I think lots of stuff went on behind closed doors... Sometimes it can be better that way for those involved if they prefer to keep things private. However other times it was shocking to sit there in a meeting and listen to an announcement of someone having been reproved publicly/df?d. The truly sad part is that sometimes things happened in a hall and no one ever really knew the truth about what went on and then the announcements of reproof, da or df?ing just lead to all sorts of speculation and nasty rumors. Sometimes I wish that back then I knew what I do now as I would have da?d myself in true ?BReal? form instead of allowing them to df me.
Posts by breal
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18The things that went on...
by shamus inthe things that went on behind closed doors in kindumb halls appalls me.
i just can't even put into words the things that i have found out over the years... how horribly elders treated people, how everything was kept secret... .
it disgusts me.
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Warning! Sappy Thread
by xjw_b12 init's autumn, and this is thanksgiving weekend in canada.. i'd thought i'd take a moment out to reflect on what i am thankful for, and ask, what are you thankful for?.
this is my favourite time of year.
crisp, fresh air.
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breal
I am thankful for good health, a happy home, and wonderful friends and family.
Oh...and that my mother in law is making turkey dinner cuz she is an excellent cook!
Happy Thanksgiving Weekend to all the Canadians!
Cheers,
BReal
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Charities
by noidea ini am employed with the federal government and we are a new branch so we are in the midst of setting up donations for charity to be donated through our paychecks.
anyway, i volunteered to be a coordinator for the cfc (combined federal campaign) in which i was encouraging people to give some out of their paycheck to a charity of their choice..i have to admit i had flashbacks of being in field service while doing this..lol
i will say that i asked a few jw's that worked there and they didn't give *knows where their money goes.
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breal
We have the same set up at our office. There is a huge list of charities that one can donate to. There is a way for employees to add various charitable organizations if one they prefer to donate to is not on the list. The list does include the Kingdom Halls of JW's. That way if the JW employees donate the company matches there donation and the organization gets double the money.
Edited to add... yep I donate. Either to Cancer, Parkinsons Disease or to the SPCA from work. Also to various childrens hospitals where I donate my time.
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breal
Score of 20
You're as cool as cucumber. Even in touchy situations that could spark a theatrical reaction in most people, you seem to stay calm and composed. This likely stems from a rational, logical approach to life. Either that or you are just able to keep a lid on your emotions, even when you're flipping out on the inside. You are generally able to maintain perspective and see the big picture, even when the worse appears to be true. You know that freaking out before you really know what's going on results in the whole "mountains out of molehills" scenario. This is a healthy approach that allows you to cope well with most of life's trials, big and small. As long as you are not blindly optimistic to the point that you ignore trouble, you're coping very well.
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If Your Child or Friend Told You They Were Gay, Would You Be Disturbed?
by minimus inas a jehovah's witness, you know that you cannot practice homosexuality.
it's considered a sin.
if your friend or relative revealed that they were gay, you would be obligated to "report" them to the elders.
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breal
No children yet.
Several friends that are gay....several friends that are straight. They are all awsome!
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You're Going To Get A Whippin' !!!
by Perry infor those who were raised/born in the truth: .
1. were you ever beaten as a child?
and, i mean where the parent really crossed the line, not just spanking.
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1. Beaten no - but disciplined with extremely unnecessary force either with hand, belt, or other object - yes. I still have a scar the welts a brutal spanking left. If someone did something wrong at my dad's and no one would fess up, he would line us kid up (except of course for his precious first born) and rotation spank us until someone admitted to it. (most of the time admitting to it just to stop the spanking). My mother had a fierce temper and seemed to lose touch with reality when disciplining.
2. Stopped when I moved out.
3. Even if they were not JW's they still would have had temper and self control issues.
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Devil's Playground
by kyria inhas anyone seen the documentary "devil's playground"?
i highly recommend it.
it's about the amish custom of rumspringa, in which children are allowed total freedom for one year when they turn 16. unprepared for the real world, they have a year of debauchery and end up in all kinds of trouble (anybody remember that old jw parable about pulling a rubber band so tightly that when you finally let go it flies across the room?
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Oprah had the lady that made the documentary on her show a while back I believe. Only saw part of it but watching it made me think of the JW's as well. Especially since from what I gathered the kids are made to choose between the "world" and there families?? Perhaps this was not the impression left if one watched the whole documentary?
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To those who were DFd
by stillajwexelder inthose of you on this board who were given the big d -- how did you actually feel at the moment the chairman of the jc that dfd you said those words -- angry -upset -toatl relief -- yipee?
again sorry if there has been a post on this subject before --but an update for us newer ones never does any harm
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breal
They never told me they were DF'ing me. Said they would talk with me again soon. Apparantly my DFing was announced shortly thereafter...
I was sad because of the "shunning by family & friends". I was embarrased cuz I would have prefered to DA myself and my DF'ing was looked at as inevitable by some family members who were very self righteous and never very supportive while I was in the religion anway.
At the same time there was a huge sense of relief. No longer would it be inferred or would I feel that I am "not good enough". I could instead focus on my friendships that were healthy and positive. Plus it was the first time I could really be me - cuz before I had spent so much time trying to make other people happy and impress them...and for the first time it was all about me.
Plus a little scared...cuz I was still in High School
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First Christmas
by yxl1 inwhen we first left the dubs, we celebrated x-mas pretty much straight away, but had no decorations or tree, and only gave gifts to each other.
for some reason it just seemed wrong to put up decorations and we continued to celebrate this way for about 5 years.
we decided to put up decorations when it was my daughters 1st x-mas, and have never looked back.
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breal
Christmas is one of my favourite holidays. The first year out I celebrated with a non-JW family & became hooked. Around December 1st our house now looks like the holiday threw up in it and our Christmas tree stays up forever. One year I had my tree until mid February and it became a fire hazard. Christmas decorations everywhere. Love the lights, trees & traditions. Went to the singing christmas tree a few times but found it too religious. We go each year to one of the special gardens or the zoo where they have sleigh rides, trains, and major christmas light displays...Drink hot chocolate and take a new friend each year.
Now we have a tradition to have a turkey dinner either Christmas eve or Boxing day each year to invite all the other friends who don't have family in the city to spend the holidays as a big group. Lots of fun!
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Guide when calling consumer response numbers
by berylblue inbecause of being told i need to be a robot at work, and not so "pro-consumer", not so focused on the caller, not so emotionally invovled...i post the following in case you ever need to call a consumer resonse line.
if you have a heart, here are some guidelines:.
don't make obscene calls.
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breal
OMG! I must say that after a rather horrible day at work you made me LOL!!
Thanx! That was halarious! Great post!