you were better than everyone else?
Yes, but I was always told that I was better than everyone else, so who was I to question.
2) Did you talk down to people?
Back in the JW days .... I tried not to, but sometimes I did catch myself doing it. Like I said, I felt like I was better than other people.
3) Were you a know-it-all?
Yeah, I was a know-it-all, and when I look back on myself it was pretty ridiculous. I knew nothing.
I will have to say, back in those days I had a ton of self confidence. I thought I was god's gift to ..... well, everyone. But with all things that are only a facade, my confidence had to be destroyed several times along the way to where I am today in order for me to actually find out who I truly was, question the witnesses, and find out what life is all about.