Posts by larrynbabies

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Labeling - generalizations - my struggle today

by Billygoat in

jw
friends

why is there a basic human need to categorize people?

one is a jw or not.

athiest, agnostic, christian, or wiccan.

larrynbabies

I need to apologize to you then because I, in my ignorance, have made reference to JW's and such in my writtings. I must say though on a personal level it was mainly out of frustration and anger tword's the organization and people who have hurt me, my babies and my deceased fiancee. I guess when you speak out of anger you are more likely to tread on other peoples feelings without realizing it.

I am sure this site is full of people who are at various stages of dealing with the world outside of the organization and it would be understandable for someone to feel like they themselves were being ridiculed or be-littled. I think that there are alot of people here that do have pain and anger so I guess it's understandable.

There should be as much compassion here as possible. I am saying this just after writng a an update in my own posting and I was anything but compassionate towards my deceased fiancee's mother, but again, there are alot of negative feelings to be accounted for.

Again, for myself, I apologize

Larry

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fiancee committed scuicide jw parents trying to steal my babies

by larrynbabies in

my fiancee died on feb24 she was suffering from years of abuse by her alchoholic jw parents.

she first tried to commit scuicide when she was 12 then 2 more times at 16. when she was 15 she snuck out to go to a party when she was raped she was too afraid to tell her parents.

the very next day her jw brother in law molested her.

larrynbabies

Well the trail is getting close and we had depositions on thurs. I cant believe some of the crap that came out of megans mothers mouth. I seriously think she is freaking mentaly retarded. She was caught lying numerous times and any credibility she had before the depo was destroyed. There were some very sad and embarrasing times for her I am glad to say. My lawyer had asked her about the molestation of Megan by her brother in law a JW and she had stated that she didn't know about it untill a year after the fact. Then she said that it wasn't a molestation but an inapropriate sexual advance. He then asked if she had knoweledge of the affair that the same JW bro in law had with her other daughter. She also said it wasn't a molestation but an inapropraite sexual advance. He then asked her how old were the girls when this had happened and she answered 15 and 16. Then he said has your son ever been molested and she said yes. Also a JW Then he asked did you notify the police and she answered no. Next he said Have you ever called the police on any of your children and she said yes on her son when he got angry and puched a hole in the wall. Then he said let me get this straight you call the police when your son gets mad and punches a hole in the wall but you dont when your children get molested and she said yes.

Well it was like a bomb going off in the room. There were many more embarrasing moments for her too many to mention here. She lied about Megans attempted suicides and her sisters attempted suicides which are a matter of record. She lied about their drinking habits. She lied about having nervous breakdowns. The lawyer asked her why she kept looking at her husband when ever he asked her a question and she stated Aw because he's so cute. She is such a phoney lying Bitch and it was so obvious.

I only hope she does as badly during the trial. I know I don't have this battle won yet but it was encouraging to see her fall on her lying face. The Gaurdian ad lietem was present for the depo and that too was a good thing. The only witnesses they have are members of thier congregation and they are having an overseer testify. Her sister is going to testify that when her brother and sisters were molested that they were instructed by the elders, one of which is testifying, advised not to call the police.

I will again, Keep you posted about what happens at the trial. I pray to god that the judge has the wisdom of Solomon and I get my babies back.

Larrynbabies

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What's your ideal scenario for the fall of the WTBTS?

by doodle-v in

i've seen a few posts where someone states that they want the org to "go to hell" or "burn in hell".

the org has always had a "likely" chain of events for the armegeddon, you know, babylon the great being destroyed and by the wild beast and the the wild beast turning on the witnesses, the start of the great tribulation, armegeddon, and then the thousand year reign (or something like that).

so... what would you like to see happen to the org?

larrynbabies

spontanious combustion. I have heard that this is very effective the problem is how do you make it work.

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fiancee committed scuicide jw parents trying to steal my babies

by larrynbabies in

my fiancee died on feb24 she was suffering from years of abuse by her alchoholic jw parents.

she first tried to commit scuicide when she was 12 then 2 more times at 16. when she was 15 she snuck out to go to a party when she was raped she was too afraid to tell her parents.

the very next day her jw brother in law molested her.

larrynbabies

I want to thak you lady lee

Now people can see her and the babies

I cant thak you enogh for that

I cry every time I see ythe picture of her and the babies it was a happy time and I miss her deeply

thanks again

Larry

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fiancee committed scuicide jw parents trying to steal my babies

by larrynbabies in

my fiancee died on feb24 she was suffering from years of abuse by her alchoholic jw parents.

she first tried to commit scuicide when she was 12 then 2 more times at 16. when she was 15 she snuck out to go to a party when she was raped she was too afraid to tell her parents.

the very next day her jw brother in law molested her.

larrynbabies

Or not here it is again I'm sure I will get the hang of this.

Just as an update I am having depositions day after tomorrow and I have been getting prepared. I will keep you all posted about what happens.

