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HELP! My JW parents are trying to steal my daughter

by calamityjane in

i just phoned my daughter who is 23 years old, and she is graduating from college in toronto this june.

i thought because there were some great flight offers that i would be spontaneous and be there for her graduation and just do a mother daughter thing of celebrating.

well i just phoned her, to tell her that i would like to be there, and she hits me with the bombshell that my parents will be there and staying with her.

Mystery

And I'm there in the background as a blacksheep.

Who says we are "black sheep"? I don't know what my feelings will be in 9 years regarding my sons, but I strongly feel that whether they want me there or not, that any special occasions in their life that i will be there.

Be there for her, she may not appreciate it now, but when she "grows up" she will remember in the back of her mind that you were ALWAYS their for her.

Suppose her grandparents "shun" her in the future, who will be their for her? Them? Or you?

She is making a mistake in her life right now. Are you going to follow in the Borg footsteps and shun her?

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NaruNaruChan - I love "marinated Mushrooms" you can have the artichokes! I will share the "six pack of Smirnoff Triple Black"! Maybe after my son goes to bed!

You know --- live is good! I haven't been to the Memorial in several years, but this is the first year that it has actually felt good!

How was your Memorial? Was it enlightening? My son thought I was just being silly, but guess what? he will never forget his 1st!!!!!! Memorial! And ..... he will always "remember the moon".

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How I Spent My Memorial

by Mystery in

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Mystery

I took my 13 yr old outside and showed him the moon. I told him how much i loved him and that no matter what happended to me that each time he looked at the moon in the future that i would be there with him. that each time he felt like no one ever understood him that I would be there for him. I told him that even tho Jesus had his friends with him, that some betrayed him, that his best friends stood by him and that they loved him. Even tho that happened to him, that regardless of what happened to me when I die, that I would ALWAYS!!!!!!! love him. All he had to do was look at the moon And I Would Be With Him. He sorta got silly after that but I think I got the point across. Everytiime he looks at the moon, regardless of clouds or darkness, he will think of me. He will know that I love him and that I believe in him.

I spent my "Memorial" telling my son that I believe in him. I have NEVER felt so complete in All My Life!

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How I Spent My Memorial

by Mystery in

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At last!

by leddfootdja in

i registered 2 months ago but never received the email with a password.

i thought the admin had something against me!.

anyway, male 28 y/o ex-jw as of 7 years ago from the sterling heights(detroit), mi area.

Mystery

Welcome.

I have already been surprised at all i have/am learning.

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What parents need to know...

by SheilaM in

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today on montel he is discussing a subject i just did a speech on yesterday.

it's about the medication of children for adhd.

1. that ritalin is a class ii drug and is on the same as cocaine.

Mystery

Not being able to find "right" answers are flusterating to those of us trying to find the truth.

Kids being "lumped" into a catagory really upsets me.

My youngest son, now 13, was diagnosed with ADD (I think) they wanted him on Ritlan, but I refused. Upon further digging his problem was not that he didn't want to pay attention or learn, it was that he had lost 70% of hearing in one of his ears and 50% in his other ear. He "couldn't hear" in his 1st & 2nd year of school. I didn't notice, I though he was just a quiet child, his brother did all of his talking for him. He subconsciencely learned what I wanted from him with my gestures (I always had points "taken off" for not gesturing during my talks! Anyone remember that?) After getting my son a hearing aide he learned to read and pay attention.

This turned me off to diagnosis/drugs before my oldest began showing real signs of violence, disrespect and anger.

For those of us trying to find answers it is just really flusterating when people say "if you had of just disciplined....beat....grounded....not let him hang out with so & so...etc....... he wouldn't be this way. Let me have him for a few days, he will come back a different person." I have several friends that I will not talk to about my son because of their ignorance in the real problem (see above). They ask me about him and I just say "he's fine".

Still searching for real answers....

Deborah

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What parents need to know...

by SheilaM in

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today on montel he is discussing a subject i just did a speech on yesterday.

it's about the medication of children for adhd.

