Posts by Mystery

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Please don't take offence at this ...

by Joe Grundy in

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i'm not a jw, never have been, and in no danger of becoming one.. having read several of the wt mags and publications (and many more extracts on this and other sites) they come across to me as being very patronising in tone and full of pseudo-scholarship, misquoted (or unnamed) sources, references taken out of context, mis-translations, etc.

i'm aware of jw 'teaching' on the subject of higher education for its members (i.e.

not a good or necessary thing) so i can understand why many jws raised in it may not challenge the publications.

Mystery

My dad strong intellect was math. It was amazing the numbers and formulas he could configure in his mind without even blinking an eye.

After discovering the truth about the witnesses i t had really upset me about how intelligent this man was and how completely conned he was. How could he not see the issues with 607 BC? The Big A not coming in 1975? The other discrepancies relating to dates. It was utterly amazing that this man that could answer "every" mathmatical question given to him be so damn stupid!!

I have really been angry at him for a very long time for him making us live this lie and in the beginning, truly believing it.

My aunt called me a few weeks ago (non-JW) and I guess I was feeling depressed that day and she said something about mom and JW’s in general. I let out all of the questions and pain that I had been feeling for over 25 years. I ask her how could Dad not know this was all lies? How could he fall for this? How could he look at me (once I left – home and JW’s) like I was the biggest disappointment he had ever had?

She told me that possibly it was because HE NEEDED to grasp onto something to make his life complete at that moment. He NEEDED to completely believe in something at that moment in his life. He NEEDED the love bombing, the ‘family’ portrayed, the answers to life’s questions. He was desperate to have something good in his life because he now had a family and there had to be something to believe in. (He didn’t have a lot of support family-wise, emotionally or financially growing up) She said that maybe IT gave him the sanity he needed in his life at that moment. The rules IT made him follow. The structure IT gave him.

She changed my perspective on my dad.

I feel that most adult people become JW’s because of being vulnerable at a particular moment in their life. Needing help at that momment in their life. Wanting someone (anyone) to tell them that life is going to be OK. Who better than someone simply stating ‘the truth’ about Gods word.

I don’t feel it is intellect/education I feel that most adults absorbing all of the JW teachings NEED something to fill the void in their life. Who can do that better than God? Who can do that better than a JW leading them to salvation?

Vulnerability

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HEY I HAVE SOME GREAT NEWS!

by jaredg in

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i have found one of my old jw friends from when i was a teenager.

i discovered her on myspace and wrote her message and it turns out that she is out of the religion and doing well.

this is the first time i have met one of my friends from my inner circle who has left the jw religion...i'm so excited!

Mystery

It is wonderful to regain a friendship. Welcome to the board KimberB.

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LOVING Blondie moment

by hamsterbait in

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this angel has helped so many of us find information and contacts.

could you alone have found answers so quickly, or answers so accurate??.

this girl is a goddess.. are you sending her love now?.

Mystery

“Who really is the faithful and discreet slave whom his master appointed over his domestics, to give them their food at the proper time?

I know that Blondies 'food' is a lot more tasteful than the "f&dsc".

Thank you for all of your hard work Blondie.

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What nice, interesting thing did you see today?

by Lady Lee in

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so often we are stuck in the negative part of life and see so much of the bad.

the news is full of it.

i look for the things that are nice.

Mystery

Seeing the sun beaming through beautiful bright blue sky breaking through the gray clouds gave me a mo mentary glimpse of utter peace.

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greetings from another newbie

by lost_sheep in

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well... i've finally worked up the courage to get an account & start posting on this site.

i've been lurking for a couple of months now, voraciously reading all the, mmm, "delightful words of truth" i've found here.

i'm currently deep in dubdom, so i have to be pretty ambiguous about some personal details, (i'm really paranoid, hopefully that will pass :-/) but my story in a nutshell is: i was born into this religion, baptised in my mid teens, happily married to a wonderful (& thankfully, somewhat open-minded) jw lady, & now, several years later, i'm starting to seriously question some of what i believe.

Mystery

Welcome Lost Sheep. Just take one moment at a time.

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MY BIRTHDAY TODAY...

by helppls in

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...happy birthday to me....happy birthday to me..... hi everyone!

we'll most likely do a nice dinner tonight as a family (husband, daughter and i), and i will have to buy my own cake.

but we can never call it a birthday anything...the very mention of the term freaks him out!

Mystery

Have a very HAPPY BIRTHDAY, helppls

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Run Through the Rain

by Lady Lee in

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on this rainy day in ottawa i thought i'd share this.. a little girl had been shopping with her mom in target.

she must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence.

it was pouring outside.

Mystery

TAKEING THE TIME TO RUN THROUGH THE RAIN.

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Josh's life

by Jourles in

(i've been holding out wondering if i was going to post this or not.

keep in mind this is just skimming the surface - there are many more details that i feel should not be touched upon.

but if you've always wanted to know my background, here ya go...).

Mystery

Thanks for sharing that with us. Just more proof that the web is one of the main tools for enlightenment.

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Vicodin, the not so innocent addiction

by free2beme in

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with the thing that happened with kennedy today, it got me to thinking about how many people i know who are addicted to vicodin.

they always think it is no big deal, as it is not meth, or any other well known and notorious drugs.

plus, in their mind, they label what they take as okay as it is not listed as illegal and doctors do give out the prescription.

Mystery

My son broke his shoulder when he was 14 y/o. He was given Loratab and became addicted. I had several bottles in the medicine cabinet from previous injuries – he used all of those and then began buying them from kids at school. As aquagirl stated:

My personal feeling is that being out of pain is what is addicting..

This was the case with my son, but the pain wasn’t due to the broken shoulder that the pills had been prescribed for; he was bipolar (which we were unaware of at that point) – the drugs gave him a calmness that he had not experienced before. He was doing anything to get pain pills. He was ‘self-medicating’ his mental condition. All of that is a different story in itself.

IMHO I feel that in some cases – like my sons – after the physical pain is gone and the pills are still ‘needed’ that there could be a deeper problem than just ‘yea, he was/is addicted. It started when he was prescribed some for his broken shoulder.’

He has tried to explain to me why; why he ‘has to have them’, why he would do anything for them, why he became this person that I didn’t know because of them. He didn’t want to be this person. He didn’t want to steal. He didn’t want to turn in to a madman. He didn’t want to yell and cuss and scream and destroy my house. He didn’t want to…. But he did. The problem wasn’t from broken shoulder in which the pills were prescribed. The pills were for a much deeper problem.

But i can certainly see the appeal of being painfree and still able to function.

Which pain? The physical or the mental?

If a loved one becomes addicted to painkillers I would suggest that instead of making them stop or sending them to rehab, etc... to find out why they need the high. Becasue if you simply take the pills away, the problem is still there. Next time it could be much worse.

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Ultrasound photo of bubs

by Es in

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hey all,.

i ended up in emergency the other night had a bit of bleeding.

but all is well with bubs, im going to call it she coz i think its a she?????

Mystery

Congradulations.