Labels have whatever meaning you put into them. Personally I don't feel like part of a "Group" of ex-Jws". I post here, and I like reading the different lives everyone has here, and sometimes how our lives are so similar due to similar backgrounds, but I'm not fooling myself. I don't really have any connection to anyone here,and that's about the extent of that. I do have an interest that the JW's stop killing their own through blood transfusions, and limit their children's education. That does bother me, and I don't find that easy way to end that attachment.
Just let the process go naturally. X-jw, apostate, disfellowshipped, all those things will bleach in time like a shirt put through the laundery too many times. It will be a faded label, will little meaning, and in the end you will remain.