1. that ritalin is a class ii drug and is on the same as cocaine.

Mystery

Lyin Eyes . ---"I read that Bipolar and ADD run so close in symptoms that doctors think they may actually be the same thing, or so close because of the way the brain looks in scans and the brain chemicals."--- (sorry I still haven't figured out the quote color thing)

Is your doctor saying that you have both? I was understood "our doc" to say that ADHD & Bi-Polar II ran along the same lines. The violent part of my son was more toward the Bi-Polar & the lack of concentration, going 90mph or crashing was toward the ADHD side.

Any suggetions for the questions I can ask the doc's? Has anyone had any specific test that I can request to get his problem diagnosed completely or as close as possible?

A boy in our area killed his parents a few years back, if I remember correctly he used an ax and then went after his broher and sister. I don't remember all of the facts... i can look them up if someone wants to know them....
Point is that the doctor this boy was seeing was the same doctor that my son "was" seeing. He reminded us of this incident and told us that the boy was in the III/IV Stage of Bi-Polar and that he had warned the parents about the violence of the boy and they chose to ignore it. He told us that our son was in the II Stage of Bi-Polar. So guess what i go to sleep of and dream at night?

I don't want thrown into a catagory. I want to know what is out there that can properly diagnose my son.

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What parents need to know...

by SheilaM in

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today on montel he is discussing a subject i just did a speech on yesterday.

it's about the medication of children for adhd.

1. that ritalin is a class ii drug and is on the same as cocaine.

Mystery

RN -

I can not reply to your PM.
My direct email is [email protected]

The answer to your question is yes, in the county.

Deborah

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What parents need to know...

by SheilaM in

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today on montel he is discussing a subject i just did a speech on yesterday.

it's about the medication of children for adhd.

1. that ritalin is a class ii drug and is on the same as cocaine.

Mystery

I have been to doctor after doctor for over 2 years with my son. He has been diagnosed with bi-polar, manic depressant and other things that I cannot even remember. Now they are “classifying” him as possible ADHT. (And he isn’t even being brought up a JW!)

He has done everything from going after his dad with a broken beer bottle to trying to commit suicide to getting a machete and cutting both his arms (and wrist!) up one side and down the other. He has taken a bird away from our cat and nursed it back to health, took his younger brother over and told him how proud he is of him, he has surprised me by me coming home and having a perfectly clean house. Dr. Jeckle and Mr. Hyde.

He has a chemical brain imbalance; we are still trying to get it straightened out.

I have gone against all drugs they wanted to give him. I have finally conceded and he is now on Zoloft. He is a different person. He holds his temper (most of the time) instead of letting it fly. He does the dishes, grudgingly as most teenagers, but he now does them. He still can’t sit still for very long. He is very smart especially in mathematics, his SAT’s were in the top .5%. The doc wants to put him on sleeping pills because his mind races so much that he can’t sleep. I have been giving him St. Johns Wort and it has helped him some. I haven’t conceded to the sleeping pills yet. We are still in turmoil with him. Waiting for “something else” to happen.

For those of you that believe they can “knock it into him” (I am so SICK AND TIRED of people saying that!) that it is all a bunch of BS; learn the facts before you start with your BS! I know that some parent that have taken the "easy way out" and just drug their kids and every time I think of it I get furious!!! Don’t put all of us in that same category.

If there is an expert on this forum I would like your opinion. I am afraid for my son. I don’t want him on drugs, but if he really honestly has a medical problem I don’t want him to be stuck with a wrong label. He has been labeled with so many different acronyms what do I believe?

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What parents need to know...

by SheilaM in

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friends

today on montel he is discussing a subject i just did a speech on yesterday.

it's about the medication of children for adhd.

1. that ritalin is a class ii drug and is on the same as cocaine.

Mystery

SixofNine is correct.

SheliaM you said that you just spoke on this subject. What do you do?

I am in a huge dilema regarding my son. I need assistance if you are knowledgable in the area.

Thank you.
deborah