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  Where do you look?

  by caligirl in

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  do you primarily reply to threads from the active topics list when you log on, or do you take the time to check out the other sections as well?

  just curious!

  most of the time i tend to stick to the topics that are already on the active list, which i admit might be short changing perfectly good topics that havn't made it to the top pages.

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  breal

  Mostly active topics but I tend to click back a few pages and read until I start to see the original post date is well prior to todays date.
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  Personality Types

  by breal in

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  recently i have run into a few people that wanted to discuss this topic.

  i believe i am a type a or driver personality although i know it goes alot deeper than this but confused as i took two tests and came out as esfj and isfj.

  imho and based on human nature i have felt that people tend to romantisize there own perceived personality type.. i am interested in this from the standpoint that perhaps what we perceive as our personality type may not be how we come accross to others?!

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  Recently I have run into a few people that wanted to discuss this topic. I believe I am a type A or Driver personality although I know it goes alot deeper than this but confused as I took two tests and came out as ESFJ and ISFJ. IMHO and based on human nature I have felt that people tend to romantisize there own perceived personality type.

  I am interested in this from the standpoint that perhaps what we perceive as our personality type may not be how we come accross to others?! Has anyone experienced this? For example two people recently called me a romantic and I have always felt myself to be more of a realist.... Or perhaps our generalization of personality types causes us to automatically miss out on opportunities to relate to diverse or opposite personality types?

  I know of a person who considers themselves a thinker or introspective type - but this person comes accross as one with a barely concealed rage and very opinionated but attempting to control it with a distate for those who are not necessarily more opinionated but more comfortable expressing or discussing opinions. I think this person takes there self imposed personality type a little to far and tries to stifle natural diversions into other personality types tendancies that this one finds negative. One person seems to be passive aggressive and comes accross as believing that it is better to subtly or not so subtly be argumentative and then not stick around for the debate or discussion...and then blame it on the other individuals conversation style or personality type...

  I am interested in how our personalities change depending on the situation and the relationship with the one we are interacting as I believe these factors weigh heavily. Do you think that someones conversation style can be different than there personality type or is it all linked or situation dependant?

  I searched and found some good links posted in the past but does anyone also know of any good books on this? Are there personality types that just do not mix? As it seems there are certain personality traits/types that I cannot stand and others I am drawn too. However there are even exceptions to those generalizations.
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  Political Compass Test

  by Aztec in

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  i'm sure this has been posted before but i really enjoyed it.. http://www.digitalronin.f2s.com/politicalcompass/questionnaire.pl?page=1.

  i think like the dalai lama...lol!

  economic left/right: -3.62. authoritarian/libertarian: -5.33.

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  My results put me in between Nelson Mandela & John Cretien. Gives me some ideas for reading materials as I have never followed or thought about politics to much.

  Your political compass

  Economic Left/Right: -3.25
  Authoritarian/Libertarian: -1.95
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  My Letter to the Elders in My Late Father's Congregation

  by cruzanheart in

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  well, guys, here it is.

  it's going in the mail tomorrow.

  it's for me but, dad, it's also for you.

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  While lurking there were a few posters & replies that drew me to this site over others - yours and your husbands especially stood out and the replies you both have made to my few posts have touched me deeply and I wanted to thank you both for your kind words.

  I am not very good with words of sympathy or comfort as many on this forum are & by the time I read most things so many views have been expressed I feel silly & repetative but your letter is so heartfelt and all I can say is that even with all the pain and heartache you and yours have experienced it speaks volumes that the love and caring you both possess still come through on each and every post you make.

  BReal
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  Do you have a friend you would like to get out from the WTS?

  by freedom96 in

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  i have faded out.

  i still have just a handful of friends that are still involved, and we just don't talk about religion.

  they have no idea what i really think about it all.

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  Many years ago I thought of the people I missed due to being DF'd after leaving the "truth", however since I did not leave for doctrinal reasons so much as emotional ones I never really thought about trying to get anyone "out". I wanted to have them experience the positive changes that happenned in life after I left but hoped they would find happiness with there choice to stay as JW's.

