Posts by DarkWolf

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Back from the Memorial

by ScoobySnax in

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well like i say, just got back from the memorial, have been going most years, but this year i went by chance (knew it was roughly at 7pm at the nearest kh) to my old congregation that i grew up in.

i didn't find the "evil" people spoke of here on this forum, or those too stupid to see.

all i did see was people i hadn't seen in years, and let me tell you, what lovely people they were.

I didnt' go to the memorial. An elders wife told me at last years memorial that if I didn't bother coming to the other meetings, what was the point in coming to the memorial. I decided she was right, so I won't go back.

I had pretty much decided that on my own last year anyway. As I sat there listing to the stuff about eating jesus body, drinking his blood, the little flock that would acend into heaven, etc, It occurred to me that it all sounds a bit too much like something out of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. And not the good bits either.

There were alot of loving people at last years memorial, but there were just as many who turned their back on me. I'm not D/A'd or D/F'd, but my best friend is D/F'd, and that is as good as the same thing. Anyway, I'm happy for anyone who had a good experience. I don't think I ever had a good one that wasn't overshadowed by a bad one

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Do You Remember the Day of Your Baptism?

by minimus in

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your baptism date is supposed to be the most important time of your life.

i was 9 years old when i took the plunge.

i remember my baptism, mostly because, i was baptized twice.

DarkWolf

If I could go back and take it back I would do it in a heartbeat.

No Kidding. I was 16 years old, and kept waiting until I felt it was the right time. I was starting to have friends who's parents wouldn't allow them to talk to me anymore because I wasn't baptised yet. My mother hit me with "you know you can't get married until you've been baptised at least a year" and you know thats all a sister really has to look forward to. But the kicker was my dad promising to buy me a car if I got baptised, so I could pioneer of course. So, It became the right time.

I was baptised by a brother who I had looked up to all my life, and that the was the best part of it. I got no presents, my family didn't make a big deal out of it, and I felt pretty rotten about the whole thing. My D/A sister had tried to warn me before hand. She told me that once I got baptised, they would have a say so in everyhting I did from that day on, but I wanted that car, so I didn't listen.

Later, even the one happy thing about that day was ruined when I learned that the afore mentioned brother had been caught for having sex with the wives of his bible studies. He was never disfellowshipped though, and is still an elder. Go figure.

BTW, I didn't mean to highlight this whole post and I can't figure out how to make it go away. Sorry if I gave anyone a headache.

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Do You Consider Yourself A Stronger Person Since Your Eyes Have Opened?

by minimus in

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since you've learned the truth about the "truth", do you feel emotionally, mentally and spiritually stronger?

DarkWolf

I'm surprised that some feel more spiritual. I was expecting less spiritual as an answer because of some expressing a lack or loss of faith or because of feeling less "religious".

I definitely went through a period where I had lost faith in everything after I quit, but that lasted about a year, and now I've found a much more refreshing form of spirituality. As far as being stronger, I have definitly become a stronger person, but you have to be stronger to put up with the harrassment when you quit. I stopped going to meetings nearly four years ago, but I only admitted to myself that I no longer believed any of it about two years ago. Since then I've gone up and down with it, its so hard to let go of something thats been pounded into your head since you were a baby. But there's been a definite improvement in my life.

The hardest thing is having family that is still in. I moved 1200 miles away from my home town, partially to get away from harrassment by the elders, only to have my sister call the local congregation and give them my address so that they could "encourage me to go to the memorial."

Back to the world going to hell in a hand basket, it is so frustrating that while my husband has also quit going and agrees with most of my reasons, he still keeps jumping back to "well, that is a fullfillment of prophesy." I'm like get a grip, they have a prophesy for everything! But he just can't let go yet.

Sorry for the rant, but I havn't had anyone to talk to about this in, well, ever.

DarkWolf

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Was There Ever A Circuit Overseer That You Couldn't Stand?

by minimus in

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i know this has been discussed before but i think a fresh thread on this will be enjoyable.

DarkWolf

There was one, I can't remember his name (I can't remember any of their names) who gave a special talk on how television was degenerating. He said we shouldn't watch Crocidile Hunter because he said Crikey all the time, and for all we knew that was an Austrailian curse word. He also advised my husbands brother and his wife to throw my 14 year old nephew out of the house because he was a bad influence on their four younger children. All he had done was grow his hair long and start playing electric guitar.