Posts by Powerful1

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Involved with a JW woman

by jonza in

okay so i'm dating a born-in jw woman, she's younger than me and has no kids.

i'm a christian man whos divorced with 2 kids.

we're in love and seriously want to be together.

I hope you know that your problems are bigger than having children. This GROWN woman is hiding your relationship...she is starting the relationship with lies. Also, if she want to continue her association with the JW org....I hope you know this religion is very time consuming. It's literally their life...and all other things come second (intimate relationships, friendships, children, jobs, recreation, etc.).

My sister and I just had a long discussion about because we were raised JW, we have serious abandonmnet issues. And our parents are/were very loving and provided for us very well. But we always knew that they will let us go immediately if even a thought of choosing not to be Jehovah Witnesses. And yes since I have faded and my sister is disfellowshipped, they always remind us that they cannot have alot of contact with us.

So it's not just the having kids, it's issues that she has right now because of her cult raising that need to be addressed. And believe me they do not go away immediately...I've known that the religion was a cult for the past 15 years and I'm still suffering alot of the residual affects.

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Involved with a JW woman

by jonza in

okay so i'm dating a born-in jw woman, she's younger than me and has no kids.

i'm a christian man whos divorced with 2 kids.

we're in love and seriously want to be together.

Powerful1

I say do not marry her or date her until she is open about the relationship.

I speak from experience. I was a confused indoctrinated JW that secretly dated and married a nonJW.

My ex identified himself as a Christian, but was not very active (we were married for 15 yrs and he attended church twice). So he left the religion part up to me. I was not a strong witness at all, so I attended all of the meetings and some field service with my kids. I would let my kids participate in minor holidays (birthdays, Thanksgiving), but took a strong stance on major holidays (Christmas, Easter, etc.). Long and short my oldest was a little indoctrinated, and was confused with us training with both our beliefs. I left the religion (found out the truth was not the truth), then with anger, grief and all the things you go through when losing your religion, it took a toll on my marriage (when I was in made it very difficult with my husband) and took a toll on my oldest son. I left the religion when he was 10, but this kid still have some residual crap going on from the religion and he's now 27.

I'm not the best at writing to express myself....but I'm letting you know from reading your situation. Your girlfriend sound very similiar to the screwed up young lady I was. And it's just unhealthy for any relationship to start with someone lying or hiding about their love for you. And for the love of God if you decide to marry her....please do not let you children ever step foot into a Kingdom Hall. I feel anyone that know that this religion is a cult and then knowingly let a child attend, it's willfully committing child abuse.

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Father of four quits job after attending Annual Meeting

by confusedandalone in

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fvdegzadefa.

this is completely ridiculous.

even as an uber dub i would bnever ever do this!!!

Powerful1

The music was so insane....I now realized why we were brainwashed. It's like Disney music.

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Michelle Obama caption competiton - hubby chatting to Danish PM blonde

by besty in

jw
friends

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Powerful1

Yes Obama has swagger...And all I can say is he could definitely get it....lol

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Have you grown detached from caring about JW family and old friends?

by tootired2care in

jw
friends

after being out of the borg for a year and a half, weve dealt with a lot of nonsense from local elders stopping by unannounced, well-meaning do-gooders trying to encourage us.

somehow weve managed to get through this without getting dfd/dad.

for me the worst part of it all has been that much of my family has shunned me, and stopped talking to me, as soon as they heard through the grapevine that i wasnt going to meetings.

Powerful1

I was born in and forced to associate with them. If allowed freedom of association, I never would have been 'friends' with them. It's a relief not to have to pretend that I like them, respect them, or want to be around them.

I say amen to this.

I have lot of family in, both parents and lots of aunts, uncles and cousins. I have faded and I'm very open about my beliefs...but my family still will communicate with me. They think they are encouraging with remarks like, no matter what you have done, you can come back to Jehovah. This and other type of JW statements causes the divide....but, because I'm no longer in the evangelism business, I don't even give them the satifaction of trying to refute or defend my choice of life. I just let them know it was good seeing them and look for someone that I enjoy having conversation with.

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Who REALLY is doing the successful preaching work today?

by Faithful Witness in

why do the jw's report their field service hours each month, turning it in for recognition by an organization...??.

jw's love to brag about their preaching efforts.

their very claiming the recognition for this work, is cancelling out their reward from jehovah god, according to the words of jesus in matthew 6.

Powerful1

Right-wing megachurch pastors.

this is so true...this is most effective preaching.

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A mistake in fading 4 months ago is coming back to haunt me... HELP!!

by ILoveTTATT in

jw
friends

so today, two elders from a congregation i was in two years ago came by the house.

they said they wanted to talk to me about things that they have heard, and that they want to talk to me very quickly, as soon as possible.

perhaps before this week ends.. i don't know what to do!!

Powerful1

All you have to say is....I cannot meet with you (and say it very nicely and forceful). If they ask for another date....just say, "No not at this time". DO NOT EXPLAIN YOURSELF.

They will probably continue to ask questions, just listen politely...but do no answer...just say thanks for calling or your concern. But I need to go now....goodbye

This is a lesson that is important not just with JW, but with others. It's your life, time, journey, etc. and you control who you want to include.

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Waiting for the JWs to come to my door...

by Hortenzie in

i read about the new tract distribution and thought to myself how should i react, when they come to my door.

finally today, after finishing my morning coffee, i got an idea!

i'll take the tract, look at it, look at them, and with a nice smile rip it up and hand it back to them with :"have a great day!

Powerful1

Hortenzie....I'm not assuming. I'm going by what you stated....you want to pass judgment on those at your door...when they are probably heeding the same advice...the internet is evil.

I left 13 years ago...because of the internet...but also because of people giving me some things to think about when I was out in the Field Service.

You can do as you please...but the only person who will be affected is you....you will just help the JW in their beliefs and if non JW would see this, they will think you are crazy or very angry.

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Waiting for the JWs to come to my door...

by Hortenzie in

i read about the new tract distribution and thought to myself how should i react, when they come to my door.

finally today, after finishing my morning coffee, i got an idea!

i'll take the tract, look at it, look at them, and with a nice smile rip it up and hand it back to them with :"have a great day!

Powerful1

Hortenzie...if you came into the JW organization 15 years ago. Why didn't you look this information up? this explains why it's disrespectful...you bought into it.

This is your statement: Ignorance is a choice and in this "Information age" it is not even an excuse, any longer.

But I ultimately think you shouldn't give out anything you don't want in return. If you want people to dismiss your thoughts or your journey with anger...then rip up the literature. But if you want compassion and understanding of your current journey. You can refuse to take the literature and give your reason. Or take the literature and give them a take away (or plant a seed).

Anytime a JW speak with me...I always tell them to look up their religions history. If it's a young person...I tell them when i was 17 years old...I was told not to pursue education because the end was so near...then I let them know, I'm now a Grandmother. To not waste their life for an end times organization.

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Waiting for the JWs to come to my door...

by Hortenzie in

i read about the new tract distribution and thought to myself how should i react, when they come to my door.

finally today, after finishing my morning coffee, i got an idea!

i'll take the tract, look at it, look at them, and with a nice smile rip it up and hand it back to them with :"have a great day!

Powerful1

If you want to attract disrespect. No matter what your beliefs....I truly believe what you put out you will get back.