  Now time has passed my sibling has left, and apparantly other people I know are questioning things... after so many years I find it hard to discuss the org or JW's with them - maybe because I did not discuss my thoughts about it when I left but also because there is a bit of resentment for them having shunned me for so long and now it is another thing that divides.

  I have been enlighted by others posts here about many things so perhaps my opinion of the "org" is changing but for the past 10-12 years I simply wished that the organization was really voluntary - ok to join and ok to leave -no shunning.
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  My DF'd Niece Wasn't Reinstated Because She Talked To Me, My Daughter& Mom

  by minimus in

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  she met last night with her elders.

  she wasn't reinstated again.

  (it's been a few yrs).

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  That is horrible - not only the betrayel of keeping someone else's letter, but then to try to trick her with questions that they think they already have answers to. Then to keep her in limbo for another week while they officially "decide" - not very loving on there part. I wonder if they realize what a horrible "witness" this gives to others, like her "wordly" spouse who must be outraged by how they are treating her. So often the elders contradict themselves - needing 2 witnesses on one hand for serious unlawful offences but then basing decisions on hearsay when someone like your niece is trying to be reinstated.

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  So I quit smoking today..

  by Aztec in

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  ...and i'm feeling pretty good right now.

  i quit, cold turkey, this morning.

  it's been almost 24 hours since my last cigarette.

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  My two favorite replacements were licorice and straws. I cut up straws into cig sizes and played with them, chewed on them etc. Paperclips and elastics are good to have around too as anything to keep the hands busy helps. Good Luck with this. For me the first day, 3rd week and 6th week were always the toughest! (Can you tell I have quit several times - for 6-9 months each time)
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  Shunned? You are better off....

  by DJ in

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  i have to tell you that if you are currently shunned, although it may be painful....you are actually better off imo.

  having had it both ways now, i am convinced that it was less painful than being halfway accepted (as i am now because my dad is sick).

  my conscience is clear and it feels so good but at the same time i am in more pain than when i was shunned.

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  ((DJ))

  Hang in there! I know it is not much comfort but know that you are doing the right thing by trying to be supportive of your dad while the rest of the family are wasting precious time with gossip and creating problems where none need to be. It can be very hard to be the better person especially in the situation where shunning is done as a matter of convenience by some but do your best to ignore there hurtful ways and realize that you are helping out because of the good person you are and because you love and respect your dad.
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  Why On Earth Did You Ever Become A Witness & What Made You Decide To Leave?

  by minimus in

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  i've known for years that if i was visited at my home by jehovah's witnesses, i would have become a do not call.

  i would have firmly but politely told the witnesses to never come back to my door and bother me again.

  since i was raised "in the truth", i learned the religion from infancy.

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  Raised in it. Saw too many people that were nasty, political, unhappy, bitter, vengeful, and judgemental despite there claim to belong to/have the "truth" and they were living contrary to this "way of life" they preached about. From what I saw being a JW had little to do with one’s relationship with God or spirituality but rather it was about the Organization, power & politics. Discovered that it was not the right religion for me and that I can be a good person despite not belonging to any religion.
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  Classic TV

  by teejay in

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  when it comes to tv, every generation since the fifties thinks theirs had the best tv shows.

  while america has fallen in love with "reality" tv shows like survivor and american idol, i've been thinking about how much better the shows were when i was coming up....

  classic westerns like rawhide, gunsmoke, guns of will sonnet, bonanza, have gun will travel, the big valley, high chapparral, and wagon train.

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  Loved the Fugative and the Avengers.

  Now I watch Y&R - silly but it makes me laugh after work. For reality TV shows my favorite is the Amazing Race. I have great respect for there ability to nagivate through strange and exotic places on a deadline and with little or no knowledge of local customs etc. Plus the team dynamics and diversity of the teams is entertaining.