Posts by unique1

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My Dad

by KW13 in

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i've never really mentioned my real dad or our relationship but since we've just passed fathers day i thought i would.. the man mum lives with now is my stepdad who i've never seen eye to eye with until these recent months and despite the pain he caused me in the past i feel that i should look out for him now (he's quite a bit older than my mum, in his mid 50's now...not necessarily old but he had a stroke and his mental state isnt what i would describe as normal).

with him i've been on an emotional journey because i can finally move on from the problems he caused and even use my experiences for the better.

megan has played her part in this of course in more ways than one, her stepdad died recently and she didnt have the chance to forgive the things he did properly and it hurts her, i dont want that.

unique1

WOW, crazy. Sorry you and your mom had to experience all of that.

HAPPY PRE-FATHERS DAY!!

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INCOMING!

by RollerDave in

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well, i'm going to have visitors this saturday.... it's a long tale, but it does have a point, i promised at one time to post about the ugly poa mess, and these visitors are directly involved in this ugliness.. my dub niece and her hubby, who haven't seen fit to have any contact with me in over three years called me out of the blue offering me my dad's old furniture, so i'm going out there to pick it up in my van, but then they are following me back home to 'hang out and maybe grill some stuff' just as if nothing's changed, but a lot has changed.. we recently had a battle in my family over my aging mother's poa because she has the early stages of alzheimer's and the family broke into factions along unexpected lines.. the primary combatents were my two sisters, mrs. po who is the third child (i am the fouth), and srlb who is the youngest of us five.. the other players are my two brothers, 'non-dub', the oldest, and 'df', the second.. well, non-dub molested srlb when she was eight, just once, but that is a million times too many and after years of seeming to tolerate his presence when she had to, she decided that she could never forgive him for 'messing up her life.'.

when non-dub was down on his luck, mrs po lets him live in a room in her house.

very untypical behavior for a dub.. srlb 'personally disfellowships' mrs po, i guess you can be shunned even if you are in 'good standing', and the wife of the po at that!.

unique1

Jesus!!! when people get sick or die, for some reason family goes crazy. I have witnessed it many times but have never truly understood it. You have my sympathy.

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A Life Foreshortened

by youcanhaveago in

all my life i have subjugated myself to the beliefs of this religion.. i've had enough .. .

i am a free man god loves me.. .

i will be happy .. .

unique1

Now if only I could believe that for myself. I am glad you have come to that conclusion so quickly. Enjoy.

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broken hearted

by crazy in

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before i go any further i have to confess that i am a non-jw.

i hope you all don't mind too much.

i am very much in love with an ex-jw but i think i have screwed up big time and lost him.

unique1

He should get joint custody if at all possible then leave that life behind but not his daughter. He may not be able to control what she does when she is with mommy but he can show her the other side of things: birthday parties, school dances, etc. That way when she is an adult she can make a balanced decision as to her religious choices.

Welcome to the board.

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The Candy Jar

by reneeisorym in

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i thought i would ask for advice after reading the post about the common refridgerator.. i have a candy jar on my desk.

for a while i would put candy in it especially around holidays.

now why can't he buy his own candy?

unique1

What I used to do when I had the same proble was the following. Most people won't do that with starlight mints/butterscotch/cinnamon discs, etc. I would buy several bags of those for $.50 a piece and fill the bowl with it. Then I would keep the chocolate in my drawer and only put out 2 pieces at a time. Once they were gone, I would put two more out an hour or so later. This would allow everyone in the office to at the very least get 1 piece of chocolate. Plus the people that knew the one guy would take it all, also knew I hid it and if there was none out, they would simply ask for a piece which I would happily give them. If he takes tons of hard candy home to his kids then they won't like it as much.

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listened to my baptism speech recording the first time after 11 years

by Marcel in

while posting yesterday i remembered the recording of my baptism talk i own.

i want to share the story with you: .

i was baptized on a circuit assembly in 1996. my sister gave me the recording on a tape the very next day as a gift (cute, uh?).

unique1

Yeah we was too poor for a video camera in 1990 so I just have pics but I see people with cam corders all the time now.

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listened to my baptism speech recording the first time after 11 years

by Marcel in

while posting yesterday i remembered the recording of my baptism talk i own.

i want to share the story with you: .

i was baptized on a circuit assembly in 1996. my sister gave me the recording on a tape the very next day as a gift (cute, uh?).

unique1

I felt guilty for many years for the same reason. When I got older and found out it was normal for people to do that and in fact nearly everyone had, I was really weirded out. It was like a huge weight had been lifted. I feel your pain.

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