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  getting my feet wet!

  by Shania in

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  hi all!!!!

  i've been apart of all your stories......been lurking here since 03. you all have helped me in many ways .....i feel like i'm stepping out of the little puddle and am looking at a big ocean....so it is sink or swim for my life back.....and by reading here i feel like i am safe.....though a bit scarey!

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  Mystery

  Welcome, Shania -

  I was a long time lurker as well.
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  I am new and scared

  by franki in

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  i am terrified to be writing this because i am officially being bad.

  i am talking with other "sinners".

  i do not want to be a witness.

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  Welcome to the board franki!

  All of us were more than likely "scared" of losing something when leaving the organization. A lot of us have come a long way after taking that first step. For the most part you will recieve support here. We won't tell you what to do, but we will listen to you, let you vent and hopefully be able to answer questions you may have.

  My only advice - be true to yourself.

  Deborah
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  Help and advice needed soon , please

  by jules99 in

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  i am looking for some advice to hopefully prevent me going mad.

  my husband (an elder) was disf?d by the jws 8 years ago for having an affair with me and consequently leaving his wife.

  he has 4 grown-up children and 9 grandchildren.

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  Mystery

  Jules I am very sorry for your loss. Welcome to JWD.
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  Where do Newspapers get their Information?

  by Mystery in

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  anyone want to email the editor and inform him that he needs to get his facts straight?.

  http://www.paysonroundup.com/section/frontpage_lead/story/18162.

  sorry - i don't know how to copy/insert the article.

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  Mystery

  Emailed the reporter but didn't recieve a reply.

  Jankyn - you are right about the "fluff" stories in this particular content. We have them here too.

  I just hope some depressed, lonely person doesn't read it and belive it.
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  Where do Newspapers get their Information?

  by Mystery in

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  anyone want to email the editor and inform him that he needs to get his facts straight?.

  http://www.paysonroundup.com/section/frontpage_lead/story/18162.

  sorry - i don't know how to copy/insert the article.

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  Mystery

  Anyone want to email the editor and inform him that he needs to get his facts straight?

  http://www.paysonroundup.com/section/frontpage_lead/story/18162

  Sorry - I don't know how to copy/insert the article.
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  I'm not being shunned any longer, and I planted the seed!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  by AloneinOh in

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  i called my parents last night.

  " again, dad says, "huh, what are you talking about?

  i know dad...but it's true.

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  Mystery

  I am REALLY happy for you Alone.

  Alone no longer!
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  Look who just joined our family!

  by Sirona in

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  we just had a new addition to the family!

  monty is a miniature schnauzer puppy, aged 8 weeks.

  cute or what!?

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  Mystery

  The tool you were talking about is called a "rake". It is a metal "brush" that pulls the old coat and allows the new coat to take over. It basically helps shedding. The old coat needs to come out or 1) a dog will continue to shed until it is all out or 2) it will mat and cause clumps, hot spots etc? on the skin. Do not scrape the skin with the rake, but make sure you get to the bottom coat when using it.

  Blondie is right about stripping his coat, there is no reason for it unless you plan on showing him.

  Frontline (in most cases) is the best flea deterrent to use. There are several others offered at cheaper prices, but with my personal experience (I have 3 ? 5 dogs at any given time) Frontline is the only one to use. It is also the only type we sell at the kennel.

  8 weeks isn?t young for training. IF the mother had of been ?housetrained?, (been allowed to go out and in doors with the puppies) Monty would have already been housetrained. If the ?mom? (the actual puppy?s mom) had of been able to go outside to ?do her business? while nursing the puppies, the puppies would have learned to go outside to do their business as well, Monty would have been ?housetrained? when you purchased him. But? since he isn?t; do you put him in a crate (no it isn?t inhumane). Most dogs, even puppies, won?t poop where they sleep. If you put him in a crate at bedtime and take him out as soon as you get up he should learn to ?hold it? until he is taken out or taken to the paper. But do this as soon as you get up, don?t go make coffee, or brush your teeth etc? as soon as he knows you are up.

