There's a slight risk that when "apostate" letter writing, if you were to include any personal information, the receiver may know a JW (family, friend, coworker, etc) or show one that comes to the door the letter they received. This could expose you.
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"Apostate" Letter Writing
by kneehighmiah induring these cold months i need a way to keep my hours up and stay under the radar.
i'm still an ms so i can't totally fake it.
so i decided to try letter writing to avoid going out into the cold.
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Child intimidated into no sports activities- suggestions please
by 4thgen inmy ex is an active witness.
i've been endeavoring to socialize my child ad best as possible.
he loves sports in school, but has been intimidated by his father that after school activities are evil.
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KiddingMe
Just thinking, the fact that you have full custody gives you an advantage here. Unless there's some type of parenting agreement with regard to school activities, your ex is going to need to be more respectful of activities your son is involved in while under your care. This includes guilting him or transferring his personal opinions onto your son. Things are different now than when you all were married. It's in his best interest to be reasonable if he doesn't want it to affect his relationship with his son.
How many JWs have unbelieving mates, and their children are involved in school activities or sports? There's an elder who's son is a professional athlete, his wife is an unbeliever, so the door was open to allow sports. He supports his child to this day attending events as his schedule allows. Dad is a very humble man and you wouldn't know it if you didn't know him personally but those that know him know how proud he is of his child. But at the same time if it were up to his religious believes it may not have happen. Its the same concept now that you are divorced, there must be a compromise, in the best interest of the child. I know it sounds easier than it is but sometimes JWs need an out to allow themselves (their conscience) to be okay with the situation. I'm not implying your an unbeliever, but it's the same in the sense that you may have to take a stand (without jeopardizing your son's trust) like some unbelievers have in this situation.
Can you have a conversation with dad realigning boundaries? Is he reasonable? If so, you could say something like, "you know how much "child name" likes "whatever activities" I sense that he is hesitant in exploring this because he may worry about how you will feel about it. I know you don't agree with it personally and you should know that if he does this, it's not a reflection on you since I have full custody. My concern is that you both have the best relationship and that "child name" understands from you that whether or not he does this he has your unconditional love. "
if you could work on something like this, in addition to addressing your son's fear, maybe it will help ease things up. If you do, it's very important to be careful how you address the situation to dad so as to not put your son in the middle. Wishing you all the best.
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Child intimidated into no sports activities- suggestions please
by 4thgen inmy ex is an active witness.
i've been endeavoring to socialize my child ad best as possible.
he loves sports in school, but has been intimidated by his father that after school activities are evil.
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KiddingMe
You will need to help your son to understand that after school activities are not evil. If sports are evil, then why do JWs watch them? So it's important to help him to understand that his dad and JWs view them as evil because they fear the bad association and interference with service to Jah, etc. Help him to see that all non-JWs are not bad association and that whether he is involved in after school activities or not he will need to strive to avoid what is really considered to be "bad association".
I agree with your concern and the structured environment. My child loves sports. I've seen good results from his involvment. He currently holds 3.5 gpa in honors classes, but was borderline before with failing grades. The coach requires biweekly progress reports with 2.5 or better and no failing grades in order to play. They sign a contract, no alcohol, no drugs, proper use of social network. He is too tired after practice to go hang out in the streets like he used to. Children get board easily and will find something to get into good or bad. There are at least 8 other JWs attending his school. I try to help him to understand the JW view of sports and that he must have respect and use discretion so as to not rub it in their face but at the same time, this is a personal decision that we have made and that he is not doing anything wrong, as long as he stays out of trouble.
i hope the best for your son and that he's able to decide for himself instead of being intimidated with some imaginary "evil".
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My Son has had two very big University interviews
by CaptainSchmideo inone for mit last month, and one for princeton tonight.. if i told this to people at my old hall, i am sure the reaction would be the same as if i broke a big, noisy windblast in front of them.. but i have to brag about it to someone, so, i will do it here.. .
we will not know anything about whether he is going to be accepted for a couple of months yet, but, as they say, this $%^# just got real!.
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Congratulations to you and your son!
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Don't Question GOD! (aka the governing body)
by sunny23 indid a simple search in the wt library for words like, "question," "questioning," "doubts/ing,"obey," "understand.".
these are listed in order of occurence oldest to newest (up to 2012 as my library is 2012 version).
"if we have love for jehovah and for the organization of his people we shall not be suspicious, but shall, as the bible says, 'believe all things,' all the things that the watchtower brings out"qualified to be ministers (1955) p.156.
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Thanks! Marked
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A Mom, Dad And 2 Grown Kids (20ish) All Disfellowshipped This Week!
by minimus init happened in a local kingdom hall this past week.. my daughter went on one of the kid's facebook accounts and he posted pics of him with 2 joints in his mouth at the same time.. i heard the parents and sibling were aware of it and never reported it to the elders..
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Without knowing the whole story it seems like they elders or the org needed to make an example out of them. Most of the instances I know about where someone didn't report another resulted in the non-reporter receiving some type of reproof. It certainly sets a tone. Now some family members are going to be throwing each other under the bus left and right to stay in Jehovah's good graces.
Next year's convention theme will be, "Who Will You Choose, Your Fleshly Family or the Almighty Jehovah?"
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So Who Would Win In A Fight, and Why?
by Apognophos in.
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: apologies if this has been done before.. (if the link ever breaks, i'll try to post a new one in a future post, but it's a pic of the current governing body.
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So Who Would Win In A Fight, and Why?
by Apognophos in.
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: apologies if this has been done before.. (if the link ever breaks, i'll try to post a new one in a future post, but it's a pic of the current governing body.
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KiddingMe
My money is on the rennagade-outsider in the grey/gray suit. He's not in uniform.
Good catch Gladiator! I wonder if he did it on purpose or if he didn't get the the Picture Day Dress Code Memo?
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Witnesses: Why The 1/19/14 WT Lesson Is Dangerous
by Apognophos intoday's watchtower lesson touched on the history of hezekiah's reign, and then made a surprising modern-day application.
having used my time before the meeting to research the underlying material instead of highlighting my magazine, i personally found this to be an upsetting study, and decided to put this warning here in the hopes that some active witnesses read it.. the most important thing i want to say to you is that the actual flow of events in this bible account were severely misrepresented, and that there are some disturbing implications in the distortions that were made.
1. hezekiah's father ahaz makes himself a vassal to assyria out of fear of their overwhelming might (2 kings 16:7, 8).. 2. upon becoming king, hezekiah rebels against assyria (2 kings 18:7).
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KiddingMe
Thank you! Excellent post! Very well written.
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The "Assyrian", the "seven shepherds", the "eight dukes"
by bats in the belfry in.. .. .. .
will become whatever the wtbts needs them to become.. .. once upon a time they said this:.
1943 the watchtower, april 15, page 124.
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This is crazy. Do they research their own materials first coming up with this stuff?
