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  Following Hassan's Book: Chapter 1

  by ILoveTTATT in

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  i think to the benefit of all, i will write my comments of steven hassan's latest book, freedom of mind: helping loved ones leave controlling people, cults, and beliefs.. you can purchase the book in amazon.com, there is a kindle version which is very handy since you can read it wherever you have internet connection, or if you have an iphone, an ipad, android phone, etc.. you can get it here: .

  http://www.amazon.com/freedom-mind-helping-controlling-beliefs-ebook/dp/b008haiwiw/ref=sr_1_1_bnp_1_kin?ie=utf8&qid=1384750710&sr=8-1&keywords=freedom+of+mind.

  the first chapter talks about determining whether a particular group is a cult.. "destructive cults are distinguished by their use of deception and extreme influence.".

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  Daniel1555

  Thanks for your summary
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  How to accept the actions of the Old Testament God

  by confusedandalone in

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  how are we able to do this.. this is not an attempt to stir the pot or cause confusion but i was sitting here thinking of all the really horrid things that the old testament god did to people.

  when i was a jw i just purposely put it to the back of my mind always trying to make an excuse.

  when i was in field service and someone would ask me about it i would just change the subject.. however i have been reading alot of info lately here about how wonderful jesus is and how he is a direct representation of what god the father would be.

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  Daniel1555

  WT and other groups who believe the bible is infallible say:

  1. Those nations (like canaanites) deserved it, as they did very bad things.

  2. God gave life, God can take lives. Who are we to judge him?

  3. God will have some reasons for his actions that we don't have.

  Some of my friends and family say that Jehovah will ressurect some that he killed. They say it would have been better for the canaanite babies to be killed by the sword than to be left on their own to die.

  I can't accept any of these explanations.
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  How to accept the actions of the Old Testament God

  by confusedandalone in

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  how are we able to do this.. this is not an attempt to stir the pot or cause confusion but i was sitting here thinking of all the really horrid things that the old testament god did to people.

  when i was a jw i just purposely put it to the back of my mind always trying to make an excuse.

  when i was in field service and someone would ask me about it i would just change the subject.. however i have been reading alot of info lately here about how wonderful jesus is and how he is a direct representation of what god the father would be.

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  Daniel1555

  Like you I put these horrible things (god ordering genocide, killing of babies, death penalty etc) just aside. As I became a father I couldn't do that anymore. So I studied a lot about it and came to the conclusion that the bible is not infallible and that the god there is just the tribal god of Israel and not the real creator.

  I cannot believe anymore in such a god, ordering the cruelest acts everyone would be appalled if they happened today. My conscience doesn't allow that. I believe in a creator who is not graspable with our mind, unimaginable powerful and wise, who brought all natural laws into existence (and also the miracle for live to evolve) and gave freedom for all his works.
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  Wife and kids are officially OUT!!

  by Oneoutallout in

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  my wife has told her jw best friend and jw sister that she is givng up the religion!!

  and there was i worrying about losing her when i left the cult.

  and, to top it all, my 15 and 13 year old children are using their critical thinking skills and can see it all for what it is.

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  Wow that is wonderful.

  Just one question. When you left the cult, how did you do it? Did you disassociate, disfellowship or fade? How did your wife and kids react when you left?
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  School for Couples - Age restriction raised to 65 yrs old

  by Quarterback in

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  wtf....apparently there is a new letter that states that the age for qualify for christian couples for serving where there is a new has been raised to 65. previous it was 55 yrs of age..

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  Daniel1555

  The school is not only for couples, single brothers, now new also for single sisters.

  So that means probably most students in the school are female.
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  Christadelphians (Christ brothers/Sisters)

  by Rip in

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  in my plan to exit the jw i thought it would be good if i adhere to another faith group, not cultish as the jw but non trinitarian.. this is decided for the sake of my children (two sons)'s spritual safety.

  i researched the internet and in the non trinitarian groups i found these christadelphian.

  any idea about this group?.

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  Hi RIP

  What about Unitarian Universalists (UU)?

  They seem to me very tolerant and they have some very nice creeds.

  All the best to you.

  Daniel
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  The fiance brought in witnesses today oh joy. QUESTIONS

  by OneStepOut93 in

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  so it's been seven months since i moved out of my parents place and in with my (now) fiance.

  they came to our door this morning and it's been a long time since i spoke to my parents.

  i was never disfellowshipped because i was never baptized but there is still online limited contact.

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  Daniel1555

  You have a loving fiancě, that's wonderful.

  You were not baptized. So your parents have no reason to shun you. Of course it might have been shocking for them that you moved out and lived with him. But with time I think they will get used to the situation.

  You and your fiancé, just be kind and loving to your parents no matter how they react. Be also steadfast for your belief and don't pretend to do something you don't want to.

  Good luck to you and your fiancé
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  should I tell the CO my doubts?

  by Captain Blithering in

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  its possible i might be asked by the co to work with him today.

  hes gonna want to know why i'm holding myself back.

  i'm itching to tell him about my doubts (only about the new light, how i cant get my head around how the hs would direct us to believe falsehoods for decades, not about everything, that'd be suicide!

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  Daniel1555

  Hi captain blithering

  I expressed to the elders and to my wife most of my doubts.

  That lifted a weight from my chest. So I was able to step down as elder and for me it was important to be honest especially towards my wife. The elders might want to continue to help you spiritually. The only thing they are able to tell you is to wait on Jehovah and that everyone has certain doubts.

  If you tell your wife and also the elders, they will understand "why" you are fading.

  If you have a loving wife she will respect your feelings and thoughts. My wife doesn't respect my feelings (or at least she is learning it over time). One suggestion I can give you. Do not try to reason too much with your wife or don't give her the impression that you want to change her belief.

  Anyway I wish you all the best and I feel for you.

  Daniel
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  What is the best for the child if father knows TTATT and mother is a devout JW?

  by Daniel1555 in

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  hi friends.

  i would like to know your opinion on the following:.

  situation:.

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  Daniel1555

  Wow, I love Datadogs advice how to be a good father and I will apply it.

  Some of you don't seem to understand why I am talking to the elders about doubts. I just shortly explain. 3 years ago I wrote them a letter that I have to step down as an elder because of my feelings /doubts. Now during the last year they wanted to help me and my wife, so they met several times with me alone and also with us as a couple. They are kind and want to help, but they don't help actually, because the only thing what they tell me the whole time is that I am wrong and that I should be humble and accept that. They know about most of my doubts (actually they are not doubts anymore but certainties) except the blood issue. The blood issue is in my eyes the most important of the wrong teachings (next to df and shunning) as it can be a life or death matter. So in this matter I do not compromise and am ready to defend this stand (actually my parents who are 50 years in "the truth" agree with me on this) also before the elders.
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  What is the best for the child if father knows TTATT and mother is a devout JW?

  by Daniel1555 in

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  hi friends.

  i would like to know your opinion on the following:.

  situation:.

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  Daniel1555

  Of course I agree with you, Cofty.