Try this link and you will be able to see what all the fuss is about.

www.msnusers.com/larrynbabies

larry

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fiancee committed scuicide jw parents trying to steal my babies

by larrynbabies in

my fiancee died on feb24 she was suffering from years of abuse by her alchoholic jw parents.

she first tried to commit scuicide when she was 12 then 2 more times at 16. when she was 15 she snuck out to go to a party when she was raped she was too afraid to tell her parents.

the very next day her jw brother in law molested her.

larrynbabies

I know I stated earlier that I would try and put a face to all of this and I think I finally figured out how

www.msnusers.com/larrynbabies

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fiancee committed scuicide jw parents trying to steal my babies

by larrynbabies in

my fiancee died on feb24 she was suffering from years of abuse by her alchoholic jw parents.

she first tried to commit scuicide when she was 12 then 2 more times at 16. when she was 15 she snuck out to go to a party when she was raped she was too afraid to tell her parents.

the very next day her jw brother in law molested her.

larrynbabies

Thank you I saw the Guardian Ad lietem or G. A. L. yesterday and I think the metting went well I had an opportunity to explain the situation with him and he seemed very receptive. I told him everything about the situation and he had an opportunity to meet with evryone concerned. He will be attending the depositions on the 5th of june. Things are moving ahead and getting closer to the trial date on the 11th and 12th. I am getting along and the days are getting a little easier to deal with. I still have along way to go. I am contemplating sueing Megans parents due to the fact they gained custody of my children so deceptively. I am so upset at what they have done. I don't want to be vindictive but they really have gone over the line. I guess time will tell.

Larry

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question: scuicide and mental illness

by larrynbabies in

i am wondering if thier have been any recent studies done regarding a higher incident of scuicide and mental illness in the jw community

larrynbabies

Lyin Wouln'd that be nice if by somehow sharing our stories we could possibly reach out to someone who would have otherwise taken Megans path. If not for anything but to realize the true impact that scuicide has on evryone espeacially the people who they are closest to. I have seen that about a thousand people have viewed this topic and if even one of them perhaps held back from making the decision to end thier life I think that it would be nice.

I know that by posting here it has helped ne alot.

Larry

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fiancee committed scuicide jw parents trying to steal my babies

by larrynbabies in

my fiancee died on feb24 she was suffering from years of abuse by her alchoholic jw parents.

she first tried to commit scuicide when she was 12 then 2 more times at 16. when she was 15 she snuck out to go to a party when she was raped she was too afraid to tell her parents.

the very next day her jw brother in law molested her.

larrynbabies

I am sitting here preparing for the depositions that we have to do before the trial on the 11th and 12th of june. I have read quite alot about the subject of custody cases. I am thankful that the judge has allowed two days on his docket for my case. There are alot of issues I hope to address with the court hopefully he will allow testimony with regard to the impact of the jw influence on raising children. It is my belief that one of a parents primary responsabilities is to be there to help build a childs self esteem and to promote social interaction. Not to belittle and reprove a child to adhear to a lifestyle that goes against reality. I think that megan was in a no win situation if you try and guide a child through adolecence using guilt and fear as a tool you will destroy that person. I do not want my children subjected to that form of abuse.

I am going through counseling and I am going through a series of highs and lows that seem pretty extream.I have these times like today when I was cycling through the caller ID machine and I saw the calls that came in the day megan died and I just broke down I can't help it. I will be cleaning the kitchen or doing something that reminds me of megan and I break down. I can;t seem to get away from it her presence is all around me and it just seems to remind me of the loss. I miss her so much. All I want is to be with her and I know that I can't. This pain sucks at times it seems too much to handle. I somehow make it through the day I know things are not as bad as they were three months ago but it still seems to control my life.

Larry

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question: scuicide and mental illness

by larrynbabies in

i am wondering if thier have been any recent studies done regarding a higher incident of scuicide and mental illness in the jw community

larrynbabies

Initially when I first started this post I was trying to 1st get some type of understanding about how having lived in the Jehovah Witness culture has impacted thier members in the way it had impacted Megan. 2nd I was trying to build some type of case against Megans parents to help me fight my custody battle. I have come to the realazation that There are many Megans out their and also there are alot of people like me out there too. I am living day to day with the loss of my Megan. This pain has driven me to the brink of destruction only to have my prayers answered by god in the most unexpected ways. I have seen people respond and reach out to one another in ways I had not even considered. I have felt the empathy of people who have truely stood in my shoes and It is more than appreciated. I would hope that this form does not fade away

I cry every time I visit this section of your and I guess I can say now even though I have never been a witness, Our web site. They say tears are a way to clens the soul (god I wish this thing had a spell checker) Lyin I feel your pain and loss every one who has sincerly posted here I thank them for it. I will not use any of this in my endevour to gain my childrens custody these stories I feel are sacred and meant only for healing. As they are helping to heal me.

The day megan died I was writing a poem. The reason I initally wrote this poem was to thank megan's aunt peggy and uncle danny for them always being there for megan and myself and our children. I had just finished the poem and called home to read it to megan when I discovered from my son that megan had left a note on the table and he did not know where she was although her car was in the driveway.

Family and friends a gift from God

Always, understanding

With an approving nod

A warm smile always there

Given from people who truly care

Our kids we worry and fret about

Oh how funny to hear Chris shout

Kenny a joy beyond all belief

Allen learning something, "what a relief"

In times of trouble and despair

You’re the ones who are always there

To give us shelter and relief

To somehow lessen the grief

A hand to hold

Before we fall

These, things are precious

To us all

Megan, Larry, Allen, Christopher, Kenny