Savage & Englishman - Well said.
It comes back to trust in the partner and the integrity of the relationship. Each person brings something different to the relationship. But, there must always be honesty. It's vital. No one wants to be side-swiped. If there is honesty and trust as a foundation, people can work through any issues that come to the forefront. I'm not saying that you have to tell about every encounter you've ever had since you drew your first breath. I'm saying you have to be honest about what will or may impact the relationship. If you start from day one with a commitment to each other to be honest in the relationship, then it stands a fair chance of growing and lasting.
I can deal with just about anything, if you're honest with me. It's when you lie to me and I find out the truth later...how can I ever trust you again? Chances are I can't. Why should I?
doodle -
I know it wasn't easy for you to tell him everything. But that sense of relief you feel right now is a powerful and wonderful thing. Hold on to it, hon ..and hold on to him. You two are quite a lucky couple.
Lisa / Arrowstar