Posts by breal

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Canuck Members: Check this out (Turks & Caicos Islands)

by RAYZORBLADE in

ok.....check this out.. it's nothing new, but you have to admit, wouldn't it be nice if we could go somewheres way down south that we could call our own?.

well wonder no more.. check this out: http://www.aplaceinthesun.ca.

the possibilities, once again for the islands of the turks & caicos as part of canada, has resurfaced, but this time, it could happen.. before: most southerly island in canada .

Significant Others/Family

by breal in

when i was df'd i had some relatives that i was not close to that were never jw's.

the remainder were jw's.

now i am married to someone whose only religious experience is sunday school.

breal

I didn't notice the remainder of my post was missing before I signed off last night....

I was going to say that for me when I was first DF'd there were a number of good friends from school/work and there families that supported and encouraged me. And now since my husband and his family were never part of the religion they have filled some of the void.

What was it or who was it that encouraged you on your journey away from the JW's?

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why do you post?

by SpiceItUp in

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seems its been awhile since we had one of these questions go round so i figured with all the newbies lately we shuld get a new one going.

i get to do it cause well umm errr..... i've been here for over a year (and yes noone noticed *sniff* *sniff* but thats ok).

soooo without further ado on to the question at hand..... why do you post here?.

breal

After a long time of not discussing my experience I found this forum where people are able to speak there mind and heart without having to explain all the little rules to others since they experienced something similar. I did not realize how much it still affected me.

Also I learn a lot from other posters. Sometimes I don't reply since so many people have already expressed my opinions but it makes me think about things I would not have had it not been for reading this forum.

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How many of you were disfellowshipped?

by Oxnard Hamster in

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friends

just curious.

i get the impression from reading posts that a great deal are.

i also noticed while i was studying with them that virtually everybody has/had a relative that was disfellowshipped or knew someone who is/was.

breal

DF'd. Still not sure what the actual reason was.

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Do You Feel That Your Parents "Did a Good Job" Raising You?

by minimus in

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friends

being raised a witness, my mother has asked me whether or not i held her responsible for her bringing me up in the way that she has.

i feel that my upbringing is something my mother can be proud about.

even though i do not believe in the "truth", i do feel that she did a good job of raising us.

breal

I think they did the best they knew how to. However I also believe that since there are tests or courses for other things like work, getting a drivers license etc there should also be a mandatory one for people before they are allowed to have children.

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If you have or will have children...

by breal in

what would you teach them with regards to religion, spirituality, god?

i often wonder about this since i don't have any "beliefs" now or belong to any religous group.

(sphere's thread got me thinking again) what if your children wanted to become a dub?

breal

Thanx for all the input and replies.

Latte – I agree about spirituality vs. religion. I hope I will be able to instill some good basic values in our children. I guess it is simply getting used to viewing the two separately.

I love that quote Scully.

Running Man - What a wonderful way to look at the Bible.

Little Witch – your kids are fortunate that you are so open to them exploring this on there own.

Spice – Yeah one cannot predict the future. Perhaps I should look at getting more comfortable with what I believe so if the need arises I can explain it to someone else.

Free – I don’t think you robbed your kids of anything by not having them baptized. I firmly believe that any baptism should take place once a person is old enough to have weighed all options without it being decided for them. Sounds like your kids turned out great.

Amen – Kids do tend to know what they like and don’t like. However I have seen posts where DF’d ones JW families attempted to pressure/impose there JW beliefs on the no-longer-a–believers children. (Not that I think any of my JW relatives would) but it makes me think…

Since most of you have experience I guess it is simply another part of raising kids where you do the best you can with what you have/know. It is interesting to see that other people's kids have attended Sunday School. I always worried that the Sunday School's were a part of the churches.

Brummie when your kids went to Sunday School was there pressure for your family to join any church?

BReal

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WHAT IS YOUR PET PEVE?

by kls in

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friends

what is it that really irritates you ,i mean the most annoying ,thing that when you see it or hear it you just clench your teeth,we all have them so let's hear yours.mine is religious boasting.there is this home builder that advertises on tv and says his crap then says we are a christien company.oh yes , because he said that i would trust him more then anyone else,he must have higher standards.

(ya right).or those people who advertise with bumper stickers of their religion,and yes the freaking door bell ringers trying to push their crap on me.isn't it what you feel inside?why advertise to everyone?does it make you feel more important or more religious?because of the attempt to show me that you have faith does not make me feel i could trust you.

this is just one of my irritants and hope not do offend,everyone has the right.

breal

Bad Drivers…. Apparently turn signals are an option on the cars they sell in BC.

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What turns you OFF?

by logansrun in

a couple days ago minimus asked the question (anyone notice he's always asking questions?

me: snobbery, ignorance, flourescent lighting and hands that are shedding innocent blood.

bradley

breal

Condescending people

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Significant Others/Family

by breal in

when i was df'd i had some relatives that i was not close to that were never jw's.

the remainder were jw's.

now i am married to someone whose only religious experience is sunday school.

breal

When I was DF'd I had some relatives that I was not close to that were never JW's. The remainder were JW's. Now I am married to someone whose only religious experience is Sunday School. Since he came into my life many years after being DF'd it was not a big conversation although at times has been discussed due to trying to explain the beliefs, religion due to events like our wedding and why certain people would be absent etc. I find the extreme extent of JW shunning to be one of the most difficult things to explain to a non dub.

However I know a person who is inactive but has a spouse and child still active JW's. I also see on this board there are people whose significant other was a JW as well.

From your experience does it make it easier to have a spouse or family member who can relate? Or does it make any difference at all? What about the person who was not raised a JW but joined and then left or was DF'd on there own? Or perhaps it is equally but differently difficult for those who have family who still remain while they leave (ie: spouse/children)? Does it make any difference if you leave when younger or older? Or is it pretty much just a journey no matter what?

I for one am so thankful my hubby never had to experience the sting of this shunning or any of the other negativity related with the JW's. For the most part I think it doesn't really matter in our relationship since our experiences in life (even non -religious) are so varied anyway... I do however believe that being DF'd in my teens and having to experience this has changed me. Not to say that being shunned would be any easier at a later stage in life...but perhaps for me it may have been as I think at the point in my life when it happened I was still looking for acceptance and my place in my life, family etc. That being said...I firmly believe most things happen for a reason and every event in my life led me to this wonderful place I now call home.

BReal

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If you have or will have children...

by breal in

what would you teach them with regards to religion, spirituality, god?

i often wonder about this since i don't have any "beliefs" now or belong to any religous group.

(sphere's thread got me thinking again) what if your children wanted to become a dub?

breal

What would you teach them with regards to religion, spirituality, God? I often wonder about this since I don't have any "beliefs" now or belong to any religous group. (Sphere's thread got me thinking again) What if your children wanted to become a dub?