  All I can suggest is to take him to training when he is around 4 months. Even with obedience training the trainer should be able to give you suggestions on housetraining and with demanding attention when he wants it. To bad we don?t live closer, Kirsten is an excellent trainer.

  Good luck. He is a cutie.
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  East Tennessee/Eastern Kentucky???

  by Junction-Guy in

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  im trying to locate as many ex-jw's in these areas as i can.

  i would like to plan some kind of apostafest,meetup, picnic, or whatever this summer.

  i live in knoxville tennessee and after nearly 7 years have only met 3 x-jw's within 200 miles of me.

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  Mystery

  I'm only 230 miles from you. I may be able to drag a few more along with me. Let us know, just in case.

  Huntsville, AL

  deborah
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  Look who just joined our family!

  by Sirona in

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  we just had a new addition to the family!

  monty is a miniature schnauzer puppy, aged 8 weeks.

  cute or what!?

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  He is so cute!

  I am working for a dog trainer/groomer presently and have learned a great deal. Blondie gave you some very good websites.

  Couple of things i have learned:

  Began training between 3 - 4 months.

  Began his grooming early and regularly (including his teeth). If he is taught at a young age not to be afraid of the sound clippers make he will be a lot easier to groom.

  I am learning how to groom at work. I had rather groom a Great Pyrenees than a Schnauzer that has not been introduced to grooming at an early age. We had 3 schnauzers in for grooming on Thursday; we had to muzzle two of them. One almost bit Kirsten on the face. Make sure the groomer does not use sedatives. Some groomers will use them and not inform the owner.

  If you don?t feel comfortable with the groomer/trainer don?t use them. Meet with them before you set up an appointment, talk with them for a few minutes. If you feel comfortable, set up an appointment. Don?t take up a lot of their time when you first meet with them, Kirsten does not mind at all talking with clients or potential clients, but typically she doesn?t have time to talk for 30 ? 40 minutes. So don?t be offended if they cannot talk with you for a long period of time. Meet with them to get a feel for the person and to see if your puppy even likes them.

  These are personal suggestions I have as far as training:

  Train with a group (6 ? 8 people) this teaches a dog social skills. Learning to obey/listen in a group setting teaches obedience regardless as to whether you are outdoors with him or at home.

  Find a trainer that does not reward with treats.

  Sit ? good dog ? treat. Down ? good dog ? treat. What happens when you run out of treats? Eventually the dog will learn to obey w/o the treat, but why teach him with treats and take them away? If you drink morning coffee ? would you like someone all the sudden taking it away from you?

  Praise , praise, praise is their reward. With great enthusiasm! Like the first time you said Merry Christmas and really meant it! The trainer should correct you more than Monty. Be consistent at home. If you make him ?wait? before he is allowed to walk in the door, do it each time you come in the door.

  My Rottweiler would jump to my seat in the car, as I was getting out, then jump between me and the car door beating me out of the car. She is now told to ?wait? and cannot move until I tell her ?OK?. I would make her ?wait? sometimes and sometimes I wouldn?t. It got to the point that even when I was telling her to ?wait? she wouldn?t because I had let her get away with it so many times. Now, even if I have to put her back into the car and make her ?sit?, we will do it over and over again until she ?waits?. It took about 2 days for her to know that I was serious (again), and she wasn?t going to get away with not obeying.

  If you need any suggestions on anything I would be glad to ask Kirsten.
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  Were You Truly Aware of What Your Baptism Meant?

  by minimus in

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  some got baptized as kids.

  others---a lot older.

  at whatever age you were, did you really know what you were getting into?

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  Mystery

  I can't remember the exact date any longer. I was around 11, 12 or 13. All i wanted to do was serve Jehovah. Didn't realize at that time that it wasn't God I was serving.

  Never phantomed being disfellowshipped. I wasn't like "those people!".

  At 14 "those people" were some of my friends; i believe that is when i began "my downfall" from the truth - it was wrong to turn my back on my friend. But i did.