Azalo

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  All the JWD Maps in one place (except the UK)

  by Lady Lee in

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  well i have redone the maps.

  it was helpful to have them separated before while i was trying to make them all.

  but now i think it is easier to have them separated.. ballistic has done an amazing job with the map of the uk you can find it at.

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  Azalo

  you can put me in NY please
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  Saturday Study with an elder

  by dustyb in

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  well, i went through the study with the elder.

  all i have to say is wow.

  there was a lot of points that i did believe, but then we went into the discussion of the fds.

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  Azalo

  back in the day when I decided to give the study with the elder thing a go I too brought up many points that I found puzzling about the org, of course these were just my own observations and I didnt have a source like this one to back me up but he complained to my sister that he thought i had just agreed to the study to be argumentative with him and if i wasn't going to take it seriously then he didnt want to continue, so i stopped because i did like the guy and i moved away so that was the end of my study. i wish i had more concrete questions to ask him back then, oh well.
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  Urban Legends

  by Isis in

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  here's an interesting website i thought i would share.. http://www.snopes.com/.

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  Azalo

  I thought this was another JW urban legend thread, which by the way I am not knocking, I started one myself when I first started posting here unaware that there were already many threads about JW urban legends, have you heard the one about the smurf that walked out of the asembly hall when they said Jehovah. LMAO!
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  What Regrets Did You Have Because You Were A Witness?

  by minimus in

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  one of the biggest regrets a person might have is that they let their children become involved in the whole jw "thing".

  you know---everything from the elders always cornering them to "investigate" something or even having the parents "turn in" their own kids......is there anything that you especially regret?

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  Azalo

  not having a regular childhood, but now that I have kids of my own I kind of feel like I am having a second chance. I got out at 17 so I the harm was not irreperable. but I feel really sorry for my father who is still hardcore JW and has always been very giving and loving even to the point of being foolish, ie. buying houses or cars from "brothers" to help them out and he always came out on the short end and on the flipside never using the "brothers" as customers for his businesses because that would be taking advantage of his position, so he would give them stuff for free. well now he is quite close to retirement and doesnt have a cent in the bank.
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  any movies with prominent JW characters?

  by Azalo in

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  ive seen the one with kevin costner.

  "perfect world" i think, any others?

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  Azalo

  ive seen the one with Kevin Costner. "perfect world" i think, any others?
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  The little guy...

  by LittleToe in

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  on reflection of a few of the recent threads about the past year, and the ensuing one i had pause to think about some of my priorities in life.

  y'know family is always family, and that has to be the closest bond - right up there with life-partner (but you get to choose the latter .

  below (and currently my avatar) is a pic of my eldest nephew, taken about a year ago.. frankly i don't know what i'd do if anything happened to him.

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  Azalo

  nice pic. do you get to see them much? are their parents jw? I have a nice whom I dont see ver often, her parents kinda shun me. but i have two of my own so they keep me pretty busy.
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  im very upset

  by Shytears in

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  i know its been awhile...i dont have to much to say right now.im at a loss for words..im dissfellowshipped now..the announcement will be in 2 weeks.i just need some support..

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  Azalo

  Shytears:

  I just went back and read through your posts and it is pretty weird how similar your life is right now to mine when I was 17. I wasn't nearly as courageous as you though. You know, even though it may seem harsh now I think getting Df'd might be the best thing that could have happened to you, and from the story that you told about your Mom and the older friend of yours who had been DF'd I'm pretty sure she will not shun you. I hope you do go to college, you will make a lot of friends and you will see things so differently and you will eventually feel sorry for all the people that are stuck in the JW's. Dont let them ruin your life because that is exactly what they want, they want to say, "hey, remember that girl Shytears, what a shame she (killed herself, or she is a drug addict prostitute, she just sits around the house all day, she still lives with her parents and she is 30 now, etc), if only she hadnt turned her back on Jehovah, how sad" Please dont give them that satisfaction. Good luck! BTW I am in a neighboring state from you.
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  im very upset

  by Shytears in

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  i know its been awhile...i dont have to much to say right now.im at a loss for words..im dissfellowshipped now..the announcement will be in 2 weeks.i just need some support..

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  Azalo

  I was 17 when I got out ( see my profile) the best advice that I can give you is go to college, even if it means getting into debt. I still owe 10K for my education but I dont regret it one bit. Going to college opens up a completely different world than the one you are used to and you will have no problems making friends, even if you had a hard time with that in high school. If you have to go to community college first that is cool. Or join the military, I have done both and I dont regret either one, although the first year in the military you will be asking yourself why the hell did I trade in one controlling institution for an even more controlling one, but it gets better, a lot better.

  If you are getting df'd and your heart is not in the JW religion than dont even start the reinstatement charade. Move out as soon as you can whether it be to go to college or the military. I personally wouldnt reccommend just trying to work because without the social structure that college or military can provide for you, you might just end up being very lonely. Oh and dont think i'm being too pushy with the military thing but I think it is a great option for a young person who doesnt quite know what to do with their lives.
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  Why do most dubyas feel it is necessary to get a new dress...

  by Agent Smith in

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  or suit for the conventions and memorial?.

  i have never understood this.

  are they gonna hold a beauty pageant at the convention?

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  Azalo

  I used to look forward to getting new suits for every assembly and memorial, looking back though I can think of so many things I would have better spent that money on, and beleive me I could have got alot cause my parents didnt skimp on the KH clothing.
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  My Best Friends Still Love Me

  by Piph in

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  i had a talk with my best friend (who is still an active jw) the other day, and told her that i wasn't interested in remaining an active witness any more.

  i knew she would accept my feelings, because she's a wonderful person and is actually very emotionally healthy, but was afraid because i didn't really know how tight a grip the mind control had on her, and didn't know if she would feel obligated to back off in our friendship any.

  i was deeply afraid of that, because we're as close, if not closer than, sisters.. to my pleasant surprise, she not only totally accepted my feelings, but she already knew what i was going to say before i said it.

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  Azalo

  I haven't posted or kept up on this board regularly in a while but I saw this thread and a few of the other ones about you and your husbands story and it is pretty amazing. I dont really have any advice but it seems like your parents are cool so things will become less and less awkward, they will still try to preach to you from time to time but as long as there is mutual respect it wont be a big deal. That is how it is with my parents. It feels pretty weird the first few months but eventually as you start to have a "regular" life, your JW life will become like a distant memory that you look back and laugh about it. My favorite threads on this board are like JW urban legends, Assembly stories, JW sayings, etc. because when you remove yourself enough from that life and disinstitutionalize yourself you see things completely differently. I would definetely reccommend going to college, I learned more at the U of Oregon than I ever learned in a JW meeting. Anyways I'm rambling but I wanted to post because your story just struck a chord with me. BTW I've lost touch with pretty much all my friends whom I grew up with mostly because I moved around so much since I left home, one didnt really want to talk with me (I could just tell) but the two that meant the most to me, although we dont talk every week by any means, if I ever feel the need to talk to them or need anything from there I know that they are there for me so it will probably be like that with your friend.